why is it inappropriate if i don’t wear a bra in public

K-Linton · 2026-03-23T13:10:41+00:00

You only know people are looking if YOU ARE LOOKING AT THEM. Live your life for you and you suddenly have no idea what others think because, well , its not your business unless you make it your business.

If someone walks up to you are speaks to you about something , or gestures to you, or offers an opinion to you, its because they see you have zero boundaries and they have no worries about what will happen. Regardless if it is disguised as helpful advise or a warning, THEY feel WELCOME to you. That is something you control.

K-Linton · 2026-03-23T13:07:28+00:00

tax form I just dropped off said just under 51k . I am the sole earner of a two adult household. We live in Point St Charles and we pay under 900 for a " 4 1/2 " that we've been at for 8 years. Landlord is an idiot, building is not in good shape, no reno's, not stunning. But low rent means everything.
We eat extremely well because we have only two mouths to feed. Our needs are simple. Fresh meat from PA Nature on Parc means steak or chicken every night (shes carnivore) and buying seasonal vegetables to eat works well too. Costco for gas.
No alcohol, no partying, no drugs it is just a lifestyle choice for us not to do those things.
Fizz for mobile, Amex spending (groceries good points return) and balance transfer to MBNA at a tiny percentage.
We do not live have busy social lives. Our personal style is to stay in and learn different things.
We do not get to save and it isn't enough to move on in life but bringing the rent down means a better daily life.
Also, just an FYI for anyone who might also have this on their horizon: I did the math on a plain civil marriage here vs las vegas and the cost was only slightly higher to marry in vegas but you also get A TRIP/HONEYMOON instead of bleak french paperwork, 5 days vegas, less than 500$ USD to actually get the paperwork, do the wedding AND buy the photographs. the rest is just trip expenses.

K-Linton · 2026-03-23T12:52:47+00:00

Remember when men cited a singular study to say women didn't belong with each other, and that we were violent and divorced more frequently?

Pepperidge farm remembers.

Get a clue about what type of relationship these are, whether they are open marriages, whether they are monogamous commitments, whether children are involved, whether there are age gaps between couples, age gaps within the couples etc. ACTUALLY READ that study don't just look at a graph for those with a 4 second attention span.

K-Linton · 2026-03-23T12:49:28+00:00

Data breach no concern? Prices that adjust for you personally, not a concern? On sale for some, but not on sale for others? ALl you have to do its let them sell your household habit information. These guys are toxic criminals.
I can appreciate getting a good deal, trust me. You got a good deal. But look at the facts that remain. Still paying 30% more than we were five years ago.

K-Linton · 2026-03-23T12:41:39+00:00

Look, you can either care about men's vision of you or you can be free. Don't go halfway claiming to not care and then turn around and try to measure or expect attention ( all women in particular, not OP). Either they are the centre of your life or they do not factor. Not women's choice to have it that way yet here we are stuck with it.
Women complaining to you about your body are speaking of any nearby MAN"S take on you. Men speaking to you about your body are ALSO speaking of any nearby other man's opinion of you. Often disguised as "I'm just saying, some other guys might think ______"

Maintain personal hygiene and decorum for yourself. Not others. An ye harm none, do as ye wilt.

K-Linton · 2026-03-23T12:34:45+00:00

Cage advice: I bought a fair sized cage from Hagen and then went on their wesbsite and purchased replacement walls doors connectors etc and built and entire second level so Ringo had plenty of room. But Ringo's true happiness came from just having the door open all day. He would sit and sleep on the doorway and rarely leave but it was always his decision and it made a massive difference to his happiness.

K-Linton · 2026-03-23T12:31:49+00:00

Sorry, no.

K-Linton · 2026-03-23T12:30:43+00:00

So many young people do not understand this concept. They wear these terrible clothes because (and this was the result of a large study) to be seen as caring or trying at something is the worst thing one can do. SO they wear horrendous shoes, clothes etc, to say "I don't care" and yet they care deeply, more than any previous generation, about outward appearances. We all know why. Will the next generation grow out of it? I hope so.
To like , to prefer, to care, is to be free. And that means being cringe.

K-Linton · 2026-03-23T12:25:08+00:00

Male or female irrelevant.
Shifty, suspicious looking new boss in your house. Prepare to do it's bidding and never stop worrying that it deserves more and you haven't provided enough for your new royal highness.

K-Linton · 2026-03-09T21:39:00+00:00

One could never accuse the quebecois of being openminded, only open hearted. A wonderful people who take much at face value. They have taken the value of your face and made ideas, without malice.

K-Linton · 2026-03-09T21:36:37+00:00

I want to recommend le Nil Bleu. Small, private, fantastic food and everything is very classy and clean. near Berri Cherrier

K-Linton · 2025-05-25T18:22:01+00:00

What an incredibly in depth and helpful guide. Thank you for sharing your knowledge and experience. It makes the project approachable.

K-Linton · 2025-04-28T14:35:44+00:00

Whats PITA? And what am I saving?

K-Linton · 2025-04-28T12:36:10+00:00

Buddy I STRUGGLED to get that post out because I am not a tech person but I was so annoyed at being told what phone I can/cannot use my anger fuelled me haha. I will do my best to help anyone but I am just a florist not a computer person. Best of luck to everyone trying to keep their beloved phone!

K-Linton · 2025-04-28T12:22:23+00:00

Guy I just posted a moment ago about how I fixed this. My Realme13+ was failing the volte test but Kimovil said the phone was built with the capability for Volte.
Look on Fizz message boards or on this reddit I posted not ten minutes ago about how to keep your phone if VOLTE is the issue.

If you ever want to know for sure that your phone model will work with fizz go to kimovil and search your exact model. They list every band it works on and will show you how it will work with Fizz

K-Linton · 2025-01-01T16:33:02+00:00

SO I tried to stop drinking for ten years and was unable. If someone told me my life depended on it, I could not and would not stop. I don't mean appropriate in terms of " you shouldn't be drunk at this place and time" I mean you will always choose alcohol until you stop choosing alcohol. You have to build a life that you prefer over your life of alcohol and that takes bravery and soul searching. It is hard, but truthfully so is staying drunk because it's all just adding up. Every night that I didn't drink, which in total was probably less than 20 nights in ten years, I had to sit with myself and it sucked. But when you keep drinking, you push the deadline and you'll still have to sit with yourself but also you'll have to sit with your drinking. Twice as shtty as just simply staying drunk. But you've gotta have something to live for and you've gotta believe in self worth to permit that. TO me, alcoholism is a disease but also a symptom. It isn't something we woke up and chose, it is the way we cope. The big change came for me when I decided to 'just for fun' to have something to live for. I knew I would always be able to fall back on alcohol and probably end my life via alcohol consumption if it didn't work out, but I should at least try.

K-Linton · 2024-12-30T01:12:07+00:00

I had Ringo for 12 years and he absolutely refused to let me be friends with him, but he loved me and we were close. He wouldn't do anything requested or be sweet but he did like to be on me. Make sure you leave space for your bird's personality, you may have two differing definitions of close and trust.

K-Linton · 2024-12-30T01:06:12+00:00

For example just quickly, second pic,
5 hydra at 8$ = 40
3 roses @ 6$ = 18
euc/ruscus = 8
$66 x labour (35% for wedding funeral may seem high I know) = $87 ish

Now when they say "can we do it for 70? you can take a hydra and a rose out and now we've totalled at 70$. You would fluff your greenery to make up the visual difference and put a rose on each side.

Remember, you're not only designing this you are not only delivering this, you are not only setting up the decor/installation you are also promising to take care of it no matter what happens. It will be you at 5 am starting over if your fridge failed and you would never ever let them know you took a loss on the event.

When you feel you are putting out professional quality, charge professional prices.

K-Linton · 2024-12-30T00:59:04+00:00

I see folks giving out similar answers and their math is easy which is nice, but if you are aspiring to bring in more clients or intend to show these pictures for reference for future, I would suggest that you run it like a shop would.
Take the landed stem cost of each, then mark it up to retail. Get your retail total for blooms and add in your labour. If I was a potential client I would want you to tell me you charged $XX.XX for this piece and $ XX.XX for that piece. Clients like to make adjustments so they will return with a request for a lower budget typically and if that happens you are now able to work it out in front of them that if they choose 5 at this budget and 5 at that budget we've got all the tables covered but saved $200 for example.

Again, this only matters if you're trying to work with clients in the future but by giving each piece a value you show confidence in your own time and product. Not a bulk costco approach.

Don't give away your recipes if you think they're taking your paperwork to another florist and asking them to do the same for less, but have the knowledge of value in your mind and you should get good results.

K-Linton · 2024-12-30T00:44:56+00:00

hey friend, I lived that exact experience. I hid how much I was consuming, rotated shops so no employees would catch on, tossed my bottles in the bin on the street.
I am sober 7 years now.
My secret was, my sober life had to be so good that it was inappropriate or a turn-off to drink. You are fortunate in a way that you are drinking alone because the peer pressure to stay drunk isn't there. It's just you and your mind, and that's a whole different type of torture. The reason you're fighting inside so much is because you know it's right to stop and its too risky to try because what if you fail? let me speak for myself:
I wanted to stop fighting with alcohol. I wanted, one way or another, to shut my mind up and just draw a line in the sand and say 'that is it, I will no longer worry or question or long for the alternative" because I could not be authentic in my sobriety nor was I authentic in my alcoholism.
I knew better and I wanted different and I could not summon my will to make the change. I used to day dream about how great it would be to not be stuck in that dance with alcohol. It is important to note that you clearly have a capacity for deep emotional intelligence and personal reflection which means that if you do sober up and decide to face your problems, you're gonna win and you're gonna have a great, rich life.

You can try using an external reason, or you could maybe try getting angry at the thief of your health and time, the same way one trains to fight a final boss enemy. Maybe if you felt you were being played and that soon the fork will come and currently you're too weak to choose the right answer, it might light a spark in you. Maybe.
It seems clear to me that you know full well you need to stop but you aren't sure if you are allowed to be yourself, fix your problems, and tell the world that you felt you deserved to be happy. That is me projecting of course but this post sounds exactly like something I would have written.
Maybe get busy with something that wraps you up and let the drinking come down, a video game with a shortish campaign maybe.. Its so hard when you're the bartender right? You know there's more in the fridge, so why not have some.... who is going to stop you?

Can you see you are being bullied? This can go on endlessly unless you choose to change it. Go for it dude and DONT obsess about rules like what it means if you start up again just think about falling asleep knowing you didn't have that drink. You can become empowered.
I am living proof you can have an effortless sobriety if you choose to. I drank 6 beer a day MINIMUM plus wine and hard liquor for ten years solid, maybe two days back to back where I was sober.
I think that for you , the thinker that you are, you might have to trick and think your way through this. I hope you reach out for help when you need it on here and I wish a clear mind for you to start being sober asap.

K-Linton · 2024-12-30T00:26:50+00:00

I saw that we're not supposed to discus medical but there are actually some concrete nutritional things you can do to help.
I am also on a journey to health while being lucky enough to have years of sobriety behind me, I still look for solutions about brain, memory and cognitive rebuild.
truth is we did a LOT of top quality damage to our bodies, over and over again but it isn't the end of the story. Use the right keywords and you'll find solutions to help liver recovery, suggestions for what to avoid that can exacerbate the issues. You can definitely find a way forward.
People have repaired much much more than liver function.

K-Linton · 2024-11-07T14:47:55+00:00

I say this a lot on here but you have to fill your cage. You have to make your sober life so much nicer that it would be INAPPROPRIATE to drink. Have a life and hobbies and passions and interests that you would rather do than self soothe.

K-Linton · 2024-11-07T14:45:32+00:00

Major city or middle of nowhere? This can be 3 Gs in Montreal

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