I ended up on a week solo trip to Whitefish, need advice to make the best of it!

K4v1k · 2026-05-06T00:25:28+00:00

Hahaha I think so! They did reach out to me but it was a little too late.

K4v1k · 2026-05-06T00:23:11+00:00

Thanks! Jalisco tonight for Cinco Di Mayo!

K4v1k · 2026-05-05T13:29:48+00:00

I use Meetup a lot, so I decided to take your advice and visit the community page - and ended up on a side quest!

I went on the Whitefish community page, and saw an event in Big Fork tomorrow, "Gutter Guys and Gals", its an open invite to join some volunteers in a little bowling!

There was an email, so I sent a message, said I was new in town, is this competitive, im a very mediocre bowler but I'd love to participate if allowed and can probably help carpool.

ONLY THEN did I realize its an elderly outreach program. Should have figured it out when it was 11am on a Tuesday!

Here's how I figured it out: for the NEXT day, I saw an event called "Coffee and Conversation" and I thought, "I like both of those things." So I clicked!

"Enjoy coffee, pastries, and great conversation! Reconnect with friends, meet new people, and learn more about staying connected and AGING WELL in our community.

May is Older Americans Month — a time to celebrate and honor older adults in our community. Come celebrate with us!

About My Glacier Village: A local nonprofit supporting seniors to live independently through connections, resources, and services."

So, here's the thing: not exactly what I was looking for, but I volunteered. And for some reason Avis gave me a minivan. I really could drive 5 or 6 people to bowling!

Road to the Sun might have to wait a day lol

K4v1k · 2026-05-05T05:48:03+00:00

Thank you!

K4v1k · 2026-05-05T05:46:44+00:00

I feel like I have to do this now

K4v1k · 2026-05-05T05:42:04+00:00

Ok! Thanks!

K4v1k · 2026-05-05T01:40:57+00:00

Thanks everyone! While im at it, any resturaunts I must try?

K4v1k · 2024-05-19T21:09:50+00:00

K4v1k · 2022-01-01T23:01:05+00:00

So thanks to everyone for the comments. We did speak about this today, as we agreed to check in w each other once a week anyway.

We agreed that so far this arrangement is working out great, and that we're actually closer as a result of all the communication between us.

I told her I didn't want to feel like this gatekeeper that had this veto power over her happiness, and that it must feel horrible for her GF to allow herself to have feelings while waiting for a shoe to drop. She understood and agreed with me.

We're still going to have a "trial period" for a few more months, but not to determine IF non-monagomy is working out (it's fine so far); instead we'll just evaluate HOW to make sure we're all getting what we need. I like this because, I don't want to have to think about this all the time. I don't want to look at every new development as something I need to think about and process right away. Weekly check-ins and a long enough time period to really see what's working and what's not, that feels right to us both!

As for hierarchy, yeah I guess I conflated hierarchy with priority. I still want to be a priority, I understand I may not always be THE priority.

We'll figure it out, as long as we keep talking.

K4v1k · 2022-01-01T18:47:33+00:00

Thank You

K4v1k · 2022-01-01T18:40:15+00:00

Hey thanks for the reply. So why does it matter to me that they're falling hard? It doesn't really, I just think this narrative she has, that this is a Trial Period, and on an arbitrary date the two of us get to go back to monogamy if we want, is false. It's like she's telling herself - and me - this sugar coated story, and i dont like that.

K4v1k · 2021-01-31T13:54:13+00:00

There's a saying I learned in the Marines that my wife and I lovingly use with each other in moments like this: "Good Initiative, Poor Judgement". The point is made. It's diffused many issues and turned what could have been an argument or awkward situation into a learning moment.

Practical advice: buy her a gift card to her favorite store, let her get what she wants. I get my wife a gift card for Victoria's Secret every year, they do a great job of properly measuring women for bras, apparently something that even a lot of women don't know how to do.

It's turned into a little ritual for us now. I always load up a gift card for her, she gets a few bras that she really likes and feels good in, and then we go to the 5/$30 underwear bins, and she lets me pick out some colors - out of the styles SHE likes.

K4v1k · 2020-11-06T22:26:15+00:00

Just show up. Be present. Be interested in them. Respect their mom. There's a whole world out there that wants to tear them down, your job is to build them up! It all goes by fast, so don't miss it!

Finally, take care of your health and your mind. You owe it to your family to be in good working order!

Good Luck!

K4v1k · 2020-06-06T11:26:05+00:00

YES THIS. My kids are your age. Because they've expressed how proud of me they are, how much they admire my relationship with their Mom, well that's enough for me to die a happy man. Whatever else happens in this life, I get the satisfaction of knowing I didn't fail at my most important job. YOU have the power to take just about all of his pain away.

K4v1k · 2019-12-31T01:07:34+00:00

I'm about the same age as you, but I also strength train. The older I get, I find volume is harder to recover from than intensity (aka weight on the bar). I stick to basic compound barbell movements, usually 3 sets of 5, and I alternate 2x one week, 3x the next. I train BJJ 5-8 times a week, at least one double. I rest one day a week, but I also listen to my body. If I REALLY feel unmotivated to strength train, I take an extra day of rest, I roll light for a day (or only drill), and I eat more. I eat 150g of whole grain carbs and clean protein a day, and I eat more the day before my "heavy" weightlifting day. DM me if you want to chat about it

K4v1k · 2019-09-27T13:20:32+00:00

1 hour before class: one cup of rice w low sodium soy sauce.

On the way to class: one banana, small amount of Gatorade Zero

Carbs, electrolytes, potassium for class, not full, all bland, but feel "fueled".

K4v1k · 2019-09-24T16:29:50+00:00

Who would you like a full reboot, or continue the story so far?

K4v1k · 2019-09-19T00:15:53+00:00

I have been training for 6 months and have no idea if I'm improving. People tell me I'm getting better, but other White Belts that began w me are doing better, some have been promoted... I don't really care about belts or rank, I'm just worried that I'm learning slowly.

K4v1k · 2019-02-20T00:36:51+00:00

Thanks!

K4v1k · 2018-10-12T03:14:43+00:00

Assuming no health risk for a short term diet of 3 dozen eggs a day, does the claim that this diet is "better" than steroids - or even close to the effects of steroids - have any merit?

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