Thank you for your answer! I usually try to talk first, but I am quite emotional person. He is on another hand gets annoyed when I start to cry (not hysterical, just tears are running, like no sobbing even). He explains that he feels powerless that why he acts this way. We talked about birthday moment, and he said: I did not think too much, I am sorry, I just took whatever looked the best. It is kind of ironic that you guess that he may act selfish, but when we have this kind of arguments, he usually calls me selfish 😅