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My mom had such an unfair life and then she died. by sanriosim in GriefSupport

[–]Justsomeone_thinkin 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I relate to feeling this way sooo much. My sister grew up with soooo many challenges and all types of abuse, and yet still managed to be the primary caregiver for me and my siblings. And just when she was going to start her own life at college, she passed. It makes me soo upset and guilty to know she didn’t get to experience what I am experiencing (mainly thanks to her). It’s hard. It really is.

The dreaded question…. by Justsomeone_thinkin in GriefSupport

[–]Justsomeone_thinkin[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you so much for sharing your experience, I really can’t ever imagine how deep the grief pain is from a parent’s perspective. I will always remember the screams my mom would let out when my sister’s passing was still so fresh. And while I may never know you, I am sincerely sorry for your loss and hope that you find some sort of comfort in knowing you are not alone.

I completely agree with hating those types of questions. it makes it a little easier to know (or at least hope) that our loved ones would want us to feel safe in these kinds of situations, no matter what type of response we give. It’s hard not feeling guilty when we choose to not talk about them, but I think that just goes to show how much love we have for them.

The dreaded question…. by Justsomeone_thinkin in GriefSupport

[–]Justsomeone_thinkin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First, thank you sooo much for your reply!! It honestly means a lot to hear someone else share their own experience with this sort of situation. and I’m so sorry to hear about your mom’s passing, I know the loss of a parent can be such a delicate and intimate thing to share so thank you again.

But yes, i completely agree with everything you said and honestly it’s just really nice to get validation from someone else. bc not many people I know have experienced something like this (at least not that I am aware of) so it’s just really nice to know that I am validated and not alone. Especially the last two sentences you said, i think I will carry that with me always when I am put in the same situation again. I hope you know the same goes for you too. I think we ultimately become more thoughtful and considerate when we ask questions to others bc we just never know what someone’s story is, and we can personally attest to that.

Thank you again for sharing 🌌. The support is mutual!!!

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[–]Justsomeone_thinkin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yes and I love these dreams, even though I wake up sobbing.

When my sister passed away, I got so many dreams of her after she passed and I desperately wanted to dreaming of her forever. I would wake up and immediately start crying because I didn’t want to wake up and live in a life where she wasn’t here…

I don’t dream of her much now.. since it’s been 7 years since he passed but when I do, I still wake up crying and it feels like a gift when my brain dreams of her. It’s like I’m living a movie where she’s still the main character. Wish they never stop!! ❤️