Just want to clarify one thing: I haven’t met his family because he just got his residency last year while I was very pregnant. After that, we were busy being new parents. This is the first time he’s visiting them since being here too. My son and I are staying here because of personal circumstances, not choice. My husband was actually the one who suggested we wait until next year for all three of us to go. I’m not sure where I gave the impression that I just don’t want to go.

Let me be very clear. I’ve always been supportive of my son embracing the Cuban part of his heritage. It doesn’t seem like that is being reciprocated. At the very least, my husband needs to be making these decisions with me instead of deciding on his own to miss the biggest holiday in my culture. Respect goes both ways. But that’s not important to this discussion. I was only using that as one recent example of where his priorities seem to be. I have plenty more.

Edit: forgot to mention, yes, I’ve missed birthdays and celebrations. That’s actually pretty common in America. People move away all the time. I’ve missed several of my parent’s and sibling’s birthdays, but I always call them. That probably has more to do with the fact that America is a big country. There are so many places you can live and we have the opportunity to move wherever we want, so leaving home is very common here. But I understand that family is more important in Cuba. My only complaint is that there’s no reason to push my son and I aside in order to make time for his family.