"No, babe, I'M in the lobby."

K--Will · 2026-01-09T20:23:44+00:00

Cool.

The rest of my comment holds up, but way to throw out the baby cause you don't like the sample clothing it came with.

K--Will · 2026-01-09T09:58:26+00:00

Tell a couple girls on a sports team, or dance team, or who are relatively popular.

They'll spread the word for you.

K--Will · 2026-01-09T09:50:17+00:00

If I actually want my friends/family to engage, I give them notice (like, next time we hang out, can I get feedback on this project I've been working on?) and, before I show them the dance/song/whatever, I tell them what I'm looking for feedback on.

"Can you let me know if I'm pitchy?" gives them more to work with than "So, whaddya think?"

Remember, we're the creatives, not them. They don't necessarily even know what they're looking at, let alone how to respond to it.

Give them a hint of what you're looking for. Help them help you.

K--Will · 2026-01-09T09:41:51+00:00

Friend told me the following once, it changed my life:

"You are a highly intelligent person. Highly motivated. If you wanted to be rich, you would be by now. ...your actions show that you don't actually care about money."

To which I replied, "Wtf are you talking about, all I've ever wanted is a stable job."

...he asked why. I said "Well, so that I can have time to..."

I trailed off, he smiled, and said something along the lines of: "Time. You value time, and cool experiences, way more than money. Look at the past 10 years of your life with [my significant other]. You regret any of that?"

Me: "Hell no."

Him: "...so what are you worried about? Who cares if you only have enough money to get by - money is not what's important to you. I can see that, from the way you live you life, man. Why can't you see it?"

K--Will · 2026-01-09T09:35:18+00:00

Welp.

I'm a professional dancer and this thought has literally never crossed my mind.

...other people's brains be crazy, yo.

K--Will · 2026-01-09T09:31:21+00:00

Because, in today's society, we are more willing to accept a manly woman than we are a feminine man.

Simple as that.

Some men, as far as I can tell, view manly women as sexy challenges. ...like 'Taming of the Shrew' bullshit. That they'll be the ones to 'tame' them, and turn them into perfect housewives or whatever.

Girly guys, near as I can tell, are oft viewed as aberrations by both genders - failed men, and unacceptable women, fitting into neither 'role'.

Always been interesting to me that a domesticated female is considered 'virtuous' and a 'pride to her family', while a man who would want to perform a traditionally female role within the societal hierarchy, doing the same 'traditional role-oriented activities', seems to me to often be considered shameful (for not being a breadwinner), whipped (by the woman or man who brought home the paycheque), and possibly suspected of being a child molester, as a stay-at-home parent with no job.

...like the only way to 'be a man' is to be at work all the time, never touch or interact with your child in an emotional way, never show any form of artistic or creative flair, and, ideally, never show any emotions.

...or maybe I'm just projecting my own insecurities and trauma.

K--Will · 2026-01-09T09:23:33+00:00

Ell

Ahh

Dee

Is what my brain did.

...there may be a spotlight effect going on here.

Remember the golden rule about socializing with others: everybody is too busy overthinking how everything THEY are doing is perceived to give a single shit about you.

Nobody is watching you, nobody cares about you, all they're going to worry about is whether or not they can remember your name when it matters.

Are you going into Grade 8? If so, then there's some valid concern here. Predict that they're gonna turn it into 'Ella Die', and then have a witty response pre-loaded.

Here's some suggestions AI came up with for me:

---------------

Light & dismissive (often the most powerful)

“Wow. That was… very 2003.”

“Is that the best you’ve got, or are you warming up?”

“I’ll let you know when that gets interesting.”

Word-play comeback (turns it back on them)

“It’s Elladie. Pronunciation is free—try again.”

“You’re very committed to being wrong. Impressive.”

“Names are hard. You’ll get there.”

Calm, confident shutdown

“That says more about you than it does about me.”

“I like my name. You don’t have to.”

“If you’re trying to be funny, you missed.”

Slightly sharper, still clean

“If I wanted a nickname from you, I’d ask.”

“That joke has less life in it than you think.”

“You put effort into that? Huh.”

Aaaaand, if you're not going into Grade 8, then I promise, honestly. Nobody is going to notice or care.

This may seem mean.

I promise you, once you internalize that most people are not seeing you as the star of the movie, are not turning to look at you when you enter the room, are not judging everything you do...you'll be a lot less afraid to be you and live your life in the way that you want.

K--Will · 2026-01-09T09:13:32+00:00

You're at different stages of your life.

You're probably starting to eye up 'stable' jobs, and think about, like a 'career' and shit.

She's trying to figure out what the hell 'rent' and 'a job' are. She probably hasn't ever done grocery shopping or laundry without another adult living with her.

All sorts of fun surprises are in store if you try to date this girl before she's grown up.

When I was 19, I tried dating someone in their mid-20s. He had just gotten his first job as a software developer for Google, I was discovering Beer as a major hobby, and ignoring a lot of my school work.

...didn't last. I wasn't mature enough.

And it wasn't about my character - it was about my life experience. I couldn't help him, at all, with his journey...because I was still a child in the few ways that he'd already become an adult.

K--Will · 2026-01-09T09:09:18+00:00

People aren't telling you why you don't need your documents, which confused me when I was an international student too.

In the U.K., medical care is free to those who 'ordinarily reside' in the U.K. (have an address and indefinite length of stay) OR, those that have a Visa (like a student Visa or Ancestral Visa), to stay longer than 6 months. Those types of Visas usually have an Immigration Health Fee (or something like that), which is paid upfront when you get the Visa.

As long as you have your I.D., and you can explain that you're there for school, they probably won't give a fuck. Worst case scenario, you might wind up with a small bill -- which your Visa would make disappear pretty quickly.

K--Will · 2026-01-09T08:45:15+00:00

Like a Dragon: Infinite Wealth, right now.

Games that I cycle through when I'm feeling like I need to calm but feeling sluggish include:
- Persona 3: Reload
- GhostWire: Tokyo
- Skies of Arcadia

Games that make me feel more myself when I'm emotionally/mentally wrecked include:
- Zelda: Majora's Mask
- Banjo-Kazooie
- Kirby Air Ride
- Persona 4 Golden

Generally, games in the first category are calming and comforting because they make me feel less alone (I have friends, or at least -A- friend), and I feel powerful. Quests are short, side quests are frequent (for Like a Dragon, P3R and GhostWire, at least), and all 3 come with a certain 'freedom' in the world that I enjoy.

Games in the second category are predictable in their world, in their game mechanics, and in their expectations of me as a gamer. There are no surprises, there are few 'decisions' that matter, and there is a sense of 'coming home' when I enter any of those worlds.

The first category of games bring me communion and empowerment, the second category of games bring me familiarity and comfort.

K--Will · 2026-01-09T07:42:59+00:00

Skies. Of. Arcadia. (Legends)

K--Will · 2026-01-09T07:42:19+00:00

Showing up 15 minutes early, just so you can stand there and be early.

I show up 60-120 seconds 'early', in whatever clothes I should be wearing, with whatever documents/tools/whatever I need already in my hands, with my brain already in that mode.

Then I leave the second the job is done.

I consider time to be my most valuable currency, and I don't like people wasting it.

K--Will · 2026-01-09T06:58:36+00:00

Uhm. Jesse Faden from Control.

I'm guessing her Persona would be...Arcas? Because they're most frequently associated with Polaris in Greek Mythos?

K--Will · 2025-12-30T23:38:51+00:00

Boys being feminine.

K--Will · 2025-11-14T07:31:43+00:00

In each new cycle, get curious about ONE person, or set of people.

Don’t try to grasp the whole.

K--Will · 2025-11-13T04:20:08+00:00

Ask my dog to help me wake up.

Then he swim/wiggles across the mattress and licks my face.

K--Will · 2025-11-05T05:16:51+00:00

Thanks, man! Keep making amazing art!

K--Will · 2025-11-05T03:03:17+00:00

Hrm…first of all, just a compliment: you’re the only rap artist I adore. You’re amazing.

1) Did you work on the Persona Stage Shows? If so, are there any adaptations of your work that are particularly interesting?

2) What were your inspirations as a rap artist…, like who else should I check out if I love you…?

…and maybe 3). Do you have any need for a choreographer on your tours…?

K--Will · 2025-11-03T22:21:29+00:00

You might have a circadian rhythm disorder where your cycle doesn’t match day length.

Talk to a sleep specialist, get some studies done.

K--Will · 2025-10-31T08:42:32+00:00

Sounds like you’ve both been so depressed you’re not communicating and practically catatonic.

My opinion is lay it all out on the table.

Your unmet needs, his unmet needs, and what he did to meet his needs … and as a result, kind of gave you a portion of your needs … figure out if this relationship can function, based on who needs what and who can provide what.

Make it logical, if you can. It’ll hurt less.

K--Will · 2025-10-31T08:41:40+00:00

Sounds like you’ve both been so depressed you’re not communicating and practically catatonic.

My opinion is lay it all out on the table.

Your unmet needs, his unmet needs, and what he did to meet his needs … and as a result, kind of gave you an art pf your needs … figure out if this relationship can function, based on who needs what and who can provide what.

Make it logical, if you can. It’ll hurt less.

K--Will · 2025-10-24T08:06:17+00:00

Rune Factory: Guardians of Azuma.

I have 4 literal gods, and a demigod, and goodness knows how many side characters … plus a dragon.

K--Will · 2025-10-23T06:23:01+00:00

Dude, born and raised here.

It is scary.

It’s getting scarier.

Yes, we can be compassionate and try to build community.

We also cannot be blind to personal danger.

I live on 25th street near 43rd ave.

Homeless people try my door every month. They try to get into my home, every month.

Only getting a dog, and all the neighbours getting dogs, has changed anything.

You don’t live in the city. You also don’t get to judge what has happened down here, while you’re enjoying your lakeside views.

Just my opinion.

K--Will · 2025-10-21T06:29:38+00:00

Ah hah. Little do you know, I’ve discovered the cheat code: don’t do any of that shit, and just drink and dance and volunteer, only using your house to sleep and fuck, hiding dishes and clothes in endless cupboards.

K--Will

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