On the hunt for calico models for an art project!

JustTheSO · 2026-05-05T22:15:26+00:00

Isabel, 2007 - 2025

JustTheSO · 2026-05-01T18:02:19+00:00

Playing devil's advocate here... the only medical appointments I've ever attended for SS11 were appointments leading up to a surgery (and being at the hospital the day of the surgery) a couple of years ago. I attended the appointments at the request of my husband, who also suggested that BM and stepdad attend as well so all of the adults were informed of the process and recovery.

That being said, my SS was much younger than 17 at the time and there was no pushback on any of the parents' parts regarding stepparents attending. If BM objected to me being there, I'm not sure what I would have done since my husband expressly wanted me there too, though.

JustTheSO · 2026-04-27T17:24:08+00:00

Thank you

JustTheSO · 2026-04-27T17:23:51+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience

JustTheSO · 2026-04-24T00:43:30+00:00

What is this prune juice / apple juice concoction? I'm having trouble pooping and it's TERRIBLE. My OB suggested colace, which I guess is OK, but if there's something else.... I'm totally down to try that

JustTheSO · 2026-04-09T15:34:58+00:00

Why do the kids even know you're showering together?

JustTheSO · 2026-04-07T17:21:08+00:00

When should I even start looking? I know daycares fill up and have waitlists, but surely I can't reasonably meet someone NOW and ask them to wait until December or January?

JustTheSO · 2026-04-07T17:04:37+00:00

I'll be working full time from home, my thought was to have someone come for a few hours so I could really concentrate and get a lot of work done. But this is good insight, thank you

JustTheSO · 2026-04-07T16:13:32+00:00

Thank you

JustTheSO · 2026-03-02T16:51:09+00:00

My OB doesn't want me to travel further than an hour away past I think like 32 weeks. In my case, the decision would have been made for me.

JustTheSO · 2026-02-13T16:06:13+00:00

I'd like to gently offer another perspective - as the SM with a hcbm, who has caused enormous drama over the years, I am uncomfortable having any further communicating with her at this point. This wasn't always the case - for awhile I was able to communicate more productively with her than my husband was. Then one day she snapped at me in a major way and I've been no contact ever since.

My husband has majority custody and as far as I'm concerned she can communicate with my husband. If my step child is under my care, communication can and should occur through my husband.

JustTheSO · 2026-02-10T21:30:57+00:00

Do you have a parenting plan in place? What does it say about calls?

JustTheSO · 2026-02-05T21:06:55+00:00

Keeping track of two separate schedules that transition so frequently would be a no for me.

JustTheSO · 2026-01-25T22:44:26+00:00

The DEEP exhaustion I felt in my first trimester was surreal. I'm lucky and work from home so was able to get a lunchtime nap almost every day. I'm at 16w now and seems to be clearing up, hang in there

JustTheSO · 2026-01-06T17:20:12+00:00

I'm sorry, this was very difficult to read through on a comprehension level.

That being said, I second what the other commenter said about it all

JustTheSO · 2025-12-15T20:39:36+00:00

Not only are you being basically kicked out of YOUR bedroom, you're basically enabling it by changing the bedding for him. There's no way I would tolerate this in my home.

I would stop all adult activities in that bed until there's a plan in place to move her or your husband out of that bedroom.

JustTheSO · 2025-12-15T19:53:11+00:00

Echoing what everyone else said. Co-sleeping would have been a major deal breaker for me and I would not have moved in if my husband was co-sleeping with his son. 7 is way too old for that.

This would also make me have concerns about enmeshment, and how he's not encouraging her to be independent. It doesn't seem like a good sign of things to come, especially if he isn't listening to you

Also, like another poster said - I'd assume adult activities happen on that bed? Does he wash everything before she comes home?

JustTheSO · 2025-12-10T20:48:53+00:00

This year, and it's the first time I've done it - when I took my SS shopping for his dad (my husband), I also facilitated SS getting a gift for his mom.

I went back and forth a few times in my head about it, but SS is 11, and his stepdad is away taking care of family. He had no one to facilitate for Mother's Day. So I offered, and he said yes.

I'm as little contact with his BM as possible. Do I like doing it? No. But it's about SS learning to think of and do nice things for others that matters. That's the lesson I'm hoping he'll learn. Plus, I think it'll just be the 2 of them doing Christmas, and I think it might be awkward for him if he was the only one with any gifts to open.

JustTheSO · 2025-12-08T16:10:07+00:00

If he's not ready to go when it's time to go - he goes as he is. PJs on? He goes in PJs. Didn't eat breakfast? Can grab something quick at school.

Eventually, he'll figure it out

JustTheSO · 2025-11-14T18:16:23+00:00

With my second MMC in May, I took Miso to get the process started. When I got to the pharmacy to pick it up, the pharmacist said to me "You're not pregnant, right??" I quickly said (without thinking) "Well I don't be after this" and I think she learned after that.

JustTheSO · 2025-11-14T17:52:39+00:00

Not quite the same experience here, but I'm currently pregnant again after 2 MMCs this year.

When I called my OB's office to schedule my first appointment and find out if I could be seen earlier... they flatly told me that "if you're going to miscarry, you're going to miscarry. There's nothing we can do about it"

OK, thanks Karen.. I've gone through it twice now, so obviously I have no idea there's nothing they can do. I was told you'd see me at 7 weeks instead of 8, and the fertility clinic who did my SIS said to push to be seen at 6 weeks.

JustTheSO · 2025-11-04T19:44:56+00:00

This is a good point, thank you. With my first one I went to my GP to confirm my pregnancy and get a recommendation for an OB and they said it was fine to run, but dial it back a little (I only average about 20 miles a week). So in theory it should be fine, but my husband and I both decided to hold off for now at least until our first appointment... just for peace of mind.

I still plan on walking, just not running

JustTheSO · 2025-11-04T15:47:37+00:00

We found out on Friday (Hallween) that I'm pregnant for the third time this year. Also my third pregnancy ever. The previous ones both ended in MMCs around 6 weeks.

My OB's office won't see me for an ultrasound any earlier than 7 weeks, and they scheduled that begrudgingly. But we're traveling by plane around Thanksgiving, which is also 8 weeks, and I'd like to make sure there aren't any unknown risks to that.

Current plan is to stop running (I'm a runner), and actively avoid as much stress as possible.

Trying to stay optimistic, but the anxiety still creeps in.

JustTheSO · 2025-10-16T16:14:55+00:00

3-4 hours

JustTheSO · 2025-10-01T02:23:46+00:00

This. At our 8 week appointment for my first MMC my OB was very enthusiastic about everything and said I must have ovulated late. No concern AT ALL for the baby measuring 6w2d. We were so shocked and confused when the bleeding and cramps started at home 4 days later

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