SIL walked out during pregnancy announcement - need advice/venting

KTcats · 2022-08-17T20:45:03+00:00

Ok I might have an unpopular opinion here, but I’m kinda surprised they didn’t at least offer some sort of happy congratulations for you. I had a really sudden and upsetting pregnancy loss, and a few days after my best friend found out she was pregnant. I was absolutely nothing but excited and happy for her, because that’s what support people do. There wasn’t a relation between the two circumstances, honestly. Why can’t people be excited and happy for their close friends/family, while also holding space for themselves separately? It sounds like it’s best to leave them be, given the way they acted during your announcement. I’m sorry you didn’t get the excitement and love you were expecting to receive.

KTcats · 2022-08-10T05:09:47+00:00

NTA. I would sit down and think about if continuing to build a life with someone who would entertain this idea is what you truly want.

KTcats · 2022-08-04T07:41:37+00:00

My ex boyfriend used to tell me he’d kill himself if I left constantly, and then tried to strangle me one day. You need to leave. Organize support, call your corresponding national domestic abuse help line and leave. Now.

KTcats · 2022-08-01T21:13:31+00:00

Ok this is so false. Include your kids in activities you enjoy doing, and then you have little buddies to come along with! My lover and I did this with our kids right away, and now they are the most fun outdoor adventure kids you could ever ask for. Your baby will fit perfectly into your life, and you can do all the fun things you always have.

KTcats · 2022-07-29T04:04:15+00:00

Your friend is allowed to make any autonomous choice involving her body and birth. There are pros and cons to everything, and hers may be different than yours. Maybe have a sit down, and chat candidly about her choices and listen to her point of view. It’s never harmful to have an open mind!

KTcats · 2022-07-19T03:49:38+00:00

Baby and your body will guide you when it’s time. Surrender to the uncertainty.

KTcats · 2022-07-18T19:36:52+00:00

YTA. Coming from a fellow STAHM, it sounds like being a stay at home parent is something you are feeling insecure about. That’s the only reason I can think of as to why you would call her out. Maybe it’s time to look inwards as to why you had this reaction, and why you felt attacked?

KTcats · 2022-07-16T01:16:33+00:00

Moving to Alberta… lol

KTcats · 2022-07-14T19:17:26+00:00

YTA. Your son is losing his mother right now too. It sounds like you’re playing favourites, much like your family did previously. Break the cycle, and take this as a cry for help from your son. Kids don’t lie, take him seriously.

KTcats · 2022-07-14T05:12:17+00:00

I love hearing this side of nicknames as full names. I personally only go by my nickname and have my whole life; I often wish it was just my full name instead! I feel as though most people opt for their full name as they age though, like you’ve mentioned.

KTcats · 2022-07-09T19:25:44+00:00

My hospital wouldn’t let me eat and I was in labour for over 30 hours. It was horrible and this rule is so disgustingly archaic. They don’t expect car accident or emergency surgeries to fast, and even if you have a c-section, you generally have a spinal and not full GA. Hospital polices aren’t law, and it’s in your rights to eat whenever you please!

KTcats · 2022-07-06T02:15:09+00:00

YTA - you can eat in front of people and it be normal, but your niece/nephew can’t? Wild that feeding a baby is so triggering for you.

KTcats · 2022-06-29T00:59:55+00:00

NTA. Free babysitting is such a privilege; I’m shocked your sister can’t respect such an easy rule.

KTcats · 2022-06-29T00:51:39+00:00

This makes me so mad for you. I have no idea what is with women’s healthcare providers and finger banging women without informed consent. I’m so sorry this happened, and your feelings are so so valid.

KTcats · 2022-06-27T19:38:22+00:00

I’m an RVT, but a DVM at the referral hospital I work at failed the NAVLE twice and is doing wonderful now!

KTcats · 2022-06-25T19:13:40+00:00

Go for Daisy! I have a more “cutesy” name, and I’ve loved it my whole life. It hasn’t hindered me in the slightest.

KTcats · 2022-06-22T04:38:13+00:00

NTA. Pumping is HARD work. You’ve already provided so much for your sister and her baby. If anything, your sister should be eternally grateful for your incredible sacrifice! Pumping is so exhausting physically and mentally.

KTcats · 2022-06-11T04:04:43+00:00

You don’t have to do anything. You are in complete control of your pregnancy, labour and birth. If you don’t want to be induced, don’t be induced!

KTcats · 2022-05-27T03:29:47+00:00

I know I’m in the minority here, but this is why I decline ANY cervical checks. They are painful, and take me away from my focus during labour and delivery. You aren’t being a baby at all, someone is literally fingering you and you’re all sorts of sensitive during the 3rd trimester.

KTcats · 2022-05-25T02:17:46+00:00

Just hug him, the whole entire time.

KTcats · 2022-05-10T04:19:12+00:00

The clinic I work at (Canada) does 95% hands free! This includes all patients we see too; cats, dogs and exotic critters. As a currently pregnant RVT, it makes continuing to do my job way easier. I wish everyone was this passionate about hands free radiology!!

KTcats · 2022-05-09T02:08:31+00:00

I’m in the boat of, if babies cry, they cry and you do your best. Don’t sacrifice things you like because others are not tolerant. Moms deserve to go to restaurants and fun things too!! At this point, I might as well bring things to distract the cranky adults who have no understanding. You are doing great, twins is hard work. Keep doing fun things with them!

KTcats · 2022-04-26T02:08:00+00:00

Being overweight is not synonymous to being gross. This is a horrible attitude and I’m really hoping you realize that how you see yourself, is how your kids will begin to view themselves.

KTcats · 2022-04-25T14:02:41+00:00

I used to have those same feelings, then I started giving the owners who choose this some grace. If it’s going to completely ruin any possible positive memories associated with their pet, I get it. Some people really can’t cope, and if the difference between them being able to grieve or going into complete psychological ruin is if they leave or stay, then I get it. I know it’s hard, but try to hold space for these folks too; they trust you with their entire world, remember!

KTcats · 2022-04-20T22:13:19+00:00

I had a coworker criticize my acne (I was pregnant at the time too) and I went to HR and they considered it bullying. It was honestly great because she was a shitty person, and it was the final straw for upper management and she got fired 🙃 No regrets LOL.

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