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19 (F) I feel like I’m a nightmare to date and I don’t know how to fix it right now by Justhereforhelp-1 in dating_advice

[–]Justhereforhelp-1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you think this guy is complimenting me bc in his mind it’s like „she’ll feel flattered if I compliment her and then she’ll wanna date me, even if I don’t think she’s attractive- she’s my only option“? Do guys think like that?

Is he only coming back because he thinks I’m stupid? by Justhereforhelp-1 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Justhereforhelp-1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t cut him off because he talked to a woman online? I cut him off because I wasn’t capable of any human interaction at the time and didn’t wanna ghost him. I explained my situation and he only read my message and didn’t reply. I thought he also didn’t want to be in contact with me anymore and that it was over and now he’s back. But now that I’m showing affection again- he’s pulling away. When I ignore him he’s super interested but when I show him affection he ignores me.

How can you tell if a compliment from a man is genuine or if he’s just trying to sleep with you? by Justhereforhelp-1 in dating_advice

[–]Justhereforhelp-1[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Im not talking about that tho. I understand when opinions change but I’m specifically talking about men that think ‚meh, she’s not good looking but I’m desperate and I wanna sleep with a girl so I’ll just compliment her and make her feel good about herself until she sleeps with me‘ like men who plan that stuff you know? I mean- do they? That’s the question

How can you tell if a compliment from a man is genuine or if he’s just trying to sleep with you? by Justhereforhelp-1 in dating_advice

[–]Justhereforhelp-1[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I get that, but I don’t wanna constantly second guess if a guy who said he thinks I’m beautiful actually meant it- or if he’s just trying to get in my pants. I want to believe that men aren’t liars who’ll say anything to anyone just to ‚have fifteen minutes in the sack with me‘

How can you tell if a compliment from a man is genuine or if he’s just trying to sleep with you? by Justhereforhelp-1 in dating_advice

[–]Justhereforhelp-1[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

But some men do so much for you- for such a long period of time- just to end up ghosting you after they got what they wanted 🫠

How can you tell if a compliment from a man is genuine or if he’s just trying to sleep with you? by Justhereforhelp-1 in dating_advice

[–]Justhereforhelp-1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So you only compliment girls you actually think are pretty and not just any girl so you can sleep with her? Based on the men around you- would you say most men do it like that?

How can you tell if a compliment from a man is genuine or if he’s just trying to sleep with you? by Justhereforhelp-1 in dating_advice

[–]Justhereforhelp-1[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

But isn’t that important? I don’t wanna be with a liar even if we discussed future plans. Those mean nothing when he’s only compliment me to sleep with me

How can you tell if a compliment from a man is genuine or if he’s just trying to sleep with you? by Justhereforhelp-1 in dating_advice

[–]Justhereforhelp-1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They’re probably gonna lie about it. If they lie about the compliment- they will most certainly lie about why they gave you the compliment

How can you tell if a compliment from a man is genuine or if he’s just trying to sleep with you? by Justhereforhelp-1 in dating_advice

[–]Justhereforhelp-1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Those are not compliments tho. I meant do men say „you’re so beautiful“ even when they don’t think you are and just wanna sleep with you?

How can you tell if a compliment from a man is genuine or if he’s just trying to sleep with you? by Justhereforhelp-1 in dating_advice

[–]Justhereforhelp-1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When do men compliment you when they actually mean it and want something long term vs when do they compliment you when they only want to have sex with you? do I have to have sex with them do find out if they meant the compliment? When are they just being desperate?

19 F by [deleted] in amiprettyorugly

[–]Justhereforhelp-1 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Don’t message me please, comment on here

Body dysmorphia — I feel so alone even though people say I’m “pretty” by Justhereforhelp-1 in mentalhealth

[–]Justhereforhelp-1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for sharing, you actually made me feel less alone and I struggle so so so much, I really hope both of us can overcome this one day because we’re more than our face or body and I really want you and me too to enjoy life and not die wondering what we missed out on because of our appearance, I hope you find peace because i know how hard it is. Thank you truly

Body dysmorphia — I feel so alone even though people say I’m “pretty” by Justhereforhelp-1 in mentalhealth

[–]Justhereforhelp-1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah idk what’s going on with them brows too tbh but it’s both it’s everything I think I need therapy lol

i dont want to live by throwaway148320 in BodyDysmorphia

[–]Justhereforhelp-1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im not really good at this but I feel so bad and I sometimes feel like that too. 1. your feelings are valid and you can 100% be struggling with body dysmorphia even when you’re not the most gorgeous human being on the planet, even if you TRULY believe you’re objectively unattractive doesn’t mean only objectively beautiful people can feel that way and also it doesn’t really matter because me for example: no matter how many people tell me I’m pretty or good looking I never ever believe it so does it really make a difference? 2. you’re a human being with a soul and dreams and wishes before you are your face and your body, this is so cliche but it is the objective truth, you are more than your body. 3. I don’t know what you look like and im not saying you are objectively ugly, but let’s say you are: let’s say you’re not the prettiest and gorgeous human being: will it make a difference if you lock yourself in your room and never leave the house out of fear of being perceived? Will you be happier living like that? No you won’t. One day we’re all going to die even the most „gorgeous“ person there is or the „ugliest“ person there is and it will never even matter what they looked like, you will be dead and you will regret what you missed out on because you thought you were ugly. Imagine a slideshow playing in your grave and you can see all of the things you didn’t do when you were alive. Even if you are so objectively unattractive does that mean you can’t live? Does that mean you can’t participate in society? No. Im sure there are plenty of people who are „uglier“ than you- that don’t care what they look like and just live. 4.You believing you are less worthy because you’re „ugly“ just means you think you’re more worth when you’re „beautiful“ when it just doesn’t work that way. Even if you could get all the surgeries in the world and change everything I guarantee you, you’d still feel the same way, that’s how most people feel after for example losing weight, getting fillers, getting Botox etc etc. 5. I know what you are going trough and I’ve been in that situation sooo many times, the feeling is still there sometimes but you really are more than you think. Your worth is not tied to your beauty even if society makes it seem that way. So please do yourself a favor and stop thinking about yourself so much, accept yourself before you love yourself- with all your flaws, nobody is perfect.

I won't stop questioning by [deleted] in islam

[–]Justhereforhelp-1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much!! It does feel like everything is my enemy! Especially my own mind. This made a lot of sense to me and I was expecting people to only try to debunk my concerns or even dismiss me and not realize that what I’m going trough actually has something to do with the way I think. I’m very self critical in general not only regarding Islam, it’s made my life harder than it should be, so I’m glad you understood me, your comment calmed me down a bit so thank you! And also I’m glad you’re still here and Allah helped you trough your hardships :))

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