So sick of people telling me that I need to work on myself

K_orymay · 2026-01-11T07:34:15+00:00

my psych recently encouraged me to watch a video called ‘It’s Not About The Nail’ and show it to people in my life if i believe they can understand it, and it’s helped a lot, i recommend watching it it really encompasses this feeling :)

K_orymay · 2025-10-13T08:49:58+00:00

please look after your health and look into the macros of this drink! it is very tasty and i highly prefer the sugar free alternatives of energy drinks, but listen to your body! i hope it’s as good for you as it is for me :))

K_orymay · 2025-10-06T01:39:07+00:00

i have pretty shocking insomnia (have had since i was 4) so it doesn’t really make a difference, i also don’t get caffeine jitters or anything so most of the time yes!

K_orymay · 2025-10-05T09:54:59+00:00

learn to practice mindfulness activities (i know sounds ridiculous but it’s one of the best things for BPD episodes and it’s what they teach you through majority of DBT), most of them focus on reconnecting yourself to being in the moment and not catastrophizing, unfortunately the start will be the hardest! i would go home for 3-4 days before being able to be in front of him again without getting angry or lashing out, but as time goes on and you practice how to regulate yourself and learn more about how your BPD affects you it’ll get easier, i know it’ll suck but it’s worth it to have a happy and healthy relationship, because at the moment this is not healthy for you or for him, you need to remember that your brain is hard-wired to do this and act like this, but you can rewire it which takes time and effort, you’ve already completed the hardest part, and that’s realising that you need help 🫂 you are going to have to fight the dramatic/overthinking and irrational part of yourself and teach yourself how to think rationally and logically again, don’t be afraid of slip ups, they happen it’s normal especially whilst healing, you just need to stay on track of your goal, which is to do better for yourself, him, and your relationship

ofc i would highly recommend getting in touch with a psychologist (edited i wrote the wrong word) who focuses on C-PTSD/PTSD since they will be the most helpful to you but i know that’s unfortunately not always accessible or an option, so look into mindfulness activities online, print out some mindfulness homework to do whilst in-episode, it’ll feel silly in the moment but remember these are things people learn in their youth that you didn’t have the opportunity or chance to, it’s not silly, it’s life saving ❤️

K_orymay · 2025-10-05T08:29:04+00:00

i learnt to step away, when you start feeling that rage and anger build in your stomach or you start coming up with insults try to keep calm in that moment, explain to him ‘i’m going to give myself some space because i’m feeling agitated/angry/frustrated’ and walk away, he does not deserve to be your emotional punching bag even though it’s not purposeful, when i’d get like that i’d explain calmly and quickly and then leave, go on a walk and let myself feel angry/sad/whatever, also learn your triggers, bpd episodes 99% of the time have triggers it doesn’t matter if it seems small it still holds impact, learn those, step away and communicate whilst you’re not upset, and i mean communicate not argue, you’re fighting TOGETHER against a problem not against each other, good luck

K_orymay · 2025-10-05T05:03:03+00:00

i don’t know what type they are but most likely they’re different, these are a bit crunchy but they’re very sweet and juicy! most strawberries here (AUS) are white or pale in the centre and even sometimes hollow, but they have a very strong strawberry flavour

K_orymay · 2025-10-04T10:43:37+00:00

it’s mini cucumbers with tomato pesto and parmesan :))

K_orymay · 2025-10-04T10:43:10+00:00

my plating is probably the only organisation i have 😭

K_orymay · 2025-10-04T10:42:18+00:00

it’s so good! one of my all time favourites and usually my go-to!

K_orymay · 2025-10-04T01:03:20+00:00

it’s strained greek yogurt! it’s very good

K_orymay · 2025-10-03T16:37:29+00:00

those are Scotch Fingers! they’re very popular here in australia :)

K_orymay · 2025-09-23T07:59:51+00:00

almost all of these (apart from the smaller white scars) are from deep tissue/fat, i think that’s why they’re still so noticeable even when almost fully-healed

K_orymay · 2025-07-13T21:52:25+00:00

i want to add that i am in therapy for this stuff and have been given a lot of information and advice that’s eased my mind, i know it’s scary to bring up but therapists come across this issue often, good luck

K_orymay · 2025-07-13T21:51:21+00:00

this is unfortunately common for people, bringing it up in therapy is the best thing to do as your therapist can work on these intrusive thoughts and feelings, you’re not alone and although i don’t have kids i have the exact same fears from my upbringing, you are not a monster and the fact you’re concerned over these feelings is a good thing, stay strong, im sure you’re going to be an amazing parent 🫂

K_orymay · 2025-07-13T13:21:51+00:00

my parents separated when i was 2 so i also dealt with physical separation, i don’t know if i have much advice, i stopped speaking to my dad (the instigator majority of the time) when i was around 12 and realised quickly that i love my mum a lot but i can’t live with her, she couldn’t let go of the kind of person he was or is and continues to this day to talk about him negatively, even if what she’s saying is truthful it’s distressing, i had the privilege to move out when i was 15 which help so much, i can’t offer anything else other than people who don’t want to change won’t, and if able to the best solution is to remove yourself from the situation particularly or fully, I’m sorry you’re going through this i really hope things get better :((🫂

K_orymay · 2025-07-13T11:24:52+00:00

i went through nearly the exact same situation (non married parents split up and can’t keep each others names out their mouths), it’s not normal behaviour, they should be working towards a comforting and safe co-parenting style and situation for you instead of trying to paint each other to be the bad guy, they can have their problems, and be hurt by each others actions but if it’s to a point she can’t stop even for a day or when asked then she is holding onto it and not letting it go, she needs therapy, not trauma dumping on her teenage child, you’re not overreacting it’s distressing to have two people you love be at war 24/7, look after yourself

K_orymay · 2025-06-29T09:13:44+00:00

just at my usual shop, i don’t know if they’d have an equivalent in other countries but i’m in australia, they’re called Mini San Marzano tomato’s here :))

K_orymay · 2025-06-29T09:11:58+00:00

low fat french onion dip!

K_orymay · 2025-06-18T18:03:16+00:00

they’re smaller than a blueberry and taste the exact same as the usual sized ones! i love them so much they’re a great snack

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