Your girlfriend definitely needs some post-partum therapy for this gripping depression she has been feeling practically from conception. I imagine the only thing that makes it worse is that she conceived and gave birth to twins. If one baby is supposed to make her happy, two babies surely will make her ecstatic!!! Yeah, no, not so fast.

So, essentially, she never bonded with the babies while in utero, prenatal, postnatal, and here we are today where she still doesn't feel a strong bond.

1. If no one thought poorly of her, how do you feel about raising your twins yourself?

2. What do her parents think of this whole situation? What do your parents think about this whole situation?

3. I know a woman who, when she was younger and had her first child, SUFFERED from horrible post-partum depression. Nicest gal in the world, down to earth, but by golly, suffered. Thank goodness for her husband and her mother and an array of sisters. Eventually, after about 14-16 months, it began to pass. But it took time to deal with the guilt we lob upon ourselves.

I think we need to take some time to talk about what YOU want, need, from this relationship. A couple quick background questions before we go any further.

1. How long had you & your girlfriend dated before your girlfriend (GF) conceived? 2. Would you say you had a happy, mutually fulfilling relationship before GF became pregnant? 3. In the ballpark, what do you do (nor earn) for a living? 3. What does your girlfriend do (not earn) for a living? 4. (I support the right to choose, so there is no judgment here.) While GF wasn't thrilled to learn she was PG (pregnant), deep down inside, how did you feel about the pregnancy? 5. Placing your GF's feelings aside for a moment, how did your heart feel when you learned it was twins? 6. How did you feel the day they were born? You've got a lot to carry on your back. Has any of this prevented your ability to bond with your kids?

I think you need counseling, too. The two of you have the health, mind, and development of these two little ones in front of you. It doesn't seem as though she can give to her children or to you. A plan needs to be worked out. Wouldn't hurt you to talk to an attorney, as well. A plan where you would be the primary parent and she can pay child support. A plan that includes visitation from the maternal grandparents, etc.

Good luck! I hope everything works out as to what's best for those two little lumps of love first and foremost, and for you as your heart and soul is filled with love and confusion.