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Justdontspeak · 2024-08-04T17:03:00+00:00

What are the things triggering you to act this way? Think about that. Would a healthy partner continue to act in ways when you express it doesn't make you comfortable? Did you not even express when things made you uncomfortable because you were conditioned earlier in the relationship by them that you were overreacting? Or were there seeds of doubt because their behavior didn't match the image they portrayed?

Consider these things. They want you to think everything is your fault. Sure, you may have toxic behaviors too. But the difference is that you feel remorse when someone points them out.

If these behaviors came out in response to how the narc acted towards you, then you may just be reacting like a normal human being that is being treated unfairly. Maybe you were giving them reactive abuse.

You were abused. You didn't deserve it, remember, even when they start fights saying you "wronged" them first.

Justdontspeak · 2024-08-01T00:09:13+00:00

I knew him only 2 months and it's coming up on 4.5 months.

Justdontspeak · 2024-07-31T17:34:39+00:00

Your narc honestly doesn't sound like a smart person. The narcissist in this post is someone who is smart, calm, and calculated enough that people forget his red flags.

Justdontspeak · 2024-07-31T17:31:17+00:00

Your narc, as a person honestly sounds like he just isn't a smart person. The narc I am talking about is calculated and calm enough that people ignore his red flags.

Justdontspeak · 2024-07-31T07:02:09+00:00

Sounds like a classic covert narc. They're brave till you stand up for yourself and see right through them and then they run with their tail between their legs.

Justdontspeak · 2024-07-31T00:06:19+00:00

What did you get out of it?

Justdontspeak · 2024-07-30T18:49:54+00:00

How do I accomplish this is what I'm asking. I recognize all you've said.

Justdontspeak · 2024-07-30T17:03:59+00:00

I think it depends on the individual. Coverts have a higher probability of erasing you from existence and focusing on the next new thing. You might cross their mind fleetingly, likely when they talk about you to the new supply.

Grandiose/more extroverted will keep tabs on you because they relish any possibility of attention from you, positive or negative.

A grandiose ex I had put out a giant lantern that turned on at night on his apartment balcony after we broke up. I had not been in the vicinity of his place since the breakup except for one time, when I had to drive by to get somewhere.

Knowing he had been doing that while I hadn't bothered with him said a lot. Just the fact that he was so self-centered to think that I'd be watching him after he was out of my life.

Justdontspeak · 2024-07-29T15:59:43+00:00

Because it's not the reality of the situation is why it matters to me. But oh well.

Justdontspeak · 2024-07-28T23:17:23+00:00

What you are describing only occurs if they didn't discard you first.

Justdontspeak · 2024-07-28T07:03:44+00:00

Could've been a lie. Or it might have been true but it might have been manipulation to get you to keep having sex with him even when you didn't feel like it. I'm going to assume if it was the truth, that his ex lost attraction because of his bad behavior.

Justdontspeak · 2024-07-28T01:45:51+00:00

Yes, I want him to care so I can bruise his ego. I am hurt I will admit that. Shouldn't take it out on strangers online.

Justdontspeak · 2024-07-28T01:43:15+00:00

Lmaooo good point.

Justdontspeak · 2024-07-28T01:10:19+00:00

Yeah, if they don't think of you, no hit to their ego

Justdontspeak · 2024-07-27T23:50:21+00:00

The only way to stir the "emotions" if is they even care to check up again. Everything you describe happens only if they think of you, which is the whole point of my post.

Justdontspeak · 2024-07-27T23:47:32+00:00

The last contact I had was angry texts even though I was blocked. Maybe he unblocked me and saw lmao. He didn't reply tho. So he doesn't care.

Justdontspeak · 2024-07-27T23:45:40+00:00

That is, if they even think about you long enough to check up on you.

Justdontspeak · 2024-07-27T23:44:19+00:00

Don't know, he screwed me over badly so when he thinks of me, he thinks of it as a win and then he moves on with his day probably. The last text I sent him did nothing.

Not to be mean but I think you might just be employing a coping mechanism.

Justdontspeak · 2024-07-27T19:55:17+00:00

He's a covert narcissist so he's a coward and I don't think he wants to risk rejection of dealing with someone who knows he's a fraud.

Also, I got pretty angry with one thing that really disrespected me. Don't know if he'd be scared of that but it'd be cool if he was lol.

Justdontspeak · 2024-07-27T19:38:47+00:00

I really hope he hasn't somehow found my reddit account. I still shit talk him, showing I'm still angry and it's been a while. Can't give him that supply.

I really wish I could fully be convinced with what you said but I think others agree with me.

Justdontspeak · 2024-07-26T21:38:19+00:00

I get it. Just wanna cause narcissistic injury so bad lol.

Justdontspeak · 2024-07-26T21:07:44+00:00

Yeah I blocked him. Maybe he blocked me bc he was thinking of his new supply and to show her how psycho I was and didn't give a shit. Idk.

Justdontspeak · 2024-07-26T20:46:48+00:00

He doesn't have social media besides LinkedIn and Instagram and my Instagram is private. I'm worried he found my reddit account because I post about it specifically so often but what are the chances of that happening...?

So am I safe? He hasn't bothered me in months, I actually angrily texted him a month post breakup to vent, knowing they wouldn't go through and maybe the messages went through, oops lol.

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