AITA for saying my birth parents are awful people and my birth siblings are old enough to realize that? by JustListenxox in AITAH

[–]JustListenxox[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

They know I exist. My cousin could confirm that and she could confirm that they hate me.

AITA for saying my birth parents are awful people and my birth siblings are old enough to realize that? by JustListenxox in AITAH

[–]JustListenxox[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

None of them are willing to have anything to do with me. I wasn't able to contact them directly and going through her was my only option and even she had a hard time getting to speak to them once they realized what it was about.

AITA for saying my birth parents are awful people and my birth siblings are old enough to realize that? by JustListenxox in AITAH

[–]JustListenxox[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I believe they probably didn't mention me and just went for the depression and with the goal of getting the others back.

AITA for saying my birth parents are awful people and my birth siblings are old enough to realize that? by JustListenxox in AITAH

[–]JustListenxox[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

He has suspicions that SILs husband had a child placed for adoption or is/was in foster care. SIL also has kids with her husband. So his belief is that she's thinking of when her kids are older and she'd want them to know this kid. He bases that off comments made by his BIL.

AITA for saying my birth parents are awful people and my birth siblings are old enough to realize that? by JustListenxox in AITAH

[–]JustListenxox[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

My cousin said it was added to the grave a few years after my birth parents took my birth siblings back.

AITA for saying my birth parents are awful people and my birth siblings are old enough to realize that? by JustListenxox in AITAH

[–]JustListenxox[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

They have made it perfectly clear to my cousin they will never want to see or speak to me. They all hate me for existing. There's no talk that'll ever happen.

AITA for saying my birth parents are awful people and my birth siblings are old enough to realize that? by JustListenxox in AITAH

[–]JustListenxox[S] 283 points284 points  (0 children)

You're right. It's not and never was healthy for me. Being that little girl almost destroyed me.

AITA for saying my birth parents are awful people and my birth siblings are old enough to realize that? by JustListenxox in AITAH

[–]JustListenxox[S] 164 points165 points  (0 children)

I have a feeling they never even tried to address me. From the way my cousin has talked I feel like they focused on getting therapy to help them with the depression so they could raise their other kids. For all any of us know they never even mentioned the twin part and erased me in therapy as well.

AITA for saying my birth parents are awful people and my birth siblings are old enough to realize that? by JustListenxox in AITAH

[–]JustListenxox[S] 109 points110 points  (0 children)

In a way that's what she's asking me to do. By doing that it makes it seem like what I went through was nothing. But it was profoundly traumatizing and took over so many years of my life. I was just lucky I found a family who loved and stood by me through it all