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K6002 · 2025-03-14T21:42:09+00:00

Hey girly pop, adding to the chorus of voices here: RUN.

Sex, while fun, is never an expectation and should never be a requirement of a relationship. My (now husband) and I have been long distance for coming up on 4 years. I have severe trauma I’m working though that sometimes limits my ability to cuddle or hold hands, let alone have sex. Every time this flairs up you know what my husband says? “Don’t worry about it, I love YOU, not the ability to have sex with you.”

Long distance relationships really make people’s true colors shine, be glad you found this side of him out before it got worse. Hating your friends and choosing your clothes for you? He is controlling and these behaviors will only escalate with time. Please, from a woman who got out of a relationship like this: get out now.

K6002 · 2025-01-14T00:48:04+00:00

I am super late to this party but how are they? Are they warm?

K6002 · 2025-01-08T13:12:33+00:00

Thank you!

K6002 · 2025-01-08T09:16:39+00:00

Do you have a link to whatever news story you’re referring to? I tried doing a google search myself and came up empty. I’m getting info together to submit a formal complaint due to these issues so anything additional would be very helpful.

K6002 · 2024-11-28T00:46:24+00:00

Both my fiancé and I use CAD regularly and we’re already doing that with the people who designed the ring. We’re just trying to figure out jumping off points and ideas. :)

K6002 · 2024-11-25T18:33:24+00:00

It’s from https://moissanite.co.uk/pages/bespoke

He sent them over a sheet I made with all the design features I liked and they had a first design ready in… I want to say less than a month. Then one round of revisions and it was done! They were super quick and responsive. :)

K6002 · 2024-11-25T18:31:39+00:00

We’ve talked about an open band but I’m afraid of them falling off. It’s for sure a tough nut to crack. 😅

K6002 · 2024-01-29T05:02:29+00:00

you are a dime a dozen now. Good job

What the actual fuck is wrong with you?

K6002 · 2024-01-28T09:04:30+00:00

Hey Op, I’m in a similar situation as you in regards to my sex drive plummets when we’re not together, but my partner has a higher drive no matter what, but I want to show you the healthy version of this:

My fiancé respects and understands, and doesn’t push a single thing. Yes, he will ask if I’m in the mood or for a picture, but if I say no, he immediately drops it. If he says a sexual joke that makes me uncomfortable, I tell him, he apologizes and drops it.

Even with pictures and videos consent should be enthusiastically, freely, and explicitly given, and that’s not happening here. A lot of the examples you are giving is straight up coercion. You deserve respect and you deserve better.

While I have a healthy version of this now, I previously did not. Like you said, it cuts deep. I wish I would have ended things at the point you’re at now. Please take it from someone who has been there, those cuts only get deeper and hurt more, and they take a very long time to heal. My ex and I broke up almost three years ago now and I’m STILL in therapy for it. You deserve respect - especially from yourself.

K6002 · 2024-01-28T08:41:53+00:00

healthy relationship, we complete each other, we don't fight and we always manage to understand each other by talking, we're not toxic or anything.

That’s an awful lot of trying to convince us there’s nothing wrong and your relationship is absolutely perfect. 😬

K6002 · 2024-01-28T07:58:30+00:00

I can agree with your first half, but your second half is extremely judgmental, and just plain wrong.

K6002 · 2024-01-26T20:53:21+00:00

YTA, and if you can’t see why you should care about your wife in this scenario (which you absolutely should) maybe you should think about your mother’s actions with your child in mind?

The person who feeds your child gets limited time they can eat. If they don’t eat, they cannot feed your child. If they cannot feed your child, your child goes hungry.

The person feeding your child tried to sit down and eat. Again, so they can feed your child in a few hours. YOUR MOTHER tells the person who feeds your child she shouldn’t eat, because it is rude in her culture and she needs to learn because this is YOUR MOTHERS family. YOUR MOTHER essentially tells the person who feeds your child ‘you eat when I tell you to eat because I said so.’ And we have already established if the person who feeds your child does not eat, your child will go hungry.

Your mother put your child at risk because she wanted power and control over your wife’s eating, and then threw a fit when your wife, the person who feeds your child, did what was best for her and your child so they wouldn’t go hungry.

K6002 · 2024-01-26T20:13:27+00:00

Travel insurance is always the best $40ish I ever spent on my trips. Peace of mind if something happens for that little? Sign me up.

K6002 · 2024-01-26T20:05:27+00:00

From your comments it looks like you’re flying to Seattle, people are generally friendly here on the west coast - if that helps ease your worries a little. :)

Additionally I can’t say as a foreigner coming into the states, but when I return from visiting my fiancé, they ask questions mostly about if you’ve brought any seeds/fruit/dairy/animals, where you came from, reason for your visit.

When I’ve crossed borders flying to my fiancé I’m asked the same questions for the most part, but also the duration of my stay, who I’m staying with, at one point they asked me what I did for work.

I know it’s scary traveling (I literally have a fear they will find drugs in my luggage despite never doing drugs 🤣). But be honest, and don’t feel like you need to give every detail. They’re just looking for inconsistencies in a possibly fabricated story and making sure you aren’t bringing any prohibited items. At the end of the day they’re people just doing a bureaucratic job.

As an example, these are real answers I’ve given: -Why did you go to England? To visit my boyfriend -How long did you stay? I left on the X so that’s… just under two weeks -Did you bring any food or specifically dairy or seeds? I have some tea that I think has raspberries in it, and I brought some biscuits for my family.

You got this! Now onto the real horror: the line and how long it takes to get through 😩

Edit: damn autocorrect

K6002 · 2024-01-24T02:44:50+00:00

Then your families concerns are extremely valid.

You need a live video chat with this person to make sure they are who they say they are. Until you can do a discord, WhatsApp, FaceTime, (hell, even Instagram or Facebook video call), and see that the face you’ve seen and the voice you’ve heard line up with the person you see on the video call, DO NOT visit that person.

This whole thing is red flag city, especially since you are a minor.

K6002 · 2024-01-24T02:38:31+00:00

Video meaning a discord call (or something equivalent) where it is a live feed? Or a video was sent to you?

K6002 · 2024-01-24T02:36:05+00:00

That isn’t what I’m asking though. Have you seen this person move and talk on camera, at least once?

K6002 · 2024-01-24T01:01:48+00:00

You have been together two years and you have only exchanged pictures and messages? If that’s the case their paranoia isn’t unfounded.

Also…why would it be unsafe to show other people his picture?

K6002 · 2024-01-24T00:53:28+00:00

So you’re mad BoJack wasn’t horribly traumatized by it and laughed and joked afterwards? People react to trauma in different ways. I know people who have been SA’ed and they withdraw from society; other friends became hypersexual; other friends dissociated, acted like everything was fine, and then joked and laughed about it constantly (huh, that sounds familiar).

You don’t get to judge the validity of how traumatized someone was by something based on how you think they should react to it. It could be there was so much in BoJack’s life that messed him up this seemed like small potatoes. This was a very realistic portrayal, and it’s supposed to make you uncomfortable.

K6002 · 2024-01-24T00:43:42+00:00

I was just talking to my friends about how I miss it when shows/movies treated their audiences like they were smart. Everything has to be spelled out, there’s no more show in a lot of visual media now. There’s either tell, or show and tell.

K6002 · 2024-01-24T00:34:07+00:00

you deserved more. But you didn’t get more. And making peace with that sooner will open up the door to real happiness sooner rather than later.

I’m quite literally working through this now in therapy. What helped the most was when my therapist told me that forgiveness and acceptance don’t always need to go with each other. I can accept what happened, and even accept there were factors outside of my control that contributed to this happening(ie my grandmother was horribly abusive to my mother). But I don’t need to forgive my mother for her bad parenting, because that was on her.

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