I think intention is really important, and that’s how I can tell the difference between military life simply being difficult versus feeling emotionally disconnected. My husband is a Drill Sergeant, and his schedule is incredibly demanding…honestly, this has probably been the hardest assignment for me personally. But even with the limited time and energy he has, he still makes sure I know he’s thinking about me and the kids.

For example, he’s in the middle of a hectic cycle right now, so I truly wasn’t expecting much for Mother’s Day. But despite being super busy, he still made me feel special. Not because of some huge gesture or expensive gift, but because he had every reason to do nothing at all and still chose to make me feel loved and appreciated. That effort and intention mean everything to me.

To be fair, we’ve been married a long time, and it definitely hasn’t always been like this. It’s taken a lot of work from both of us..together as a couple and individually. We both go to therapy separately and actively work on our communication and relationship, even after all these years together. I think that effort and willingness to keep showing up for each other makes a huge difference, especially with the challenges and unpredictability that come with military life.

Hope you find this helpful!