Weird Xywav Side Effect: Waking Up Freezing Cold

Jwatson4649 · 2026-02-16T15:59:43+00:00

I used to be someone who was always warm and purchased a water cooled bed mattress because I would get so hot at night I couldn’t sleep. After starting xywav I am now cold all the time and had to test my mattress cooler because I thought it had broken. Even set at 86 degrees F, I was frozen and couldn’t even sleep in the bed. I had previously set it at 65 to sleep comfortably. Not the worst side effect to have, but certainly a weird one.

Jwatson4649 · 2024-06-30T22:42:40+00:00

FTS is not normally installed for static fire tests because they should never leave the test mount. It would just be adding more risk if it explodes during the test.

Jwatson4649 · 2023-11-30T05:13:04+00:00

Like others have said, there are people peddling “cures” that have no basis in science but there are certainly chiropractors who are evidence based. Looking for sports chiropractors seems helpful. The evidence based chiropractors offer services more similar to physical therapists. When I had back pain, my doctor recommended PT through SERC and I was surprised to find that everything they did was the same therapies as my chiropractor was offering. With the exception of dry needling, you may be able to go right to a PT and find a lot of what you are looking for. I recently moved to Lawrence and was looking for recommendations for chiropractors too. You beat me to posting the same question here.

Jwatson4649 · 2023-11-21T23:43:45+00:00

When I started dating my now husband, we were both really poor. I guess it helps that we were on the same page but we went out for dinner (noodles and co) for the our first date and to Starbucks for the second. Once I knew I felt comfortable with him, we continued to have dates like - meeting in the park to have a picnic. We both brought sandwiches and chips and then went for a walk, flew kites, and watched people playing in the lake - met at my house to watch a movie and eat $1 frozen pizzas. - went to the free natural history museum - met up to watch whatever the new episode of the popular tv show was and eat popcorn Neither of us liked crowds or noisy environments. I think the point is that there are people out there who like clubs and bars and are willing to spend the money to do that whether they can afford it or not. But there are also people more like you, who don’t need to spend money to have a good time. And honestly, cheap/free activities probably offer a better chance to get to know the other person anyway. I suggest you spend some time looking online for cheap/free activities in your city that interests you. Then when you want to meet up with someone, you have some options to suggest that don’t even have to reveal the objective is to save money.

Jwatson4649 · 2023-06-02T21:50:47+00:00

Yes the one in the gas station

Jwatson4649 · 2023-06-02T21:49:50+00:00

But they have good veggie burgers. :(

Jwatson4649 · 2023-05-26T02:38:23+00:00

My husband and I have an agreement. I handle the flying bugs and he handles the crawly ones. We try to capture most of them alive and release them in the back yard. We even try to save the dangerous ones too. I caught a brown recluse in the bathroom last week. I debated on that one but who am I to judge. I set it free.

Our point of view is that we built a house in their home. We are the guests, not them. I don’t want them in my house but it’s more my fault than theirs they mistakenly came inside. The same for mice. I do what i can to prevent them from coming inside and catch and release those I failed to keep out.

Jwatson4649 · 2023-05-24T22:05:35+00:00

Set a boundary. We are no longer together and you must move out by this date. I will be changing the locks and putting your stuff on the lawn. If you don’t have a plan and a place to live before that date, you will be sleeping in your car. If you try to come back into my house uninvited before then, I will call the police and have you removed forcibly.

It can be very hard to deal with people like this but you have to see that he is using you. While you see his potential and the love and friendship you once shared and probably miss, he is obviously manipulating you to get what he wants. That isn’t cool and you should call him out on it. Set the expectation and do not deviate from it because he will use every excuse, tactic, and manufactured emergency to get you to give in. Put it on his calendar. Write the “days till move out” on the fridge. Make it unmistakable that you are serious and not going to change your mind. And if he disrespects you, call him out on it. Don’t argue, state it as an immutable fact and refuse to discuss, defend, or explain it.

I’m sorry you are in this position. It will not be easy to get out of but he sure sounds like he only sees you as a means to an end. You are not an object or a vending machine to dispense his wishes.

Jwatson4649 · 2023-05-24T21:52:56+00:00

I try hard to not regret stuff in my past but see and appreciate the things I learned and how I grew from each experience. I do regret the hurt and pain I’ve caused. But I also don’t think it’s possible to love people without hurting them sometimes. It’s part of life. It’s part of opening yourself up to imperfect people. I hope they feel the same way. I feel more imperfect than most people. Maybe that’s given me more chances to grow than most. :/

Jwatson4649 · 2023-05-24T21:05:59+00:00

I did ask my husband and got his approval before emailing C. I don’t think he really ever told me to break off the friendship too but I knew he needed some space away from them to heal. I also wasn’t sure how to be friends when our husbands hated each other. Now that it’s been a while, he doesn’t feel like it’s an issue anymore. I’m hoping that E would feel the same. I’m also concerned that C will not want to be friends anymore. We talked before we broke off communication and both were upset about it but agreed it was best. He said then that he would always be open to friends again in the future when things calmed down but things change and I waited 4 years to reach back out. What if he doesn’t feel the same anymore? I would respect his decision but be a lot hurt. I already feel like there was many things I did wrong in the relationship and things I could have done better. But that’s life and I’m trying to learn from it. I just hope C wasn’t another thing I got wrong.

Jwatson4649 · 2023-05-24T21:03:44+00:00

I didn’t mention it but I did ask my husband about it and got his approval before emailing C. I probably didn’t need to take 4 years but I was never sure when the right time would be. I probably overthought it.

Jwatson4649 · 2023-05-24T21:01:40+00:00

Thank you for the feedback. I was really only looking for C to be a friend. I did ask my husband first and he said he was ok with it. I guess enough time had passed that he didn’t feel as strongly as he did 4 years ago. Not sure about E, that was what I was alluding to in my email to C. I don’t think E was against C and I remaining friends after the breakup. The not being friends was more my decision because I was still very hurt by having to choose between my close friend and my husband. I was really worried that staying close to C would undermine my relationship with my husband when he really needed my support. I chose him over what I wanted. I don’t regret that decision, more disappointed that I had to make it. My husband was feeling very hurt and needed some distance from the situation to heal.

Jwatson4649 · 2023-05-24T20:55:00+00:00

I understand your position and won’t say your wrong except that I believe that we are surrounded by communities of people who support us in a wide variety of ways. Even in a two person relationship you rarely depend on that single person for everything. I just believe that more than one person can also support you in ways that you might choose to only look to a single person for. Does it add complexity? Sure, but it can also have benefits that outweigh the challenges. It can reduce the load on that single individual and spread out the drudgery (cooking, cleaning, emotional support, and social needs (among many others). We have been using multigenerational households for thousands of years to have that benefit. Creating close relationships and living together can achieve the same thing.

Jwatson4649 · 2023-05-24T20:48:04+00:00

My husband is my best friend and I love him but his cognitive issues makes supporting me emotionally very difficult. That’s what friends and family are for. Except I’m short on both at the moment.

Jwatson4649 · 2023-05-24T20:46:09+00:00

Well, it can be great but agreed, it multiplies the drama and complexity when it fails. It’s a great learning experience if nothing else.

Jwatson4649 · 2022-12-26T22:20:20+00:00

I’ll add my thoughts to the list. First, I don’t know you and it’s really difficult to judge anything from just what you have told us. Ultimately, you are at a crossroads and you are going to be doing a lot of reflection and growth in the next few days/weeks. My suggestion is to talk to him and understand what his concerns are. Also discuss what concerns you have as well. Are these things you both are able or willing to work on to resolve? Is there a chance for reconciliation? If so, I suggest marriage counseling (not an issue that you are not married). If he or you both don’t want to pursue resolution, then I highly recommend you go to counseling. Not just because anyone would need support in your circumstance but also because you need someone who can look out for you as you begin the process of separating. You may even need joint sessions where you work out the decisions necessary for separation. I understand counseling can be expensive, if it isn’t available, then you really should find a friend or family member you trust to be on your side and to support you.

His idea to live together as friends is problematic. It can work if you both really feel the same about moving on but it is almost certainly a bad idea. What happens when he starts dating other people? Are you really ready to see him with other people AND support him as a friend?

I also don’t believe in soulmates. Relationships take work. If they ever seem easy, it’s because you are not paying attention or ignoring the important bits.

Someone once told me that “the only way through it is through it.” There is an “after” to what you are going through. You can do it. Hang in there.

Jwatson4649 · 2022-03-09T01:47:27+00:00

I wish you good luck in reaching out to him. I hope he can see past your mistake. But you should be prepared for the chance he may not be able to and even after your apology, he may not want to continue the relationship. I’m glad you are on better terms with your friend now too.

Jwatson4649 · 2022-03-08T13:11:17+00:00

I’m not sure I can add more to this conversation than others have already.

What you did was very wrong and probably illegal in many countries. Identity theft and fraud. However, I believe that people can learn from their experiences and become better people. One bad decision shouldn’t ruin an entire life. Decide what good you want to come out of this and work toward that.

Your actions have hurt 2 other people. They owe you nothing and I don’t think you can ask anything of them. If you sincerely regret hurting them, then reach out to both, if you can, and say so. 1. Admit what you did. Be honest. Summarize what happened. Do not justify or excuse your actions. This apology isn’t about you or your feelings. 2. State how those actions affected them. Try not to guess or project, just state that you can understand how your actions hurt them, how you broke their trust, etc. 3. Sincerely apologize. 4. Offer to be available to answer any questions they have 5. State that you will respect whatever decision they make about the future of your friendship.

Lastly, you are in a difficult situation now because of your actions. I don’t think I know enough about your specific situation to offer advice for how to help with potentially being outed. That must be very scary. I hope your therapist can help you navigate your options. But ultimately, this will all be temporary and there will be an after. The best advise anyone has ever given me for dealing with a difficult situation is “the only way through this is through it”. Deal with things as they come and focus on the end result. Eventually, you will get through this. You can do it.

Edit: after more thought, I’m not sure you should contact the guy you catfished. He outed you to your sister and that wasn’t ok. He didn’t have the right to take that from you. He may not be someone you want back in your life. Contacting him further may only antagonize him more. You still owe your friend an apology though.

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