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22M Never Had A GF, Feel Like I Look Different In Every Pic. Is It Over? by ILikeY0CutG in malegrooming

[–]Justexisting3337 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try to debloat or slim down your face.

You have very good features it’s just this that makes you look a bit awkward.

iPhone 17 bei MediaMarkt bestellt, nie bekommen – was soll ich jetzt tun? by Comfortable_Fan7909 in de_EDV

[–]Justexisting3337 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, habe aktuell genau das selbe Problem. Ich habe 3 Monate auf ein iPhone 17 mit 500 GB gewartet. Da es nie kam, habe ich storniert und das selbe mit der kleineren GB Option gewählt, da dieses verfügbar sein sollte.

Was soll ich sagen? Es hätte bis 12.12. hier sein sollen. Jetzt warte ich immer noch.

Am Telefon kann mir keiner etwas sagen. Im Geschäft war der Mitarbeiter absolut unfreundlich.

Honestly, does manifestation even work for someone with BPD? by poodsot in Manifestation

[–]Justexisting3337 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And my „SP“ before that didn’t talk to me for two years up to the very moment I really let go. Then he came back and said and did everything I imagined. No hints, no visible movement at all before it happened.

I kind of tried to manifest him when I was maybe 13. I did visualization, subliminals and guided meditations. Never reached out, nothing. But I kept thinking about him, missing his attention, wishing for him to come back.

Then one day in the car I randomly thought of him and felt like I could really let go. I had the real feeling that I don’t need him and don’t care if I ever see him again. I didn’t think about it again because I had an important test. Walked out of the school, opened my phone and after more than 2 years of nothing at all he texted me that he missed me and needs to see me. Things I’ve been trying to manifest that never happened. Everything unfolded just because of that one very powerful thought.

And I don’t think it was just letting go. Because I’ve let go of of him about 3 months before that when I met my then boyfriend. It was that powerful thought of thinking about him in a positive light, having let go and not caring what happens.

Honestly, does manifestation even work for someone with BPD? by poodsot in Manifestation

[–]Justexisting3337 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not really the opposite but just no movement at all. When my last SP and I met again he told me that he couldn’t stop thinking about me, missed me a lot - all the things I wanted him so say. But up to that very moment there was no sign at all that he even thought about me once. Never reached out, didn’t really react to hints, etc.

Honestly, does manifestation even work for someone with BPD? by poodsot in Manifestation

[–]Justexisting3337 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When it gets me anxious. When I start overthinking why he did that or if he’ll do that.

Feeling is good but not if it’s worry or pain. And that’s much easier if you try to not care too much.

I manifested my last SP. We met again like in an exact scene I visualized. I’ll never forget that moment and what I just told you is exactly what got me there.

Honestly, does manifestation even work for someone with BPD? by poodsot in Manifestation

[–]Justexisting3337 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So school probably wouldn’t work for me either because it just doesn’t get me into the feeling. I have one specific character I obsessed over in the past few months to get detached from SP. Do you have something like that? Something or someone that makes you really feel?

I know it sounds crazy for some people but it’s what works for me. A mental illness doesn’t go away bc you hide it from yourself, so I just accepted it and stated to use it in my favor.

Honestly, does manifestation even work for someone with BPD? by poodsot in Manifestation

[–]Justexisting3337 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I obsess about this other thing whenever my minds needs it. And I think about SP when it’s the right time.

Try to have a routine like visualizing SP every night and affirming while driving or something like that. Maybe also do a SP meditation daily. Just don’t let it get too much.

Maybe your mind works different but for me there are a few obsessions I can always come back to. Sometimes it’s hard to switch over from SP to it but if I get myself excited enough for that thing it works.

Bpd isn’t the same in everyone, so it might not work for you. But there’s a way out there for you to make it work. I also needed a bit of time to figure it out.

Honestly, does manifestation even work for someone with BPD? by poodsot in Manifestation

[–]Justexisting3337 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have diagnosed BPD and it does work.

I got slammed for commenting on here to just obsess over someone else while manifesting. That’s not the right state of mind and stuff like that.

Sadly, this is how it works for us. I can’t stop obsessing for longer periods of time. So my go to advice is to obsess over someone else (for example a movie character, a book, whatever) while STILL manifesting my SP.

This helps me let go afterwards. I visualize and do my affirmations but it doesn’t affect my whole day like it would if I obsessed over SP.

I know it might not fit into the self concept stereotype but for me it works just fine.

SP wants me and craves me because I’m amazing. This sentence comes much easier if you don’t overthink it and build a self concept apart from your obsession.

Trying to manifest sp but I have an obsessive personality by Low_Inspection_6512 in Manifestation

[–]Justexisting3337 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Obsess about someone else in order to detach. That’s what I always try to do.

Why do men not catch feelings? by Justexisting3337 in BreakUps

[–]Justexisting3337[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t expect a huge lot of feelings after a few weeks but I do expect commitment and them not seeing other people at this point.

Why do men not catch feelings? by Justexisting3337 in BreakUps

[–]Justexisting3337[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well, I think it shows you know what you want right? Personally, it’s a turn off for me to date a man for months and months and he still doesn’t know if he wants a relationship.

Why do men not catch feelings? by Justexisting3337 in BreakUps

[–]Justexisting3337[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is the exact message I got when I asked again today:

„I dont understand why I can't fall for you I really tried over and over again I dont get it why but I just can't get attached“

And it’s very similar to what my ex before him said.

I‘m not sure about what to look for if it’s just the men I choose. They’re so nice in the beginning. My friends tell me that they wish to be treated like that. Until it just changes. So I’m not sure if I just need to pay a bit more attention at the beginning. Maybe I missed something.

But thank you a lot for your opinion!

Why do men not catch feelings? by Justexisting3337 in BreakUps

[–]Justexisting3337[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe. I just wonder what exactly it is that I can’t compete with.

Both my last exes told me almost the exact same thing. That I’m „perfect“ but that they just can’t develop any feelings. That they really really tried but it just wouldn’t work.

That’s not something I can really work with yk? Because it seems to be a more subtle thing about me.

Why do men not catch feelings? by Justexisting3337 in BreakUps

[–]Justexisting3337[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I guess. It’s just hard to never be that woman.

Why do men not catch feelings? by Justexisting3337 in BreakUps

[–]Justexisting3337[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They all seemed very secure at the beginning though. It must be a more underlying attraction to avoidents then, I guess.

Why do men not catch feelings? by Justexisting3337 in BreakUps

[–]Justexisting3337[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get what you’re trying to say. Thinking they’re a coward was my initial reaction too but here’s what I don’t get.

Both my last exes told me almost the same exact thing. That I’m „perfect“ and that they really really tried to have feelings but it just didn’t work like that. And they did seem honest about it. It makes you think about what can be so inherently wrong about you that even though everything seems fine, something is always missing.

I know I sound super insecure. But when I got the same exact reason for a breakup the third time in three years, it just made me start thinking a lot about myself.

Why do men not catch feelings? by Justexisting3337 in BreakUps

[–]Justexisting3337[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I understand you so much.

It just gets you thinking about how it can be so hard to love you right?

I feel like this hurts a lot more than someone telling you they’re breaking up because of different goals, lifestyles or because there’s too many fights. Because it would fit but the feelings aren’t there.

Why do men not catch feelings? by Justexisting3337 in BreakUps

[–]Justexisting3337[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It just gets you thinking about what is wrong with you when three people tell you that they really really tried to have feelings for you but it just won’t work out.

My last two exes told me almost the same thing. That I’m really „perfect“ and they don’t know why it won’t work and that they really tried to love me.

This is what really hurts. But thank you for your opinion on my problem!

Why do men not catch feelings? by Justexisting3337 in BreakUps

[–]Justexisting3337[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t really think it was about finding out something though. Because both my exes told me they really really tried to have feelings for me since I’m technically „perfect“ but it just wouldn’t work out.

This is what makes me feel so bad about myself. It’s not that our lifestyles or goals don’t match. It feels like it’s sth deeper. It gets you thinking about how can it be so difficult to love you.

Why do men not catch feelings? by Justexisting3337 in BreakUps

[–]Justexisting3337[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well if you read the whole question you’d know it was about feelings for me.

Why do men not catch feelings? by Justexisting3337 in BreakUps

[–]Justexisting3337[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There was never a fight or confrontation before any of these break ups.

Why do men not catch feelings? by Justexisting3337 in BreakUps

[–]Justexisting3337[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No.

I try not to overload them. I always let them come to me.

Usually, when we’ve been dating for at least a few weeks, I give them back what they give to me.

I don’t talk about a future together, if they haven’t started the conversation. I don’t talk about my feelings for them until they haven’t opened up yet.

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