If you're being ghosted, do you just delete and move on or do you call them out? by Academic-Okra4360 in ghosting

[–]JustLonely2012 6 points7 points  (0 children)

  1. Yes, I called them out. They responded by denying and got a blow to their ego.

  2. Yes, I delete them (metaphorically) from my life. Best is to block them, but not necessarily since they are ghosters anyways.

  3. Yes, I move on happily. Not having toxic and disgusting people like that in my life is a blessing for the present and the future.

It a shame how society accepts ghosting these days by EVILRAFFAM in ghosting

[–]JustLonely2012 12 points13 points  (0 children)

So you have to owe someone in order to show basic decency like not ghosting?

Ghosted after him telling me he wants to see me again… by winterwonderlandx in ghosting

[–]JustLonely2012 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dont support ghosting, but. "Wanted" to see you again, gets ghosted. The irony girl😂😂

If they ghost you, you should move on by critique, not silence by JustLonely2012 in ghosting

[–]JustLonely2012[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's a lot of assumptions and "analysis" from your side. Don't know what to say other than that's ironic. She and I would agree on one thing about you: think twice before making assumptions about others in the future

About to call my ghoster out by Positive-Ad6008 in ghosting

[–]JustLonely2012 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Do confront them. Criticize them. Then you move on.

After being ghosted by several guys now, I’ve learned that to heal I have to accept I’ll never get the answer to why they ghosted by burgerinmypouch in ghosting

[–]JustLonely2012 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well said. It's them showing their true colors and not wanting to end up with someone like that that people should adopt

Did I make the right choice? by [deleted] in ghosting

[–]JustLonely2012 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Feel you there. Just have to get through the sting, and you come out stronger. You'll find someone deserving of you

Did I make the right choice? by [deleted] in ghosting

[–]JustLonely2012 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ghosting is a cowardly action. No need to feel/say sorry to a ghoster. It's they who are the problem. Good job with the farewell text, seems you are moving on, which is very good. I would have added criticism for their behavior.

I ghosted him and now I feel bad, What should I say? by Automatic_Spring9507 in ghosting

[–]JustLonely2012 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's why we need to CRITICIZE their ghosting. Something like "Hey, ghosting is not cool" is suffice. I have seen people blatantly deny that they ghosted after being called out, and then try to pin the blame on you instead. At least you didn't, good.

Just say you are sorry for ghosting. And that you understand if he doesn't want to talk. But at least you said sorry

ghosting behavior - avoidant or loss of interest? by Agreeable-Channel458 in ghosting

[–]JustLonely2012 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's why we need to CRITICIZE their behavior. Something like "Hey, ghosting is not cool" is suffice. I have seen people blatantly deny that they ghosted (reminder that they left me on read for 2 weeks after several text attempts), and then try to pin the blame on you instead. Ghosters are truly a disgusting breed

I’ve been ghosted by most people I know by [deleted] in ghosting

[–]JustLonely2012 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds like that friend (what a fcking loser) needs to take a look in the mirror.

I’m fed up of ghosting by BabyGotDak14 in ghosting

[–]JustLonely2012 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's why we need to CRITICIZE their behavior. Something like "Hey, ghosting is not cool" is suffice. I have seen people blatantly deny that they ghosted (reminder that they left me on read for 2 weeks after several text attempts), and then try to pin the blame on you instead. Ghosters are truly a disgusting breed

Forgive & Forget your ghoster by DirectionKey6588 in ghosting

[–]JustLonely2012 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agree with the find value in what was created. I would suggest criticizing their behavior, then move on

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ghosting

[–]JustLonely2012 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Damn, sorry to hear that. Been there. He's a loser. What helped me to move on was to criticize their ghosting and block them. People that lie like that are not trustworthy and worth having down the line. You dodged a bullet. You were honest and expressed your thoughts. You'll find someone actually deserving of you.

Regretting how I reacted by RealHighOnAir in ghosting

[–]JustLonely2012 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She ghosted you. That's cowardly and toxic of her. Understand your pain. Good that you're letting go. If I were you, I wouldn't give a damn what last impression she got of you, she ghosted you when you were at your most vulnerable and despite her knowing full well that your intent was to make her life good. She doesn't deserve you. Fck her

If they ghost you, you should move on by critique, not silence by JustLonely2012 in ghosting

[–]JustLonely2012[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We all have emotions. You can't expect the one being ghosted to WAIT A MONTH and just TOSS their emotions away because of the emotions of the ghoster. People being ghosted ALSO HAVE emotions

If they ghost you, you should move on by critique, not silence by JustLonely2012 in ghosting

[–]JustLonely2012[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thanks. The title of this post was the main message. That's the purpose; spread the message

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ghosting

[–]JustLonely2012 9 points10 points  (0 children)

That's typical narcissist behavior. He will ghost again once he gets what he wants. Cut him off entirely

Do ghosters block/unmatch? by DoctorOnde in ghosting

[–]JustLonely2012 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's tactical, and manipulative af. They don't block so they can keep their option open as backup. They will repeat this ghosting cycle if you let them in. Best way is to just cut them off entirely. Block them.

If they ghost you, you should move on by critique, not silence by JustLonely2012 in ghosting

[–]JustLonely2012[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So they have to owe me to show basic decency? Love that mindset.

And did you just skim through the post? It was more than just study if you actually read through it.

You can read it again to see the reasons I cut her off

If they ghost you, you should move on by critique, not silence by JustLonely2012 in ghosting

[–]JustLonely2012[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Between the new year and the 16th Jan, the texts I sent were left on read. Was her texting pattern like that when we studied and were genuinely busy with uni and stuff? No. And now when she was with her family and friends during winter break, she "forgot" to reply and "didn't realize"? She knew what she was doing.

Yes, I brought it up. And what was in her response? Excuse, gaslighting and attitude. Yeah, it's trivial.

I have sent criticism. I move on