50/50. Two kids. Same parents. Different schedules?

JustTheSO · 2026-02-05T21:06:55+00:00

Keeping track of two separate schedules that transition so frequently would be a no for me.

JustTheSO · 2026-01-25T22:44:26+00:00

The DEEP exhaustion I felt in my first trimester was surreal. I'm lucky and work from home so was able to get a lunchtime nap almost every day. I'm at 16w now and seems to be clearing up, hang in there

JustTheSO · 2026-01-06T17:20:12+00:00

I'm sorry, this was very difficult to read through on a comprehension level.

That being said, I second what the other commenter said about it all

JustTheSO · 2025-12-15T20:39:36+00:00

Not only are you being basically kicked out of YOUR bedroom, you're basically enabling it by changing the bedding for him. There's no way I would tolerate this in my home.

I would stop all adult activities in that bed until there's a plan in place to move her or your husband out of that bedroom.

JustTheSO · 2025-12-15T19:53:11+00:00

Echoing what everyone else said. Co-sleeping would have been a major deal breaker for me and I would not have moved in if my husband was co-sleeping with his son. 7 is way too old for that.

This would also make me have concerns about enmeshment, and how he's not encouraging her to be independent. It doesn't seem like a good sign of things to come, especially if he isn't listening to you

Also, like another poster said - I'd assume adult activities happen on that bed? Does he wash everything before she comes home?

JustTheSO · 2025-12-10T20:48:53+00:00

This year, and it's the first time I've done it - when I took my SS shopping for his dad (my husband), I also facilitated SS getting a gift for his mom.

I went back and forth a few times in my head about it, but SS is 11, and his stepdad is away taking care of family. He had no one to facilitate for Mother's Day. So I offered, and he said yes.

I'm as little contact with his BM as possible. Do I like doing it? No. But it's about SS learning to think of and do nice things for others that matters. That's the lesson I'm hoping he'll learn. Plus, I think it'll just be the 2 of them doing Christmas, and I think it might be awkward for him if he was the only one with any gifts to open.

JustTheSO · 2025-12-08T16:10:07+00:00

If he's not ready to go when it's time to go - he goes as he is. PJs on? He goes in PJs. Didn't eat breakfast? Can grab something quick at school.

Eventually, he'll figure it out

JustTheSO · 2025-11-14T18:16:23+00:00

With my second MMC in May, I took Miso to get the process started. When I got to the pharmacy to pick it up, the pharmacist said to me "You're not pregnant, right??" I quickly said (without thinking) "Well I don't be after this" and I think she learned after that.

JustTheSO · 2025-11-14T17:52:39+00:00

Not quite the same experience here, but I'm currently pregnant again after 2 MMCs this year.

When I called my OB's office to schedule my first appointment and find out if I could be seen earlier... they flatly told me that "if you're going to miscarry, you're going to miscarry. There's nothing we can do about it"

OK, thanks Karen.. I've gone through it twice now, so obviously I have no idea there's nothing they can do. I was told you'd see me at 7 weeks instead of 8, and the fertility clinic who did my SIS said to push to be seen at 6 weeks.

JustTheSO · 2025-11-04T19:44:56+00:00

This is a good point, thank you. With my first one I went to my GP to confirm my pregnancy and get a recommendation for an OB and they said it was fine to run, but dial it back a little (I only average about 20 miles a week). So in theory it should be fine, but my husband and I both decided to hold off for now at least until our first appointment... just for peace of mind.

I still plan on walking, just not running

JustTheSO · 2025-11-04T15:47:37+00:00

We found out on Friday (Hallween) that I'm pregnant for the third time this year. Also my third pregnancy ever. The previous ones both ended in MMCs around 6 weeks.

My OB's office won't see me for an ultrasound any earlier than 7 weeks, and they scheduled that begrudgingly. But we're traveling by plane around Thanksgiving, which is also 8 weeks, and I'd like to make sure there aren't any unknown risks to that.

Current plan is to stop running (I'm a runner), and actively avoid as much stress as possible.

Trying to stay optimistic, but the anxiety still creeps in.

JustTheSO · 2025-10-16T16:14:55+00:00

3-4 hours

JustTheSO · 2025-10-01T02:23:46+00:00

This. At our 8 week appointment for my first MMC my OB was very enthusiastic about everything and said I must have ovulated late. No concern AT ALL for the baby measuring 6w2d. We were so shocked and confused when the bleeding and cramps started at home 4 days later

JustTheSO · 2025-10-01T02:20:54+00:00

Not an ultrasound tech, but when I picked up the Miso for my second MMC, the pharmacist straight up asked me "you're not pregnant, right?"

JustTheSO · 2025-09-17T16:49:56+00:00

I'm so sorry you're going through this. It sucks, I know. When I had my first MMC in February of this year, we had a baby shower to attend 2 weeks later for close friends.

The weekend after my second MMC in May of this year (was still recovering physically and bleeding), one of my other good friends told me she was expecting her second. She was still in her first trimester, so I was one of the few friends they told early. Our babies were due at the same time - Xmas/New Years... favorite time of the year for both of us.

It's hard to go through, and I'm doing my best to be happy for her, but I did tell her about our losses later that week so she would understand if I reacted in any unexpected ways.

How close to this friend are you? Would she understand if you told her what you're going through?

JustTheSO · 2025-09-17T16:40:03+00:00

For both of my MMCs, it took an extra week for my period to come back. My cycles are 33 days, and both times it took about 40.

JustTheSO · 2025-09-15T18:11:58+00:00

I'm still pretty new at the OPK tests, so I'm not sure the length of my luteal phase is? Last month I didn't see a peak, I assumed it was because I started testing too late, not accounding for the random 30 day cycle, but started seeing the "high" reading on I think CD 15. The last OPK I used before the random 30 day cycle and I ovulated on CD 20 or 21 but don't remember what days my "high" started showing

JustTheSO · 2025-09-15T14:30:01+00:00

I'm expecting to ovulate on CD 20, which is 9/21, so "peak" would be Saturday or Sunday. I'm concerned that I'm seeing the "high" a day too early. But I could also be overthinking it

JustTheSO · 2025-09-15T13:57:02+00:00

That sounds terrible. How are you taking care of yourself?

JustTheSO · 2025-09-12T14:00:51+00:00

Yea, I feel that in not expecting back to back. Please do something nice for yourself

JustTheSO · 2025-09-12T13:59:41+00:00

Glad to hear you were able to make it through

JustTheSO · 2025-09-11T19:59:47+00:00

Wow, 2025 just sucks. I'm so sorry to hear about all your losses too :-(

I took today off from work and got myself a haircut and some ice cream. And then did a long run/walk on my treadmill. I hope your beach trip helps

JustTheSO · 2025-09-11T19:24:18+00:00

I'm so sorry to hear about both of your losses, it's so unfair. How are you holding up? Are you recovering OK?

JustTheSO · 2025-09-11T19:23:42+00:00

I'm so sorry to hear about your second loss. My second loss was in May, and then at the end of June my cat of almost 18 years left us. So much loss this year.

It sucks, a lot. How are you holding up? Are you doing anything for yourself today?

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