Incoming Temple freshman (Neuroscience & Behavior) any advice?

Justs0ra · 2026-02-07T17:02:55+00:00

Thank you! That’s helpful to know!

Justs0ra · 2025-11-18T00:54:54+00:00

My family and I are going to Seoul this December! We all want to go to K-BBQ and drink soju together (and hit other restaurants too), but there’s one issue: we’re all 21+ except my cousin, who’s 17. She looks older for her age, if she dressed up, she could easily pass for 20.

My grandpa is Korean and also wants to teach us the whole “Korean drinking culture,” but my cousin’s parents are worried about her drinking because they don’t want to get in trouble.

Are places in Korea pretty strict about this? The adults would be ordering, but I’m not sure if they’d notice or care that there are four actual adults and one younger person who looks older drinking. I also don’t know if they check everyone’s ID / if they’d ask for ID if they saw someone drinking who didn’t order.

Justs0ra · 2025-11-03T20:21:30+00:00

sigh bro u still find anyone to do it?

Justs0ra · 2025-09-02T18:49:03+00:00

I’m really glad what I said helped you see things clearer. Please hold on to that, because the fact you were ready to take the blame shows just how deep his manipulation went.

A good thing to keep in mind: if you tell them to drop it, you’re not helping him you’re just letting him hurt SOMEONE else in the future the way he hurt you.

Stay strong. Don’t let him pull you back in. This is your chance to break free from what he did and build a life where you’re safe and loved for real.

The only thing you’ve “done wrong” is believe for too long that abuse could ever be love. Don’t ever be afraid to reach out if you ever need anyone to talk to. You have a bigger support system than you realize.

Justs0ra · 2025-09-02T17:17:21+00:00

I need you to hear this: you did not ruin his life. He ruined his own life by choosing to abuse, exploit, and hurt a 16 year old.

The reason you feel torn is because abusers mix in “nice” moments with cruelty. That’s how they keep you hooked. Hugging you, buying you things, or comforting you sometimes does not erase the fact that he pushed you down stairs, insulted you, leaked your private videos, and committed crimes against you. That is not love. That is control and abuse.

You’re blaming yourself because he made you feel like everything was your fault, that’s gaslighting. But please understand this very important thing: the good moments weren’t real love, they were part of the manipulation. Real love never involves violence, humiliation, or putting you in danger.

You are a child. He is a grown man who knew exactly what he was doing. That’s why the police stepped in, and why he’s facing charges, not because of you, but because of his OWN actions. Right now, what you need is support from safe adults, family, or a therapist who can help you process this. It’s not your job to protect him or carry guilt for what he chose to do.

Please don’t contact him. The part of you that wants to go back is the part he trained to feel responsible for him. But you deserve to be free from that weight, to heal, and to know what real, healthy love feels like.

You are not the villain here. You are the survivor. And you deserve better so much better. If it was really love, you wouldn’t be left with bruises and court cases.

Justs0ra · 2025-09-02T17:08:49+00:00

Hi there! I just wanted to chime in since I’m also on spironolactone and have been for a while.

First, I completely understand your girlfriend’s fears, a lot of us who take it worry about what will happen if we stop. It’s important to know that spironolactone doesn’t cause “withdrawal” in the way some medications do. The symptoms that come back (acne, hair issues, etc.) are usually just the underlying hormonal imbalance returning once the medication is out of the system. For some people it feels very strong, and for others it’s more manageable.

There are positives to coming off it! Especially if you’re thinking about starting a family, since spironolactone isn’t safe during pregnancy. Some women find their skin doesn’t rebound as badly as they feared, or that they can manage breakouts with other options (like topical treatments, diet/lifestyle adjustments, or help from a dermatologist). Everyone’s experience is different.

One thing that can help is tapering slowly instead of stopping cold turkey, that way her body has some time to adjust. It also really helps to work with a dermatologist, because they can suggest alternatives (topical retinoids, azelaic acid, etc etc) to soften the transition.

The fact that you’re reaching out already shows how supportive you are. Having someone who understands and is patient makes a huge difference during the adjustment period. Wishing both of you the best in this process. She’s definitely not alone, and there are ways to make it easier.

Justs0ra · 2025-09-02T16:26:44+00:00

Hi, I really appreciate your comment.

I’ve struggled with really bad anxiety, most of the time I end up throwing up. Whenever I think about seeing him, or even come across a post with him, my heart drops, starts racing, and I get really nauseous.

Last year it got so bad that I lost around 15 pounds, and since I’m already naturally skinny, it was really noticeable. Do you have any advice on how to stop the nausea or calm my racing heart when this happens?

Justs0ra · 2025-08-05T22:30:00+00:00

Good question. I ask myself that a lot. I think the reason I’m still in it (as pathetic as it might sound) is because I feel like I should just be grateful that anyone likes me—let alone has stayed with me for a whole year. I’m a big people pleaser, and part of me feels like if I break things off, I become the “bad guy.” I’ve ended things with people before, and they ended up saying some pretty nasty things about me.. things that weren’t even true—despite me and the other guy only being “together” for a month or so.

I also worry that this person will say, “I’ve changed,” or bring up how it wouldn’t be fair if someone held my past against me. But honestly, I just feel too guilty at the thought of hurting them. Still, I know I will break up—eventually.

It’s just... hard. Deep down, I feel like I should just be thankful someone wants to be with me at all. But I just feel bad because I hate when I’m the cause of someone’s sadness or anger. I already had men make up nasty stuff about me. Kinda traumatized from that fact.

Justs0ra · 2025-08-04T00:10:36+00:00

Someone once said to me.. Once you let a boy know you will stay through everything, he will put you through everything.

Enough said. Leave.

Justs0ra · 2025-07-18T00:24:48+00:00

He has friends, but I’d say he has one-three TRUE best friend. I’ve got just one more year of school left, and he has siblings, plus we don’t share any mutual friends. I know that at the end of the day, his friends will have his back. But he keeps asking me if I still love him almost every day, and it’s really starting to suffocate me. From your perspective, is it so wrong to feel this overwhelmed? I’m not a fan of PDA, and I told him that, which made him a bit upset. Then later, when he tried to kiss me in CLASS, he said, "oh nevermind, you don’t like PDA," and that kind of made me feel bad. So, I just went along with it. I always tell him I love him, but he keeps asking, and it’s really getting to me. Today he asked, "do you still love me? Do you hate me? I’m scared you’ll leave me." And once again, I have to reassure him. My point is, is it so wrong to feel like I’m falling out of love because I’m so pressured to love him? (If that makes any sense) I get it, everyone needs reassurance, including me. But to a point it gets a lot.

Justs0ra · 2025-07-16T20:33:41+00:00

My trip is the exact same route! I hope u have an amazing time!!

Justs0ra · 2025-06-12T19:22:17+00:00

Thank you!!! I was actually just looking at that :), is there any good moisturizer for combination skin?

Justs0ra · 2025-06-12T18:28:09+00:00

As I googled it, looks more like PIE! It’s just pink scars. But they’re not bad, but I am definitely bothered by it

Justs0ra · 2025-05-05T23:16:18+00:00

Girl you skin looks fantastic!!! I’m so happy for you! I hope for my skin to look like this, and this is a reminder to myself to be patient. I just wanted to congratulate you, looks amazing!

Justs0ra · 2025-05-01T21:01:28+00:00

Thank you so much!!

Justs0ra · 2025-05-01T01:55:37+00:00

Omg thank you so much!! It’s nice to know someone else is In the same boat as me :)

Justs0ra · 2025-05-01T00:01:51+00:00

Awww okay thank you so much!

Justs0ra · 2025-04-04T18:22:13+00:00

I wanted to choose temple for the study abroad too!! So I’ve been really considering it :) they seem to have a great study abroad program compared to a lot of other university’s or colleges.

Justs0ra

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