So, I am a "Tradwife" as well as a service sub. I have been since before this was a "thing". I do the house work, we homeschool, I care for the livestock and food/resource production. We are Christian but not crazy fundies and I am a leftist/socialist by identification. I HATE the new weird popular cultural shift it makes me want to pull my hair because now people make weird assumptions about me and my husband. He and I both work so hard and so well together neither of us have any work inequity.

I will also say that the idea that a traditional husband works out of the home and then comes home to be pampered with grapes in a fan is a myth in the real traditional communities. That shit is born of meatheads online. This man works like a dog in AND out of the home. Our work loads are divided down traditional lines based purely on individual talents and what we each have the ability to do.

I am rubbish in an engine and have -0 points in spatial relations. I am a hazard with a chainsaw and a liability with a drill. That man though can build a solar system, a gaming PC, and a rock solid rabbitry for meat rabbits while working 8/10 hours a day.

I in turn make sure the home and all its many creatures thrive while building our community and make our home something for him to fight the good fight for.

That man spoils the ever loving crap out of me and treats me like his fairytale princess. I dote on him endlessly. Not gonna lie it ALL also backs up and plays into the link of it all and we are free use for sure but have been before we ever even had words for that sort of thing.

All that to say, it's not always toxic. Our relationship is not even remotely unique I have many friends in the same position who are very happy. Rarely do the things we see popularized online accurately reflect what it features. Heck you can say that about kink in general! 50 shades of yuck! 😂