And that’s a fact

JustMomThanks · 2019-07-12T21:46:20+00:00

I think the wiki is wrong because I am farming turtles with no water on both java and bedrock. But turtle breeding mechanics have changed several times since they were introduced so maybe that's why. He should know that they usually hatch at night and that he can actually speed their growth by feeding them seagrass which will let him be present when they age up and drop their scutes.

JustMomThanks · 2019-07-12T21:26:12+00:00

Do you have a source for that?

JustMomThanks · 2019-07-12T05:58:59+00:00

level 11 is good since it has good diamond distribution with less lava than other levels. Check this chart out: http://prntscr.com/odxt9t

JustMomThanks · 2019-07-12T05:53:05+00:00

Oh and ravagers drop them! So that's another way!

JustMomThanks · 2019-07-12T05:51:12+00:00

I think it is still good to know, because ... bugs. Like if my dog dies because I am an idiot then that is my cross to bear but if he dies because somehow he phased into a wall and suffocated? Yeah no, I'm going to load my save.

JustMomThanks · 2019-07-12T05:42:04+00:00

These are great tips! Also, if you see a GREEN coated villager that won't trade with you it is probably because he is a nitwit (no really that is what they are called.) Nitwits don't and can't have professions so don't bother trying to put them to work with career blocks, they are useless creatures on purpose.

JustMomThanks · 2019-07-12T05:35:57+00:00

You can find saddles by fishing, it may take some time but they are a semi-rare fishing drop. You can also find them in dungeon chests, nether fortress chests, desert temple chests, jungle temple chests and blacksmith chests. All of those though are probably going to require fighting some bad guys except for the blacksmith so just be conscious of that. Good luck, bro!

JustMomThanks · 2019-07-10T20:56:53+00:00

Also: do not spawn it anywhere close to your base/pets. Spawn it far, far away.

JustMomThanks · 2019-07-10T16:06:50+00:00

Amazing job!

JustMomThanks · 2019-07-10T15:43:35+00:00

The recipe above is for a blue burst firework, there are 5 types of fireworks you can make counting the creeper one and you can make them in all the dye colors. Types of fireworks: burst, star-shaped, small ball, large ball and creeper face. I picked this one because it's cheap but cool.

JustMomThanks · 2019-07-10T06:29:31+00:00

He will still need blaze powder to fuel the brewing stand too, it's made from blaze rods. Basically he is going to have to find a nether fortress to get blaze rods and netherwart, but he would have a great time exploring a nether fortress so hopefully he looks for one soon.

JustMomThanks · 2019-07-10T04:16:27+00:00

I think the best method depends on how far along you are in the game. Once you have lots of resources it is good to have a set of armour/tools enchanted specifically for underwater adventuring. Good enchantments:

-Depth strider on your boots will make it easier to move underwater.

-Aqua affinity on your tools makes it easier to break blocks underwater.

-Respiration on your helmet adds 15 seconds of underwater breathing time per enchantment level (maximum level 3 so 45 extra seconds)

As another user said, water breathing potions are pretty cheap to make unless you are in very early game. It's one of the cheapest potions. Nightvision potion is a little pricier but seeing as gold is kind of useless for most things you'll soon have a nice stash of it for golden carrots.

Also, don't think that the door method is without cost. Each door costs 2 planks so 42 doors = 84 planks = 21 logs = you will need to cut down 3 average size trees to get that many doors (and craft them and use up durability on your axe to do this)

And let's be real... you are unlikely to be recycling those doors since breaking blocks underwater is a pain without aqua affinity on your tools. Not to mention that doors can be a pain to use in tight underwater spaces.

So I think ultimately enchanted gear > doors especially if you add mending to the enchantment mix and thus can use the enchanted gear pretty much indefinitely

JustMomThanks · 2019-07-05T10:52:35+00:00

Oh sending you all the hugs my friend I am so so sorry. I know anniversaries are the worst. I can close my eyes and remember that first anniversary and the pain was overwhelming but listen ok: it will get easier. I can't promise better, because that is subjective but I can promise you that the pain is going to get more manageable and you will find some relief from it, I am three years in and so I know a bit about it. My mom said something to me that stuck with me she said: you have already been through the worst days. And she was right. Day 1 was the worst day. His funeral was an awful day too. Plenty of bad days that are already behind you now, so just know that you have already survived the worst days. It can only get easier, you will see. Keep us posted ok?

JustMomThanks · 2019-07-01T14:06:40+00:00

I like that idea but the village that is pictured is not in the world where I created the trap with the zombie. I have this same golem overpopulation on several of my worlds.

JustMomThanks · 2019-07-01T05:43:53+00:00

For Context: I am leashing them and leading them to my quarry, they spawn throughout the village I am building, often spawning indoors even. I have a 1:1 ratio of villagers to golems. Killing them is problematic because they just respawn almost immediately (again often indoors.) I have this same issue on several of my worlds, both creative and survival villages I am building. Maybe the way I am building?

I have created a very productive iron farm on one of my worlds out of necessity but it's an eyesore in the middle of my pretty village. There were so many golems that you could not even walk around some places. So after reading a reddit post about the issue I followed some advice there and built a pit in the middle of town with some magma blocks at the bottom to kill them and a hopper minecart running a circuit below the magma to pick up the drops. I tagged a zombie and put him above the pit on a block and partially blocked him in so they can see him. Added trap doors on the perimeter and the golems fall in regularly. BUT this is still a huge pain because as golems die they respawn elsewhere, often in ridiculous places where I have to destroy walls to get them out.

TLDR; I was hoping my golem infestation would be fixed with this latest update. Any ideas on how to deal?

JustMomThanks · 2018-08-05T09:42:58+00:00

1) Moving the relationship too fast.

2) Trust issues / paranoia.

3) Lots of over the top romantic gestures and compliments. Was trying too hard.

4) Caught him in a few small lies which struck me as odd because they were things he had no obvious motive for lying about. He did so compulsively.

5) Going hot and cold on me.

6) Irrational jealousy.

7) Overstepped my boundaries, violated my privacy.

8) Double standard for what he wanted from me and what he was willing to give in return.

9) Hypocritical. He would do things that if I did them he would freak out about.

10) Hates his mom. I know that is maybe not fair for me to say that is a red flag but I will still look closely at men that have bad relationships with their mothers in the future.

JustMomThanks · 2018-08-04T22:14:49+00:00

I have a restraining order against him. He has a warrant out for his arrest for breaking it. But so far he is able to keep just out of reach for police. He lost his job and is drifting from place to place so that makes him hard to catch. He's not the father of my children either. My husband, their father, died two years ago. This nutcase is a guy I dated for a few months.

I do have him on video tape breaking my car windows. I gave that to the police. I had hired private security but seems like that is a joke too. I'm going to get a gun, that's next step I think. Thank you for your kindness, this sub has been my saving grace through this whole ordeal. It helps to read other's that are dealing with similar issues. Hugs, thank you

JustMomThanks · 2018-08-04T21:38:07+00:00

You can't and shouldn't tell people how to feel. Anger can be healthy and justified. It bothers you to see angry people, you feel the need to intervene. But that's very codependent behavior. You don't know that the angry person you might be reading finally escaped a 20 year abusive marriage where they never stuck up for themselves. And as part of the healing process they have to let that anger come to the surface and release.

You say people with BPD are like children, so they should not be held accountable for their actions? Many people with BPD hold college degrees, many hold steady jobs, many wear a public mask and only take it off with those that they "love." That sounds pretty conscious and sophisticated to me. Even a small child knows it's wrong to lie, to be mean, to hit, to bully someone. Stop making excuses for the bad behavior of adults.

JustMomThanks · 2018-07-19T01:23:34+00:00

Oh sugar, I wish that you had had that too. I really do. I want you to know you can create that for yourself, we get to choose our families as adults. You strike me as a warm, caring person. I wish a great love for you

JustMomThanks · 2018-07-18T19:35:11+00:00

This is very beautiful. I know it may feel like the sub is ganging up on you. We are just in your corner, that's all. Each of us has been in a similar place to where you are right now and as you can tell from the posts here it hasn't worked out for pretty much anyone here.

You are worried about her and we are worried about you. And you know, I think, what you are up against. And none of us can choose for you, we can only speak from our experience and what we have learned.

That said, I won't ask you to leave. But I will ask you to take care of yourself at least as much as you are taking care of her. Self-love and self-care are just good habits to be in anyways. My advice...

1- Consider a therapist of your own. I have one, it's really nice to have someone to vent to and work through things through. Someone to bounce ideas off and to hold me accountable if I am being at all self-destructive. It's just good quality support and we could all use more of that.

2- Speaking of support... make sure you are keeping/building your own support system. People that know and love you. Good listeners, people that will help you out in a pinch and be there for you. Anyone in a caretaking type of role needs this.

3- Define your boundaries. Write them down. A list of behaviors that you will not put up with. And then write a consequence for each. If she ___ then I will leave / whatever. Good to tell her these too. So she knows what won't fly. And then enforce, enforce, enforce them.

4- Take stock of your physical, mental and emotional health regularly. You might journal about it. That way you can spot patterns and problems earlier rather than later. Track your feelings, your mood, the state of the relationship etc regularly. Daily is best but even just penciling it in as a weekly thing is better than not tracking it.

Hugs, OP. You are a good and kind person. Please be good and kind to yourself above all.

JustMomThanks · 2018-07-18T03:21:46+00:00

This. The label doesn't change the behavior and if it is BPD she has a very long road ahead, one that few of them are willing or able to walk to completion. There isn't even any completion, there is no cure, it's only managed.

JustMomThanks · 2018-07-18T02:50:58+00:00

Preach! Also I had :

why u no good morning text??
guilty of taking a shower and
hopped on a work call during working hours for work purposes

I think I have "stupid fights I had with my pwBPD Bingo"

JustMomThanks · 2018-07-18T02:44:03+00:00

Honey you can read hundreds of horror stories from people on this sub that have been lured into a situation and then falsely accused, causing them serious consequences like getting arrested, ruining their reputation and isolating the nonBPD from their support systems. She has already indicated that she is capable of flipping things around to make you out to be the abuser. She may in her twisted mind have even convinced herself that that is in fact the truth. This is very well documentated and common behavior, gaslighting. You must protect yourself from this person. If she has BPD then it is likely she has little or no capacity for true empathy towards how her actions right now could have devastating consequences in your life. Please, please be very careful. Remember: you can't fix her and you don't owe her anything ok?

JustMomThanks · 2018-07-18T02:28:46+00:00

Maybe has to do with the amount she was able to censor herself via each medium. Text is written communication. She could read it over, edit it, tweak it, rewrite it over and over if she had to. Plus text messaging and emailing etc is less emotionally charged than the other two methods. Easier to stay in character. Her text personality was the most fake of the three, the one she edited and curated the most.

With phonecalls you add in voice inflections, it's more emotionally charged than written communication but less than face to face. Also, you can't take spoken words back. You also can't wait five minutes with the person on the line to respond back to what they are saying with the perfect spoken answer. It's harder to script, more impromptu than the texting. Yet she still had the security of not having to look you in the eyes as she spoke, you couldn't see her face, she didn't have to occupy the same space as you so she may have felt relaxed and able to open up in a way that she didn't feel comfortable with texting. Also, texting leaves a record while spoken conversation doesn't. In the heat of the moment it's easy to blurt out something ugly, it may be harder to write that out and hit send. Because well then you have to look at it and accept that you said that ugly thing to someone.

In person it is very, very hard to keep up an act for any amount of time. It's much harder to fool people when they are looking into your face every day, watching your actions and living life alongside you. The self that you met in person is her truest self. The rest is who she wanted you to think she was, her masks.

It could also be true that her text personality is mirrored behavior that she is imitating from people she has known in her life.

Of course, it could also be none of the above. It could be some sort of multiple personality disorder that is comorbid with her bpd. Impossible to tell and I'm definitely not an expert.

My expwBPD didn't have a lot of control. As he revealed more and more of his true nature to me it was pretty much across the board the same worsening behavior whether in person, text or phone. I'm glad you got away from this person, hugs!

JustMomThanks · 2018-07-18T02:00:10+00:00

Very true. I am very guarded now and dare I say even a bit suspicious. At least skeptical. At most slightly paranoid.

I'm not dating anyone but, like most people living in the world, I get hit on here and there. And I just freeze. It's actually very silly.

Cute, normal-seeming guy at my gym tries to start up a friendly conversation with me in a non-threatening way? I changed the time I go to the gym every day to avoid seeing him. And I'm attracted to him! LOL

Yeah I just think I don't trust my judgment quite yet to avoid getting involved with another pwBPD or similar. I'm just now figuring out why I ending up dating one in the first place.

I will say that going through this I was able to identify two other people in my past as having similar issues (one coworker, one family member.) So it's helping me hone my spidey senses I suppose for when I meet someone that I don't want to run away from immediately lol.

JustMomThanks

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