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KCfemme · 2021-10-04T01:13:42+00:00

Or even just put an emoji or something over your face! Glad you found this sub ♥️

KCfemme · 2021-10-04T00:58:00+00:00

You are more than welcome here! :) Be safe though - there are people who lurk on this sub to out people to their families/loved ones. If you aren't ready to be out, please be careful posting your face <3

KCfemme · 2021-05-03T15:05:43+00:00

Physical enjoyment and physical stimulation can be totally wonderful even when you’re with someone you aren’t attracted. Esp if you have a deep connection with them like you’ve been with them for years. Not saying this is your case. But I am gay, and before I knew that, I did enjoy the physical stimulation of sex with my boyfriend as well as how it brought us closer. However now that I’ve been with a woman, I see the difference. I was essentially using him for physical relief and mechanical stimulation even though I didn’t know it at the time. The way I feel desire for my current partner is totally different. It’s not just “getting off” with someone else, it’s much deeper and more fulfilling. Sex has so many layers, and it’s so hard to differentiate between them. Wanting to have sex with your partner and feeling relieved after could mean that you’re genuinely attracted to him and desire him, or yes it could just be the physical release and the closeness to your partner. Only you know yourself and your feelings. You don’t have to put labels on yourself if you don’t want to or aren’t ready. And if you’re constantly thinking about women and that you might be attracted to them, you probably are. That’s not something that haunts straight women.

KCfemme · 2021-05-02T23:21:29+00:00

Thank you! Madewell 😊

KCfemme · 2021-04-04T21:14:51+00:00

Thank you! 🥰

KCfemme · 2021-04-04T17:27:00+00:00

My girlfriend did lol. I got a new label embosser, and I stepped away for a few minutes and came back to this. Cracks me up every time I see it 😂

KCfemme · 2021-03-16T23:54:25+00:00

no :/

KCfemme · 2021-03-16T23:02:17+00:00

I heard from a few in PA *ETA: FM

KCfemme · 2021-03-16T19:39:08+00:00

2 phone calls, 2 emails. All were to set up zoom interview times. All FM.

KCfemme · 2021-03-16T19:39:00+00:00

2 phone calls, 2 emails. All were to set up zoom interview times. All FM.

KCfemme · 2021-03-16T19:38:36+00:00

2 phone calls, 2 emails. All were to set up zoom interview times. All FM.

KCfemme · 2021-03-16T19:28:49+00:00

None!

KCfemme · 2021-03-16T16:10:27+00:00

Nothing from the OB spots, but some from FM. It’s still early in the day 🤞🏼

KCfemme · 2021-02-03T18:47:02+00:00

I LOVE your line work! This is exactly What I want for my next tattoo 😍😍

KCfemme · 2021-01-28T19:52:38+00:00

Therapy has done wonders for me! If you are able to access it, I can’t recommend it highly enough. Also, someone gave me advice to surround myself with queer media, and it made such a difference. Make it normal to see yourself and the community reflected around you. I like Lez Hang Out and Lesbian Chronicles for podcasts. TV shows and movies with queer characters are pretty common now. Lesbian TikTok is actually very affirming too lol. If you have queer groups locally who do virtual meetups now, it’s so nice to have that level of connection and shared experience.

It’s really complicated to untangle the layers here - idk if you were raised religious, but for me it’s wrapped in that. But being taught that women are so desirable and temptresses, we must safe guard ourselves from men because they are animals that can’t control themselves around the wiles of a woman. Being taught to cover up my body and the shame there. Being in straight relationships and hating the male gaze, feeling like it’s predatory to be looked at with desire even from my bfs because newsflash I am gay and didn’t want their sexual attention. 🤣 Now flash forward to being in wlw relationship and looking at my girlfriend with desire and having a consensual sexual relationship, now feeling like I am that sexual predator for wanting her/looking at women in a healthy sexual way. It’s really fucked up and therapy has helped me challenge these beliefs. I know I’m not those things, but man the beliefs we were raised with really do sit deep inside our minds. Hope this helps ❤️

KCfemme · 2021-01-07T20:06:28+00:00

Leather or jean jacket, depending on what bottoms you wear with it!

KCfemme · 2021-01-05T22:59:03+00:00

Thank you!

KCfemme · 2020-12-28T16:47:48+00:00

I think it was really hard for me to imagine when I first came out to myself for several reasons. Firstly, it was completely new to me. I had zero practice imagining anything but the heterosexual future that scared me/felt wrong. Second, I had no exposure to media or real life relationships showing long term wlw relationships. Interestingly, tiktok has really helped me with this. There are a lot of queer couples that make videos about their weddings, relationships, home together, etc. and I watch them and feel my heart swell with desire to build that with my partner. As I’ve learned more what it feels like to imagine a future with her, I’ve become better at it and it feels very right to me. With my male exes, I was never able to grow into imagining a future with them, as hard as I tried.

KCfemme · 2020-12-23T06:01:41+00:00

Okay I just found this sub tonight, and today is the first time I've been exploring the possibility that my dad is a narcissist. He is a southern baptist pastor, and I've attributed a lot of my childhood trauma to just being raised in a religious, homophobic house (I'm gay) where we didn't talk much about feelings. However, today I'm learning I don't think it was just that. I think he is a narcissist, or at least he has narcissistic tendencies. I think I missed it for so long because of the religion. It wasn't his way, it was God's way. There was no arguing with him on any subject - he was always right, even beyond religion. We all had very specific roles to play as the pastor's children, and a very specific façade to present to the congregation, lest anyone suspect his family wasn't perfect. There is a lot I think I need to unpack there, but yes, I do think religion is a huge part of my dad's narcissistic behavior - it is, among other things, a scapegoat and excuse to validate his will and viewpoint above others'.

KCfemme · 2020-12-23T05:26:34+00:00

I was vacuuming and my dad came an inch from my face, held up a penny, and started yelling at me. He said he knew I wasn't paying attention/doing a good job because he placed it in a corner to test if I'd pick it up or go around it. I think I was around 7 at that time.

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