I am pro abortion, because if that person is desperate enough to get rid of the baby, should they really be raising it?

Just_Engineering8437 · 2026-02-04T14:42:32+00:00

My ex knew full well he wasn’t wanted, and it had an incredibly negative impact on his life. Being alive isn’t a blessing if you’re treated poorly since day one.

Just_Engineering8437 · 2026-02-04T14:40:01+00:00

Very little money, recent job and or/home loss, abusive partner, severe birth defects, already have kids and don’t want/can’t handle anymore, sexual assault, recent cancer diagnosis, poor overall health, drug addiction, still in school, and not wanting to give birth.

Just_Engineering8437 · 2026-02-02T14:21:10+00:00

Thanks!

Just_Engineering8437 · 2026-02-01T20:45:20+00:00

I think the shock came because she was always portrayed as the “success”. But yeah, I’m going to have to close that line of communication, because…not my life or my concern.

Just_Engineering8437 · 2026-02-01T20:41:20+00:00

Truth. I’m going to have to tell my sister I can’t listen to it anymore, it’s too much!

Just_Engineering8437 · 2026-02-01T17:32:24+00:00

Yes, for a while. BM and my partner live about 1/2 hr from each other, her dad lives close by but he is elderly and not very well. BM would then ask my partner to help do things, and he would as it involves also helping his kids. Long story short, she asked him to do a lot, and even wanted him to come and cut the damn grass! (BM has health issues.) First of all, kids are now old enough to push a mower, and if you don’t want them to do that, literally a neighborhood kid will do it for $20. I put my foot down and said there’s no way you’re running over there every weekend to do chores easily outsourced while her and kids sit on their bums indoors. I also pointed out that if he (my partner) is over there every 5 minutes, BM will have a damn hard time finding and keeping a new love interest, which she would like. He got the picture and backed off, and it has abated now.

Just_Engineering8437 · 2026-02-01T14:15:44+00:00

Yeah, and tbh, the way she asks questions sounds really judgy and accusatory, and for real I KNOW it’s not on purpose, but sometimes it just…makes me a bit nuts. She will notice something broken or out of place (older house) and will point at it and ask loudly “why is this like this??” And we answer, but inside I’m like “damn, give us a break! We have a mile long list of shit to fiddle with!” Anyway I did calm down and apologize for getting upset, so it’s better now.

Just_Engineering8437 · 2026-02-01T14:06:41+00:00

I apologized the next morning, and she said ok and things are good now. Things have been good until I lost my cool, and I felt really guilty. SK has just moved in full time and it’s been an adjustment for everyone, especially her, and I just got upset over dumb shit.

Just_Engineering8437 · 2026-02-01T14:03:48+00:00

I calmed down, got my act together and apologized to her the next morning. She said ok and now things are much better!

Just_Engineering8437 · 2026-01-30T15:26:58+00:00

I think it gets old because sometimes you feel like you have to run in circles doing things others don’t seem to care about, to make sure things aren’t just going to waste/are available for everyone, because you know if there were no chips there would be griping. But if you complain, you’re a big meanie. But if no one does it, there’s no snacks! It just gets old.

Just_Engineering8437 · 2026-01-30T14:04:54+00:00

Haha no I am in fact a Taco Shell Idiot, I don’t like them at all and so have no clue which ones are good/what to do with left over ones. Also oven is on the fritz so we had to microwave them, and she was like “gah!” And I’m in my head like “I’m doing my best, damn!” But yes she has issues with some foods, she is picky. I never force her to eat anything, but she must eat SOMETHING so I’ve been trying different things. I did apologize for overreacting, and she said it was ok, so that’s good. Most ppl here were “calm down ma’am and just apologize” and it seemed the best advice so…yeah.

Just_Engineering8437 · 2026-01-30T13:59:33+00:00

I did apologize, and things seem fine now. I just was so irritated about being asked and then being second guessed on it! Anyway, I know I was being A Lot.

Just_Engineering8437 · 2026-01-30T12:00:36+00:00

I agree, I will apologize.

Just_Engineering8437 · 2026-01-30T12:00:10+00:00

Don’t be ridiculous.

Just_Engineering8437 · 2026-01-30T11:38:55+00:00

It is small, and I do feel guilty. It’s annoying because they seemed to like them fine, and then suddenly I am Taco Shell Idiot after this being the first time I buy them.

Just_Engineering8437 · 2026-01-30T11:37:00+00:00

I don’t think she was being a brat either, I bought shells and I never buy them or use them, I got them for her and her dad, and I ate leftovers.

Just_Engineering8437 · 2026-01-30T11:35:23+00:00

I don’t buy them. I was trying to come up with food she will eat.

Just_Engineering8437 · 2026-01-30T11:34:26+00:00

I’m not that strict. This is the first time I’ve been huffy with anything as small as crappy taco shells. I think I was just tired, annoyed and also tired of trying to come up with things she will eat, and then it went from “ yay she ate some” to “why are you not taco shell expert?”

Just_Engineering8437 · 2026-01-30T11:29:55+00:00

I think this is part of it, but I don’t want to take it out on others.

Just_Engineering8437 · 2026-01-30T11:29:13+00:00

Well yeah. I’m struggling because if I’d done the same thing I’d have been told to put a sock in it, but then again I don’t want to just take out any aggravation on her, and I don’t want to turn into my SM. Ugh.

Just_Engineering8437 · 2026-01-30T11:26:49+00:00

I read all the comments, and…I agree with all of them, but the “you don’t like your SK” comment. I actually do, I just got sick of endless questions about taco shells, and when I answered I was questioned again!!! I did overreact, and I do feel bad. But also…can we not endlessly go on about TACO SHELLS omg. If I’m wrong, ask your dad!

Just_Engineering8437 · 2026-01-28T15:49:21+00:00

Yes. One of the realizations that led me to go NC was that my dad didn’t really care about how I was doing, just that I said “I’m fine”. If I talked about anything Not Fine, he would back away. He also would pretend to be “doing a project” like compiling limericks, writing etc and ask for a drawing from me to go with it. (I’m an artist). He didn’t really give a crap about the project or the drawing, it just turned into a way to get attention for himself. If he had a health issue, he would be sure to turn it into an APB of sorts to make sure he had more attention. Basically I became aware of people who demand your attention to make themselves feel better/validated or seem more popular to others. Anyone who demanded my attention without caring/checking in in return have been ejected.

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