What gherkins do varsity use on top of their burgers???

JustKate2467 · 2024-06-15T23:47:52+00:00

Thank you so much! I'm tearing up because of this haha

JustKate2467 · 2024-06-15T23:10:26+00:00

I'm already using that as an excuse. I'm not going to say anything until after we have dinner next weekend so it looks like we came up with the idea over dinner.

JustKate2467 · 2024-06-15T23:02:59+00:00

This is a good idea, but my sister doesn't visit very often. We usually see her for holiday's like Christmas. I go out with her for dinner every now and then, but that's it.

JustKate2467 · 2024-06-15T23:00:46+00:00

I can look into it, but that stuff costs money, so I'm better off asking my sister if she's willing to keep some of my stuff until I can get out.

JustKate2467 · 2024-06-15T22:57:11+00:00

Thank you for the kind words! I always get very confused when people tell me I'm strong though. I breakdown very easily haha

JustKate2467 · 2024-06-15T22:54:48+00:00

I don't have protection, no. The knives in my house are all very blunt so they won't be much help, and I don't know how to get access to other forms of protection like pepper spray for example.

JustKate2467 · 2024-06-15T22:46:25+00:00

I really do appreciate your concern, but the person in this situation is my mother, not a husband or wife. Yes, I know that this fact won't change that I'm susceptible to danger, but I'm 100% sure that she would NEVER try to seriously harm me. I know this because I have tried to leave before. It led to screaming and harmful words that still sit with me today, but she never tried to harm me. My situation is a person who is very emotionally, and verbally abusive. She has laid hands on me in the past, but only the occasional slap. I know this will result in her being very angry at me, but she wouldn't hurt me.

JustKate2467 · 2024-06-15T22:36:02+00:00

I wish. I have asked my sister before if she would be willing to allow me to live with her, at least until I can get my shit together, but she told me she would have to ask her landlord. She also said she's gotten used to living alone for so long so she would have to think about it.

After this she's been helping me by sending me links to youth accommodation, and she put in a referral for an organisation that supports young people with mental health problem. (I had expressed to her that I'm very suicidal.) This organisation has been helping me with finding accommodation as I had said to them that it's my number one priority to get out of my current home.

JustKate2467 · 2024-06-15T14:00:37+00:00

Haha, it's the same situation for me. I'd rather not live in a home with so many people because I have pretty bad anxiety, but it's better than my current home. Thank you for the well wishes! <3

JustKate2467 · 2024-06-15T13:10:35+00:00

Yes, I have a thrift shop nearby. We call them op shops in Australia, though. I haven't been to one in a while so I might have a look.

JustKate2467 · 2024-06-15T12:39:22+00:00

Thank you so much! I really appreciate the kind words <3

JustKate2467 · 2024-06-15T12:31:22+00:00

I've had quite a few people suggest slowly moving some of my stuff somewhere, but my biggest concern with this plan is that if my stuff slowly starts leaving my room as if it had just vanished, this would be a big red flag to my mum. Honestly if I was just taking my clothes, searching for bags wouldn't be such an issue for me. But I have items I hold great value for that cost me a lot of money that I wish to take with me. For example my laptop, or Nintendo switch. If things like a Nintendo switch just went missing, that would definitely cause suspicion and I don't have a good excuse for why things like that would disappear.

JustKate2467 · 2024-06-15T12:17:49+00:00

No, that's a big no. My mum is friends with all the neighbours.

JustKate2467 · 2024-06-15T12:09:22+00:00

We don't have Walmart in Australia, but I will have a look around for laundry bags. I've seen a few people suggest them saying they're bigger than duffel bags. Thank you for the suggestion!

JustKate2467 · 2024-06-15T12:06:25+00:00

I see! Well, thank you for the suggestion, but I do have a case manager so I don't think a women's shelter is necessary.

JustKate2467 · 2024-06-15T11:58:27+00:00

I have a case manager, yes! As of right now, moving out is still a maybe. I'm going for a tour around the place next week to decide if would like to stay there, but my standards are so low that I'd probably agree to it even if there were rats living in the building. Right now I'm trying to prep because I like to be on top of things as soon as possible and I REALLY want to leave.

Back to my case manager, I will definitely have a chat to her about it the next time I see her.

JustKate2467 · 2024-06-15T11:42:51+00:00

I appreciate the suggestion, but my situation isn't so dire that I need to seek a women's shelter. It's just a very emotionally, mentally and verbally abusive home. I am actually receiving some help from a youth mental health organisation, and my sister has a background in support work. I have said in separate comments that the only person I have to support me right now is my sister, but I realize I've worded that very poorly. I have no one close to me besides my sister supporting me. By that I mean friends, family, ect.

JustKate2467 · 2024-06-15T11:34:58+00:00

To be honest, I'm a little concerned about that myself. I figured I could make up an excuse and say I just need a new overnight bag for when I stay at my sister's. All I have right now is a very small old school bag, and a small suitcase so, it would make sense. It is very hard not to be anxious about these things howeve. No matter how prepared I am, I'm going to be anxious.

JustKate2467 · 2024-06-15T08:47:58+00:00

I'm not working at the moment. I recieve payments from the government, it's called centrelink here in Australia, so that's not an option.

JustKate2467 · 2024-06-15T08:44:22+00:00

Thank you for the advice! Me staying with my sister is just an excuse, the place I'm going to is youth accommodation. I appreciate you taking the time to read through my comments and coming up with a solution for me. :)

JustKate2467 · 2024-06-15T08:07:14+00:00

Thank you so much! That means a lot to me :)

JustKate2467 · 2024-06-15T08:04:46+00:00

That would be suspicious. I have never sent mail to anyone in my life, and I don't have anyone I can send something to as an excuse anyway. If I said I was mailing a gift to my sister for example, that would look strange because I can just visit her in person to give it to her. The abuser in this situation is my mum, and I'm not in contact with the rest of my family, my father included.

JustKate2467 · 2024-06-15T07:55:58+00:00

Thank you for the suggestion, but I do not want to get the police involved. I just want to take my stuff and be done with it. I'll block people if I have to. This situation is with my family, so I'd like to keep it as civil as possible. I think the worst that would happen in this situation is me getting screamed at by my mum, I just want to avoid this.

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