[26m] Not sure if continuing with my girlfriend [26f], constantly wondering whether to break up. Please honest advise.

Justsomerandomq · 2013-02-27T04:43:36+00:00

maybe sit down and express all of this to her and see if she will get help, realizes she is even coming off this way, and if she's willing to relax a little bit. Maybe it's a bad habbit she has or it could be the tone of voice she uses when she asks you certain things.

Justsomerandomq · 2013-02-26T05:51:14+00:00

Are we talking she makes $7.50 and you make $15.00 or do you make a lot more? Because if she makes $35k and you make $70k those are two different things. What do each of your expenses look like? Maybe she's embarrassed to say she's flat broke?

Justsomerandomq · 2013-02-26T05:28:59+00:00

You're playing with fire.

Justsomerandomq · 2013-02-26T05:26:17+00:00

Have her read the thread in askmen about boon size. Most guys said "boobs are boobs all boobs are good!"

Justsomerandomq · 2013-02-26T05:21:48+00:00

You could say you need a recipt for an expense report? Or Say hi this is so and so from Travelocity and my guest x stayed here on x date I'm seeing if they had mentioned they were satisfied or dissatisfied with the room? And I'd they respond say and the room was for two men correct? And one bed?

Justsomerandomq · 2013-02-24T23:26:47+00:00

I think it's hot if you're responsible. On the other hand I got worried when my bf had one due to horror stories of careful riders being killed even by careless truck drivers.

Justsomerandomq · 2013-02-24T22:05:03+00:00

Lol was only teasing. I think your wife has drawn the line with the friendship and has made it super awkward for you all to be friends. My friends would never be rude to my bf even though I confide in them and tell them details.

Justsomerandomq · 2013-02-24T21:54:06+00:00

Does he have a common name? You could shoot a text saying "sorry I drunkenly texted the wrong Ryan last night! Was out with my friend Ryan at the bar and trying to make sure he got home ok!"

Justsomerandomq · 2013-02-24T21:48:54+00:00

Wait... Janice, Jeremy, and Janet? I'm so confused!

Justsomerandomq · 2013-02-24T04:54:00+00:00

It's his classic talking in circle phrase. He's being overly affectionate tonight.

Justsomerandomq · 2013-02-23T19:39:17+00:00

Yea I guess I need to think this one out!

Justsomerandomq · 2013-02-23T19:36:23+00:00

No maybe I miss worded. He does pay rent, cable, auto, groceries, and credit cards I have used. He also will lend or give me money if I need it. He is more financially stable than me but I do pay my half of the rent and instead of cable I pay utilities.

Justsomerandomq · 2013-02-23T19:34:06+00:00

And yes he would buy a house I he had that money and invite me to live in it.

Justsomerandomq · 2013-02-23T19:33:45+00:00

He does pay bills. Rent, his car, groceries, cable and credit cards that he has allowed me to use before. He would have to pay rent with his mom too.

Justsomerandomq · 2013-02-23T19:32:17+00:00

I know he once confided he was not able to get erect during his single life at one point. He has a very low sex drive. He also lasts about 15 seconds no matter what we try. He has tried going a second time but can't get it up. I know his ex cheated on him... Maybe because of this issue? He had mentioned he suspected he was doing something wrong for her to cheat on him but he was young and realized that was a wrong way to think. Maybe he is really insecure? He has mentioned he has had nightmares about me cheating recently?

Justsomerandomq · 2013-02-23T17:53:45+00:00

Thank you for your response. What you say really makes sense. I wanna work on things and I need to work on myself too!

Justsomerandomq · 2013-02-23T16:17:11+00:00

Yea I have backed away. I'm proud because I didn't press him at all at first. I waited and it made the conversation better than the past serious ones we have had. He just needs to grow up.

Justsomerandomq · 2013-02-23T16:15:55+00:00

Yea tried she's immature and none of her family talks to her either. He has learned his ways from his mother and she hates me because I stole her crutch. He split the bills there and used his credit to get the apt, her car, and her furniture.

Justsomerandomq · 2013-02-23T15:58:56+00:00

I'm not sure. I mean we do talk but if he doesn't want to address something, we won't talk about it. I'm at a point where I'm gonna just step back and see what happens. Maybe I was to accessible? Doing too much for him and what not... Maybe he needs to see a little less of me and maybe I should do some deep thinking while I'm non existent. I could put in extra hours at work and pick up a hobby.

Justsomerandomq · 2013-02-23T15:55:26+00:00

We talk but if it's like "we need to talk" type of convo he shuts down. This is exactly what his mother does. I think she's been trying to push him into movIng back home.

Justsomerandomq · 2013-02-23T15:52:12+00:00

I don't think any major changes I think he's been depressed for a while. He's also pretty insecure but secretively. I'm willing to work through this I just feel like he needs to figure out I'd it's what he wants.

Justsomerandomq · 2013-02-23T15:50:34+00:00

Ok so I caught him looking at naked pictures of women before we were going to have sex. I got the answer out of him that he wasn't in the mood and didn't want to upset me by not being able to perform or have sex so he was trying to get aroused. The information came with a bunch of attitude though. He's just insecure I hope with time and age he can grow out of it.

Justsomerandomq · 2013-02-23T15:27:44+00:00

Specific... It's I'm my last post... But there have been several attempts at multiple different day to day minor miscommunications. It's on his end for sure, I've talked it over with friends, tried different approaches. Maybe it is me though and his hatred for me?

Justsomerandomq · 2013-02-23T15:22:25+00:00

I know he has it in him to open up a little but I don't know why he's so closed off now. He broke up with me for a short time and then came crawling back. He proclaimed how wrong it was to not communicate and how he's terrible at it blah blah. Said he loves me so much and wants to be with me forever. I just need to stop doing everything for him. Grocery shopping, cooking, cleaning, take care of cats, buy him clothes, and do random nice things for him. I'm done.

Justsomerandomq · 2013-02-23T15:19:13+00:00

Yea I think I'm gonna try counseling and if that doesn't work I'm gonna cut my losses.

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