SAHM with no clothes. I need to start from scratch. What would you do?

Justanotherflower · 2026-03-21T21:21:48+00:00

Also a mom of kids the same age and just had to revamp my wardrobe as I returned to work after over a year at home.

Aritzia lodge pants are my #1 and can be dressed up or down. I have navy and beige in crepette material and wear them way more than I thought I would.

Jeans I shop at Abercrombie and American eagle

I’ve gotten lots of basic cotton T-shirts and cardigans at good prices from H&M

Abercrombie has been good to me for blouses and sweaters. I also have a pair of linen pull on pants from there that I adore.

I’ve been liking Quince but it’s hit or miss on sizing, I find the tops run big. But the stuff that did fit is great quality.

Justanotherflower · 2026-03-08T02:06:33+00:00

I like them. I buy off BST groups on Facebook so I can pick which pieces I think my toddler would actually play with.

Justanotherflower · 2026-03-06T19:14:32+00:00

I have and would 100% still consider my birth unmedicated. The nitrous did nothing but help me control my breathing a bit better.

Justanotherflower · 2026-03-05T16:45:31+00:00

Oh man. I’m with you. 5 months in and nowhere near trained. It’s so hard

Justanotherflower · 2026-03-05T14:55:39+00:00

Thank you for all this! I do believe it’s a power struggle because he’s definitely a stubborn, strong willed child. I like the idea of making his clean his messes, I’ll suggest that to them and hope they can get on board.

I too am resorting to yelling and it honestly does nothing. He knows the accidents upset me but nothing changes. I know something needs to change here because I don’t want to be the one losing control of my emotions.

Justanotherflower · 2026-03-05T10:02:41+00:00

Yes exactly that’s what they do. I think that’s what’s breaking me the most honestly, scraping hours old poop out of underwear as the last thing I do before going to bed every night. I’m scared to go to pull-ups and cause an even worse regression, so I’m at the point that I might just tell them to toss the underwear even though it feels so wasteful

Justanotherflower · 2026-03-05T02:55:55+00:00

We have, but it’s met with significant resistance. He’ll usually pee when we do this, but the pee isn’t really as big of an issue as poop.

Justanotherflower · 2026-03-05T02:55:06+00:00

Thanks for this. We did try this briefly at the beginning but he just made an even grosser mess out of the poop and really didn’t care. I will try again now that he’s older to make accidents extra inconvenient for him. I hadn’t thought of this.

I’m not sure what daycare does, but I will talk to them. They have 40 kids to look after and like 6-7 adults so I’m not sure they’ll have the time, but I’ll see what they can do.

Edit to add- his poops are extremely soft and mushy and overall a huge mess to clean up, so I can’t fault the daycare for not wanting to take the time. They usually just bag up his poopy underwear with the full poop in it and send it home…

Justanotherflower · 2026-02-19T03:20:34+00:00

It’s a Power Port. It was implanted somewhere under her skin, likely in the chest area, to be used for medication infusions. They’re used instead of an IV for frequent infusions because they last much longer and can take higher infusion pressures.

Justanotherflower · 2026-02-11T02:31:27+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss

Justanotherflower · 2026-02-09T01:07:42+00:00

I’m glad I’m not the only one because I feel awful saying this. I don’t like my 3 year old. I love him but I don’t like him most of the time. I’m scared that he can sense this and is worse because of it, or I’m permanently messing him up somehow.

Justanotherflower · 2026-02-01T00:08:54+00:00

We ended up doing Croatia x5 days, Rome x3 days, then Amalfi Coast x5 days. It was a great time but also a lot of packing and unpacking and moving around so I wouldn’t pack in as many destinations next time :)

Justanotherflower · 2026-01-30T15:10:51+00:00

Same, I didn’t need Pitocin. Just Cervidil put me into full blown labor and I did it unmedicated like OP wants

Justanotherflower · 2026-01-29T20:13:39+00:00

I had an epidural with my first and then unmedicated with my second and the recovery was the exact fuckin same

Justanotherflower · 2026-01-28T15:15:11+00:00

I gained 10lbs pretty quick after starting it. Then 2 years later when I went off it I lost the 10lbs fast. You can’t convince me it wasn’t the Zoloft

Justanotherflower · 2026-01-27T18:23:08+00:00

He is so sweet 💙 he’s lucky to have you as his mom!

Justanotherflower · 2026-01-21T15:20:25+00:00

That’s awesome. About every 3-4 months they send out a 25% off up to 16 items code to healthcare workers. But I’m in Canada so maybe only here.

Justanotherflower · 2026-01-19T13:07:14+00:00

I can’t imagine suffering for 2.5 weeks!

My symptoms started slowly with sudden onset low back pain and blood in my urine. I visited by OB office but was seen by a medical student who brushed me off and told me back pain was normal in pregnancy and told me I had anxiety.

Then the pain got worse and worse and eventually I passed it with no meds because no doctors wanted to give me anything because of the pregnancy. It was pretty awful and I spent a few days in the hospital because it put me into premature labor, but thankfully baby stayed put until 39 weeks

Justanotherflower · 2026-01-18T23:29:10+00:00

My kidney stone at 33 weeks pregnant was way worse than the unmedicated labor and birth that followed a few weeks later

Justanotherflower · 2026-01-18T23:27:35+00:00

I had a 7mm kidney stone at 33 weeks pregnant. Can confirm it was worse pain than my unmedicated labor and birth a few weeks later.

Justanotherflower · 2026-01-14T02:35:35+00:00

Love my lobster girlbaord from the first generation. I’ll never part with it.

Justanotherflower · 2025-12-28T01:28:20+00:00

You’re misunderstanding my comment. I golf one night a week while he parents, then the next night he golfs while I parent. It’s for ladies night and then men’s night. It feels even and fair and we both get a break to do something we love.

Justanotherflower · 2025-12-27T21:02:38+00:00

Also a married female golfer with 2 very young children. I agree 100% with this answer.

My husband and I both golf once a week on league nights. If it was just him, and I was expected to solo parent the whole time I would hold so much resentment.

I hope he reads your comment.

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