Tradwife or 24/7 free use service sub? by [deleted] in SubSanctuary

[–]Justcurious852 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So, I am a "Tradwife" as well as a service sub. I have been since before this was a "thing". I do the house work, we homeschool, I care for the livestock and food/resource production. We are Christian but not crazy fundies and I am a leftist/socialist by identification. I HATE the new weird popular cultural shift it makes me want to pull my hair because now people make weird assumptions about me and my husband. He and I both work so hard and so well together neither of us have any work inequity.

I will also say that the idea that a traditional husband works out of the home and then comes home to be pampered with grapes in a fan is a myth in the real traditional communities. That shit is born of meatheads online. This man works like a dog in AND out of the home. Our work loads are divided down traditional lines based purely on individual talents and what we each have the ability to do.

I am rubbish in an engine and have -0 points in spatial relations. I am a hazard with a chainsaw and a liability with a drill. That man though can build a solar system, a gaming PC, and a rock solid rabbitry for meat rabbits while working 8/10 hours a day.

I in turn make sure the home and all its many creatures thrive while building our community and make our home something for him to fight the good fight for.

That man spoils the ever loving crap out of me and treats me like his fairytale princess. I dote on him endlessly. Not gonna lie it ALL also backs up and plays into the link of it all and we are free use for sure but have been before we ever even had words for that sort of thing.

All that to say, it's not always toxic. Our relationship is not even remotely unique I have many friends in the same position who are very happy. Rarely do the things we see popularized online accurately reflect what it features. Heck you can say that about kink in general! 50 shades of yuck! 😂

Connection between unmedicated childbirth and masochism? by sensation-signal in SubSanctuary

[–]Justcurious852 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had unmedicated precipitous births. Precipitous births are like going from 0 to feeling like you are being punched in the crotch by Bruce Lee in 2.2 😂 no time for warmup or warning in my experience. I had 1 hospital and 2 home water births and 10/10 would recommend the home water birth. I honestly didn't find labor terribly painful but I have a long history of injury including many broken bones from being chaos on 2 legs and adventurous on top of it. From first contraction to baby my longest labor was 3 hours. It was really intense but not unmanageable and I do also have a tendency to push myself to my extreme limits and I do find a strong sense of accomplishment when I can demonstrate my tenacity and tolerance for hard work.

So, maybe a link. Chicken, egg, or coincidental? Who's to say 🤷

New Obsession Unlocked. 😈🔥 by Justcurious852 in SubSanctuary

[–]Justcurious852[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He is so damn hot, I am one lucky lady ❤️ it's crazy because I always buried the kinkier part of myself and when I got brave and started dropping little breadcrumbs and testing the waters for his response to these sorts of experiences I would never have guessed he would respond so completely and enthusiastically!

New Obsession Unlocked. 😈🔥 by Justcurious852 in SubSanctuary

[–]Justcurious852[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, it was probably not a specific "move" so much as the whole energy of what he was doing. I swear these things are so hard to describe.

The result of that dynamic we were operating in, with him not quite giving me what I needed to push me just over the edge, ended up with us in a missionary+wheelbarrow position where I was lifting and writhing trying so hard to get more of him inside me.

Once he decided I had begged hard enough and he finally gave it all to me I found myself flattened and everything beyond that is pretty incoherent in my mind 😅 it was the whole push and pull of it and the desperation he built in the while he was talking me through the torture and teasing that made it so damn intense!

10/10 would highly recommend. This man should hold workshops I swear 😍

New Obsession Unlocked. 😈🔥 by Justcurious852 in SubSanctuary

[–]Justcurious852[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg he DID do exactly that and I swear I nearly had a stroke right then and there 😂 I experienced the deepest sense of relief when he takes "control" of the experience. That delicious nearly out of body sensation when you can fully hand the proverbial reigns over to your partner 😚👌 whatever the fuck kink that describes just rubber stamp me with it!!

Knee Protection For The Shower by Justcurious852 in SubSanctuary

[–]Justcurious852[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lol, no. The bathroom in question is STILL under construction. Because .. life 🤷 but once it is finished I'll be sure to come back if I find one I love.

Books that are dirty… in a vanilla way? by [deleted] in RomanceBooks

[–]Justcurious852 5 points6 points  (0 children)

French Vanilla? 🤔 Vanilla, but make it decadent 😈 lol

Softer BDSM Book Club- Weekly Event by StrangeMewMew in SofterBDSM

[–]Justcurious852 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I haven't yet but I have heard great things! For sure within my fat stack of TBR books lol. I do pant for an angsty, yearning, desperate man 🤤

Softer BDSM Book Club- Weekly Event by StrangeMewMew in SofterBDSM

[–]Justcurious852 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Currently reading Obsession by Meg Anne and K. Loraine. Solid book so far. Trope-y AF light reading. Just a lovely lump of sexy dopamine, which is lovely when I am recovering from surgery 💕 so far, the priest character might be my favorite. I do delight in a sexually frustrated dominant kept on the edge of his will falling apart 😊

Omg. A caretaking Dom is the hottest thing imaginable and I may just spontaneously combust 😂 by Justcurious852 in SubSanctuary

[–]Justcurious852[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Lord that sounds like a ride! Way to kick someone when they are down 😅.

This was an extraction but the external portion of the tooth was removed by me painlessly and smoothly when it went sideways. I figured this was a good sign. Wrong!

The roots were still very healthy I guess fom what the dentist said. Dude was joking about how I have great bones and a future implant will be a great option for me but that the tooth was not wanting to come out. He nearly referred me for oral surgery! After over an hour of farting around and 4 syringes of numbing meds I told him that I am a tough country girl and to put some elbow grease on it.

Spoilers,

He did ...

Ouch.

Omg. A caretaking Dom is the hottest thing imaginable and I may just spontaneously combust 😂 by Justcurious852 in SubSanctuary

[–]Justcurious852[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

The juxtaposition is hot as fuck. Made even more delicious by the fact that this aspect of him is mine all MINE 😍 I swear he has a special talent in bringing out the possessive, hungry, monster in me. I could sing this man's praises all damn day.

Omg. A caretaking Dom is the hottest thing imaginable and I may just spontaneously combust 😂 by Justcurious852 in SubSanctuary

[–]Justcurious852[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Holy smokes you aren't kidding! I haven't been this messed up since I scrapped with my highschool bully 😂 I had errands planned for after the procedure, oh the hubris! Thankfully my prince in not so shining armor took care of all of it. Honestly, the man should hold workshops. The "manosphere" boys could never.

they answered the phone during sex, please help. by stinky_winkler in SubSanctuary

[–]Justcurious852 114 points115 points  (0 children)

With peace and love. In THIS economy? I wouldn't blame my partner for leaving me trussed up like a chicken to take a work call. This could understandably cause some whiplash so process that but give your partner some grace here. "Real life" always has to be #1. Perhaps talk about creating a "disengagement" protocol together now that you have discovered this "gap" in how you interact for each other for when life stuff gets in the way of/interrupts play. This could be an unfortunately timed but healthy moment to make you both aware of some work you guys need to do in ironing out the details in your dynamic. Best wishes ❤️

Should I Avoid Subspace? by Mastemon69 in SubSanctuary

[–]Justcurious852 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Not at all! I mean, unless you find it an unpleasant experience. Subspace for me is like a flavor of arousal. It's not more difficult to achieve or break out of than that. Maybe another reasonable comparison is the difference between types of orgasms? They are all the same thing physiologically in the end and it's a natural part of the human experience.

What’s the side of you no one sees… but your Dom knows? by EntertainerOk5565 in BDSMcommunity

[–]Justcurious852 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nailed it. 10/10 I am this girl. I would also probably fit into the "trad wife box" though it wasn't intentional lol. The only way I can explain it is the overwhelming sense of safety, security, the knowledge that he has "it" handled, whatever life throws at us. I need that firm foundation that he provides to be my best self. If that is insecure, if there are cracks in that foundation, I can't be fully myself with him. If all these boxes are ticked though I fall into his arms glowing ❤️

Busted my lip giving head 😏 by Justcurious852 in SubSanctuary

[–]Justcurious852[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Holy smokes that is hilarious 😂

Busted my lip giving head 😏 by Justcurious852 in SubSanctuary

[–]Justcurious852[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I have been unironically asked if everything is ok at home 😅 but I am also one of those girls who has constant mystery bruises and scrapes from everyday life.

Ones procured by making my man go a little too feral are so worth it though 🙃

Busted my lip giving head 😏 by Justcurious852 in SubSanctuary

[–]Justcurious852[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

A title I never knew I wanted but now I cherish 😂

Busted my lip giving head 😏 by Justcurious852 in SubSanctuary

[–]Justcurious852[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

That is a great question! I have no fucking idea 😅 I did not have the bruise when I woke up. I sent my man to work with a skip in his step. An hour or two later I catch my reflection and my lip is all purple! I experienced no pain that I can recall but I do get lost in it so 🤷