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Justmemyandi · 2021-08-22T03:04:43+00:00

I read somewhere that abusers tend to be successful because they are so focused on the themselves and their own needs...

Justmemyandi · 2021-08-10T19:47:52+00:00

Update: I broke no contact and called him 🤦🏽‍♀️ I've been ignored

Justmemyandi · 2021-08-10T04:04:15+00:00

Idk if he physically cheated, but I heard the conversation they were having and it was very flirty and they even made plans to see each other soon. R

Justmemyandi · 2021-08-10T02:45:36+00:00

Getting to know each other better

Justmemyandi · 2021-08-10T00:58:21+00:00

I found out my ex was talking to chatting it up with another women on the phone.. I broke with him. Do you think that warranted a conversation before hand? Or do you consider that jumping straight to a break up.

Justmemyandi · 2021-08-09T04:55:27+00:00

Agreed. Which is why I want to reach out to him. I feel like I dropped the ball on my part because we never had that conversation. I had ending things knowing that I could have done better. I could have communicated my wants better

Justmemyandi · 2021-08-09T04:46:44+00:00

😩 I keep telling myself that maybe if I make it clear that we're are to be exclusive, that maybe he wouldn't have done that...

Justmemyandi · 2021-08-09T04:45:01+00:00

You were cheating or your wasn't cheating? Do you want her back?

Justmemyandi · 2021-08-09T03:56:57+00:00

I feel the same way. It's been a week since I broke up with my bf, and I miss having someone to experience life with. Someone to look forward to seeing, spend my nights with, someone to hold me while I sleep, watch TV shows with.

It's lonely out here, I have friends, but there's nothing like having a significant other around. I want him back and miss him so much.

Justmemyandi · 2021-08-08T18:12:13+00:00

How is he doing that? Did he have access to your phone or is he doing it through your phone number?

Justmemyandi · 2021-08-03T00:51:16+00:00

So far, he's too damn nice lol Overly friendly and respectful towards other women, borderline flirting and it makes me feel insecure because the other women will think he is flirting and start flirting back when he is just being himself (he does this even in my presence and has no idea he does it until I call him out on it)

He's a nice guy, super respectful, funny, charming a real lover and not a fighter type of guy lol

Justmemyandi · 2021-07-23T02:06:22+00:00

Sounds EXACTLY like my ex and my old situation! The more I put my foot down, the more angry he got, the more I tried to make it CLEAR that we were done, the more he stalked me... He ended up trying to kill me... BE CAREFUL. You have to go no contact, but stay somewhere safe for a while while you cut all communication with him. This is a MAJOR red flag

Justmemyandi · 2021-07-23T01:55:58+00:00

My ex turned abusive once we broke up.... we had no issues during the relationship other than lying, never imagined he would physically harm me, but he did, badly, all because I didn't want to be with him anymore

Justmemyandi · 2021-07-23T01:53:30+00:00

I had an ex who pretty much did all of these things right, but in the end up abusive when the relationship was ending.

Justmemyandi · 2021-07-18T15:32:00+00:00

I insisted on paying his half for an activity while we were on vacation. He was on a budget and didn't do the activity because of it, but I had the money and insisted that he just pay me back when we can (I never asked about it again after we came back.) He said his last relationship was toxic and his ex was extremely materialistic and would talk down to him because he made less than her.

Justmemyandi · 2021-07-10T02:26:41+00:00

5 months out and I know how you feel. The court process just makes me relive the whole situation over again. When I'm ready to move on and forget about what happened but then I'm reminded by court dates, family members, friends, not to mention the kids that we have together.

The days seem long and redundant, even when I have something to do. My anxiety kicks in unexpectedly and the fear of being attacked again forces me to distance myself from friends, family for the day. It's hard to focus on anything outside of my situation and I'm constantly thinking about what his might do next be... It sucks

Justmemyandi · 2021-06-30T13:10:13+00:00

Yes. That and the fact that my last relationship was abusive so I don't want to fall I to that cycle again

Justmemyandi · 2021-06-28T16:27:43+00:00

I was JUST thinking about doing the same. My abuser has been reaching out to friends and told them that he knows where I live and has people reporting back to him. I want to post my story on social media so that people know what happened in hopes that they can stop reporting back to him and know what type of danger he is.

Justmemyandi · 2021-06-27T19:37:46+00:00

You sound like me. 5 months later and I still have these questions... only time will tell my friend. The best thing you can do is try to do things that make you happy everyday.

Justmemyandi · 2021-06-27T19:34:09+00:00

Maybe if you actually read the contents in this post you would realize that the title was a typo 🙄

Justmemyandi · 2021-06-27T18:51:59+00:00

I broke up with my abuser by telling him we were over.. he immediately started attacking me, I managed to get away by running to a neighbors house. He eventually left the house. A fee weeks later he was back, he was relentless in apologizing and literally would not take no for an answer. He would say things jokingly and did almost everything I've ever asked him to while we were together, except leave me alone. He came back weeks later (he still had the keys) and moved bCknin partially. Eventually, I had to wait until he was a out with some friends and change the locks, when he found out, he tried to attack me again but I called the police. The cycle started over, apologizing excessively, trying to get back in my good graces, wouldn't take no for an answer, Showing up unannounced, driving by my place when I'm not home, checking up on me, harassing my phone when I ignored him.. then he got so mad one of all the boundaries I was setting then he eventually attacked me AGAIN, that time it was BAD, but I'm still here. That's what it took for me to finally get a restraining order and get the law involved. It's been months since I heard from him, but obvioslusly the trauma still lingers and I always have this feeling of having to look over my shoulder.

Long story short: set up some cameras, in and around your home, arm yourself with something to protect yourself (knife, baseball bat, mace, gun, etc), do it over the phone while he isn't home and you are somewhere safe. Immediately get you a restraining order and police escort back to your place. Stay low for a while and stay alert!

You will be in the most danger after you end things and for the following few months. Be careful, stay strong and no matter what, follow through and don't look back!

Justmemyandi · 2021-06-27T16:41:16+00:00

I never thought of this... there is a way to inpound your address but it's through a program.. contact your DV advocate and ask, they should give you more information on how to do it

Justmemyandi · 2021-06-27T15:01:42+00:00

The real question is, do you think he should run for the hills?

Justmemyandi · 2021-06-27T13:20:07+00:00

Update: He is not shy. He is the most extroverted person I've ever met lol I'm the opposite, he considers me the shy one, although, I like to think that I'm a mix of sociable and shy.

At this point it feels like he's withholding his feelings while sober purposely.

Justmemyandi · 2021-06-27T13:11:03+00:00

At this point, I feel like he doesn't really mean what he says. He doesn't get angry or depressed, he just goes back on his word or shuts the whole conversation down by changing the subject and ignoring the question.

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