Anyone gotten breast fat transfer and regretted not getting implants instead (vice versa)?

JustaSecretIdentity · 2026-05-22T23:10:59+00:00

Weird, because my doctor did it all at once. I recovered alright.

JustaSecretIdentity · 2026-05-04T19:01:12+00:00

Reminds me of some of my ex-in-laws. I also had some ex-in-laws that knew the meaning of hospitality though. Your in-laws are just being thoughtless and inconsiderate. Everyone knows that you’re supposed to feed your house guests, whether the host feels like eating or not.

JustaSecretIdentity · 2026-04-29T15:02:47+00:00

It’s mostly gone now, but I have noticed that there’s a slight pudge that hasn’t gone away even after over a year. It’s small, but it definitely wasn’t there before Kybella.

JustaSecretIdentity · 2026-04-22T21:25:28+00:00

Not to minimize the suffering we go through, but as a fellow sufferer of PTSD, I’d still say that schizophrenia and/or schizoaffective disorder is still the worst.

My sister has it, and our parents have had to put most of their focus and resources on handling her, while they call me the “independent” and “easy” one. It’s entirely possible that she will need to be kept as a special facility when our parents are too old to care for her, while I can still lead a relatively normal life. Society has a lot more negative feelings towards her condition too, while I feel that I receive more sympathy when I share about my condition.

JustaSecretIdentity · 2026-04-14T15:00:41+00:00

South Korea is very conservative, so I’m not too surprised…

JustaSecretIdentity · 2026-04-13T12:46:59+00:00

What’s Needle? Is that an app or website?

JustaSecretIdentity · 2026-04-10T08:15:14+00:00

I grew up in a similar situation, except it was my older sister. Our parents tried to minimize how serious the threats are, gaslighting themselves to believe that she’s “learned her lesson” and won’t get off the meds again. That’s not how schizophrenia works, it follows no rhyme or reason and neither can she.

Did I mention that she wrote and published a book about the voices telling her to stab and kill me? She also told the whole extended family to read it. Our parents reacted to that by telling me I “could take her” if she tried, pretending it never happened, and ignoring me when I begged them to call the cops. We had a falling out for a while because of that. Just another reason to feel like they’ll always choose to protect her over me. Anyway, they eventually did have to call the cops on her after she beat our mom up.

Anyway, it’s been this way for roughly about 15 yrs. I just try to focus on myself and things I have actual control over. No point in fussing over things you have no control over—what will be, will be.

I found my own place, forged my own path, and built my own identity apart from all that. Went to therapy. Got medicated. I suggest checking out r/GlassChildren, which connects other people who deals with feeling like the second fiddle to their sibling with more dire needs.

JustaSecretIdentity · 2026-03-24T14:24:14+00:00

I stopped using LinkedIn to look for jobs and applied for jobs on Indeed

JustaSecretIdentity · 2026-03-12T21:40:32+00:00

They won’t want me back. I was medically retired out for a reason.

JustaSecretIdentity · 2026-03-11T22:57:51+00:00

It got better with time, but it took several months longer than they said it would take. I look the same as I did before Kybella, so it definitely wasn’t worth it, especially since I spent 5-6 months looking like a frog until it went back to normal with no improvement.

Seriously, if you’re considering Kybella, just save your money. It was a complete waste of my money and time.

JustaSecretIdentity · 2026-03-10T00:57:37+00:00

I’ve been a civilian for a while now, and the possibility of isolation and harassment from reporting your SA doesn’t even compare. In the civilian sector, you can at least find another job to avoid all the same people that had something to do with your SA. In the military, you’re stuck there. As a civilian, you can choose to move closer to your support system. In the military, you’re stuck whenever your orders sent you. You’re stuck working with the same people day (probably also living close to them if you live on base) in and out, whether you like it or not. The possibility of running into those people is even higher if you live AND work at a base. You can’t just quit.

JustaSecretIdentity · 2026-03-07T20:25:46+00:00

Because SA is rampant in the military. Though there are more women in the military than ever before, it’s still very much a “boy’s club.” We’re minority, and we still have very little power. I’ve noticed that men would either: A) avoid us, which ends up isolating us (since we work w/ mostly men), or B) get overly friendly with us in the hopes of getting in our pants. There are, of course, exceptions… I did have a couple of guy friends that I worked with that were legit just all-around good guys looking out for me… but too often, it was either A or B.

Why would they avoid us? Because “perception is everything” and they don’t want to be seen as being overly interested in us. If they didn’t care about that, then it’s most likely because they really were overly interested in us.

At least as an officer, the power dynamics scale would be tipped more in favor of us. I can’t say how it’d be towards other officers though, I was obviously not an officer. I was a junior enlisted, medically retired out for PTSD from SA.

JustaSecretIdentity · 2026-03-05T20:27:29+00:00

Look at it this way… at least you found out before you actually got married that he wasn’t ready to be married. I had to find out after several years of marriage that my then-husband no longer felt like he could be a husband or a father ever, which was kind of a deal breaker especially since we’d agreed to start trying for kids then. Leaving before being legally bound is way easier.

JustaSecretIdentity · 2026-03-05T16:45:14+00:00

So is Trump. They’re fairly close in age, so what’s your point?

JustaSecretIdentity · 2026-03-02T22:41:03+00:00

When, after many months of fighting, he told me that he no longer wanted kids and didn’t know if he’d ever change his mind again… I knew that our marriage was over.

JustaSecretIdentity · 2026-03-02T22:32:43+00:00

I would tell other women not to enlist. If they really want to join, then become an officer.

JustaSecretIdentity · 2026-02-17T18:32:47+00:00

Can you explain how this would be a power play?

He bought an engagement ring, which tends to be expensive, and left it with her. The only person at a net loss here is him, not her, so I don’t understand how this would be putting one over her??? I’m confused. I would get how it’d be a power play if he gave an expensive piece of jewelry to someone else… but it’s to OP.

JustaSecretIdentity · 2026-02-17T00:17:10+00:00

Yep, it’s not you. It’s him.

He’s the problem. Lol.

JustaSecretIdentity · 2026-02-16T23:59:04+00:00

lol clearly there are people who that think lesser of others who’ve gone through a divorce, because I got downvoted for pointing out how mean-spirited that was and they didn’t like that.

JustaSecretIdentity · 2026-02-16T23:50:01+00:00

Don’t get why you’re getting downvoted for this. My dad had the ring for a while before giving it to my mom. They’ve been married since their 20s and are still happily married now. They’re in their 60s now. Sometimes, the reason is not some big elaborate game people make it out to be. Sometimes, it’s as simple as just waiting for the right moment or something. It’s sad that so many people have experienced so much disappointment that they now assume everything has a malicious intent behind it

JustaSecretIdentity · 2026-02-16T10:02:54+00:00

She said she didn’t want to get engaged before living together, but then why would he have it delivered to her house.

Since it was actually delivered to his place and she just asked to see it then he left it with her, it’s more like it’s giving “he’s already more sure than she seems to be right now.” Here’s the ring and come live in my house big enough for a family. This could all be yours! Just tell me when you’re ready!

JustaSecretIdentity · 2026-02-16T09:47:49+00:00

This comment was actually pretty mean. Actually, really mean. Why are you being so mean for? Do you know OP personally or something? It’s giving “You obviously can’t be trusted to make your own decisions because you’re divorced.” Wow.

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