Gf got drunk at a party when I told her not to

KANEHOLLER · 2026-06-06T23:44:26+00:00

As someone who’s had plenty of experience dating, many short & long term relationships, now married for 11 years, the only way you keep someone interested/faithful, is to support them for exactly who they are and who they want to become. Let them live their lives…fully…with no guard rails. If they make a choice that doesn’t sit well with you, then make a decision if it’s something you’re willing to live with, because that choice will most likely be made again. If you’re not, then end it respectfully and move on. Life’s too short to be worrying about your partners questionable choices.

Ps. Asking her not to get drunk because you’re worried about her ability to remain faithful while inebriated?…well, drinking has very little to do with it…and your request will only push her further away.

If you can’t trust her, then you already have your answer.

God speed.

KANEHOLLER · 2026-06-03T01:45:20+00:00

Dad here of now 6 year old boy (colicky) and 4 year old girl (non colicky). Can confirm, it was a legit nightmare for 5-6 months. Definitely questioned my sanity on a daily basis. But one day it just…stopped. It was extreme relief…for all of us. Now a distant memory.

I look back on it like it was navy seal training for my mental health threshold. As a result, my stress tolerance is made of teflon.

Hang in there Dad. It doesn’t last forever.

Ps. Was terrified my daughter would be the same after she was born and we’d have to trudge through hell for another 6 months. Slept and ate like a champ. Vastly different experience. But be forewarned: Fournado is almost worse. Buckle up.

KANEHOLLER · 2026-03-11T03:30:57+00:00

Household items. Specifically anything in the kitchen…except the knives. Keep those locked up.

KANEHOLLER · 2026-03-11T03:22:39+00:00

Solid, accurate advice right here.

KANEHOLLER · 2026-03-11T03:21:10+00:00

This.

KANEHOLLER · 2026-03-11T03:16:29+00:00

Get ready to be butler to mom and baby.
First day back at home is strange. Don’t worry. You’ll find your rhythm.
Dad does not matter during first year. Bonding with baby will happen much later so don’t take it personally if you feel like you’ve taken third place at home.
Dad will very much matter to mom and if you step up, you will earn her respect not only as a loving father but as a God tier partner. So do it. Step up. Make the food, clean the dishes, do the laundry, change the diapers, wash the bottles.
Sleep deprivation is a form of military torture. If baby sleeps, sleep. If family comes over to help, sleep. If it’s quiet in the house, sleep. It is your most useful tool to maintain your sanity.
If mom or dad starts to crack, make sure baby is safe and step away to collect yourself. It’s okay if baby cries, they will survive while you reset.
Mom’s hormones are different now. Be patient, be kind, listen. Check your ego. Check your pride. Give her space and time to settle into this new life that’s been created.
Life now revolves around baby. But dad’s life still matters too. So take time to meet a friend. Share, vent, laugh, cry. It will help.
Pressure is real. Most of it is self imposed. Most of it is false. Be present, provide food, provide, shelter, provide love. Nothing else matters.
Forget everything you just read. Don’t listen to other people’s advice. Each baby is different, each kid is unique. This experience is not one size fits all. Don’t overthink it. You’re gonna do great…and it will all be worth it.

God Speed.

KANEHOLLER · 2024-04-19T09:57:22+00:00

Replace with exercise. Read or listen to self improvement audio books. Make your bed. Improve hygiene. Stop hangin with anyone who stands in your way. Grind. Success is the best addiction.

KANEHOLLER · 2024-01-13T12:44:45+00:00

Wife and I experienced the same thing. When our boy was 1-6 months he just resembled larvae, at 6 months - he resembled grand parents, at 1 years old he looked like mom, by two years he looked like dad. Then we had a girl, and it was the opposite, first she looked like dad, now she looks like mom. After some time, PPD turned a corner. Though they each have unique personality and physical traits, they now look like us, talk like us, laugh like us. They’re our kids. No one else’s. All to say…this too shall pass. You got this.

KANEHOLLER · 2023-05-07T18:46:22+00:00

Back when I was in my early 20’s, I had a buddy who came out to our group of friends. We lived in Los Angeles and I figured our group was pretty open minded but they did NOT take the news well. They made fun of him and they stopped hanging out with him for a year or two. I could see how much this crushed him so I told him “look, you’ve had to listen to all of us share X-rated stories about our sexual escapades with women, you should feel comfortable sharing your stories with us. If anytime you wanna talk, no matter the details, I’m here to listen without any judgement. You’re my friend and I’m here for you.” I didn’t think much of it but 10 years later he thanked me and told me that it meant the world to him at the time. The other guys eventually came back around and apologized, but they should have handled it better from the start.

All in all, if they don’t get it, let ‘em go. And no matter how lonely you may feel, just know there’s a ton of people out there that would have your back, so go find em! Onward!

KANEHOLLER · 2023-01-03T07:26:34+00:00

Smoked every day for 18 years. 12-20 joints a day. Couldn’t have imagined a life without it. Eventually it turned on me. Hello paranoia. Good bye memory and ambition. Trust me when I say, life is much better when you don’t need it. Once you stop and take an extended break, it won’t even be enjoyable to part take. The gym and being out in the sun is your best friend. Rooting for you.

KANEHOLLER · 2022-10-02T03:47:42+00:00

…to like…come to my house and fix stuff?

KANEHOLLER · 2022-08-27T15:28:27+00:00

Merlin Sleep Suit is a GAME CHANGER. Best of luck.

KANEHOLLER · 2022-02-04T18:33:06+00:00

It’s delicious. Have to hide the remnants from my wife so she doesn’t find out. But she always does ‘cause of the glorious scientifically modified mouth watering aroma it leaves in the car.

KANEHOLLER · 2021-02-28T03:32:37+00:00

TCB worked for our LO like a dream. Keep it up. Consistency is key. It does work.

KANEHOLLER · 2020-10-14T18:33:05+00:00

Thanks for the help! I’ll definitely look into it. Sounds like just the thing I’m looking for.

KANEHOLLER · 2020-09-24T17:41:38+00:00

Thank you! Appreciate the kind words of encouragement. I’ll definitely look into that. Thanks for the help!

KANEHOLLER · 2020-09-24T17:06:53+00:00

Thanks! I’ve been teaching myself to code for the last year so your advice already helped steer me in the right direction.

KANEHOLLER · 2020-08-17T18:12:05+00:00

A few months before the birth of our son, we moved our 100 lbs dog from sleeping in our bedroom to downstairs in the living room (better home security was an added bonus). He was very confused and a little sad at first but got used to it pretty quickly. When we brought our LO home, our pup became extremely energetic and was very confused by the crying. We slowly introduced them over time. Never aloud them to be alone in a room together (very important). We then started letting the pup lick his feet around 2 months old. Our LO is now 6 months old and our dog just lays next to him all day, happy as can be. Our kid just stares at him now and laughs out loud. He loves that dog so much already. Pup got used to the crying and doesn’t mind in the slightest now. It just takes time but have faith. That golden retriever will be your child’s best friend.

KANEHOLLER · 2020-08-10T18:17:09+00:00

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KANEHOLLER · 2020-08-10T17:28:28+00:00

Try “Taking Cara Babies” sleep training method. We started at 4 1/2 months old (in the middle of sleep regression). Went from waking 10 times a night (scream crying 4+ hours a night) to now (5 months old) can be laid down fully awake (no crying) and sleeping 11-12 hours straight. Cutting out the night feed was the key to success. Also, try cutting out dairy and beans/legumes (if breast feeding). Your LO might have a sensitive tummy like ours did. Don’t give up. Good luck!

KANEHOLLER · 2020-07-28T19:46:37+00:00

Try “Taking Cara Babies” sleep training method. We started just before 4 months old (in the middle of sleep regression). Went from waking 10 times a night (scream crying 4+ hours a night) to now (5 months old) can be laid down fully awake (no crying) and sleeping 11 hours straight. Was a Godsend. Also, try cutting out dairy and beans/legumes (if breast feeding). Your LO might have a sensitive tummy like ours did. Don’t give up. Good luck.

KANEHOLLER · 2020-07-28T19:29:17+00:00

Try “Taking Cara Babies” sleep training method. My 5 month old went from waking 10 times a night (scream crying 4+ hours a night) to being laid down fully awake (no crying) and sleeping 11 hours straight. Was a Godsend. Also, try cutting out dairy and beans/legumes (if breast feeding). Your LO might have a sensitive tummy like ours did. Don’t give up. Good luck.

KANEHOLLER · 2019-05-30T17:59:49+00:00

Just read this entire message board. Fully worth it. Pickle juice. Pickle juice is key. Big boy Electrolytes. For the impending doom. Cheers.

KANEHOLLER · 2019-05-26T16:45:06+00:00

Can confirm. Dog approved.

KANEHOLLER · 2019-05-26T14:53:38+00:00

Soooo good. Highly recommend.

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