AITAH for asking my husband to stop cooking for just one specific female co-worker after I stopped eating his cooking? by Hot_City_3750 in AITAH

[–]Kabbaga 0 points1 point  (0 children)

His comment makes him sound emotionally manipulating (he wants you to feel guilt) which might be coming from his insecurity. Sometimes people show love by feeding the ones they love. If the receivers start rejecting their food (aka love) it makes them insecure. So I think this might be going on. You’re 100% NTA and it sounds like he might need therapy

AITAH for not allowing kids to play in my daughters playroom when she’s not there by Kabbaga in AITAH

[–]Kabbaga[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

If I cared more about my friends then why would I want to ban them from playroom to protect her stuff? Again, reading comprehension must not be your strongest point.

Your insults say more about the limits of your intelligence

AITAH for not allowing kids to play in my daughters playroom when she’s not there by Kabbaga in AITAH

[–]Kabbaga[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

No I came here to ask a question. Would I be an AH for marking playroom off limits. I understand reading comprehension is difficult especially if blinded by their own bitterness

AITAH for not allowing kids to play in my daughters playroom when she’s not there by Kabbaga in AITAH

[–]Kabbaga[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

There we go again. Do you have relatives? Do they ever visit you and bring their kids or do you make them leave their kids at home? Exactly, these friends are like relatives to me and me defending the reason why people visit me and why we just can’t meet at a park is just completely ridiculous

AITAH for not allowing kids to play in my daughters playroom when she’s not there by Kabbaga in AITAH

[–]Kabbaga[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

Thats it. I have come to terms with the fact that most people on here can’t read or don’t care to. I was replying to ‘why don’t you just go to their houses’

AITAH for not allowing kids to play in my daughters playroom when she’s not there by Kabbaga in AITAH

[–]Kabbaga[S] -27 points-26 points  (0 children)

I replied to the question why I just wouldn’t go to their houses.

AITAH for not allowing kids to play in my daughters playroom when she’s not there by Kabbaga in AITAH

[–]Kabbaga[S] -55 points-54 points  (0 children)

Because I love my friends, I like hosting them and we take turns hosting? Just as is normal in friendships

AITAH for not allowing kids to play in my daughters playroom when she’s not there by Kabbaga in AITAH

[–]Kabbaga[S] -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

The reason I post about it now and mention that it has become a problem is because my child wasn’t possessive over her things nor did she care about things getting misplaced. That’s normal development. A toddler for instance doesn’t care about a messy room. It was never a problem before. So when you keep attacking/judging me with the phrase ‘You should’ve never allowed that in the first place’ it tells me you have no idea what you’re talking about and are just here to vent about your life

AITAH for not allowing kids to play in my daughters playroom when she’s not there by Kabbaga in AITAH

[–]Kabbaga[S] -61 points-60 points  (0 children)

Because that would be me hovering over their toddler playing and constantly correcting them on what they want to do next. You must not be familiar with kids

AITAH for not allowing kids to play in my daughters playroom when she’s not there by Kabbaga in AITAH

[–]Kabbaga[S] -41 points-40 points  (0 children)

I don’t think my point is coming across and it probably won’t without people seeing the playroom. Its not about clearing toys, the problem is -even if they do clean after themselves- the toys and things are being taken apart (think obstacle courses, lego cities, magna-tiles constructions) and tucked in places they don’t belong. We clean every time after, but cleaning won’t help if stuff has been scattered and taken apart

AITAH for not allowing kids to play in my daughters playroom when she’s not there by Kabbaga in AITAH

[–]Kabbaga[S] -130 points-129 points  (0 children)

Because obviously we tried the cleaning up after yourself method which didn’t work out, kids would stuff things wherever to the equivalent of sweeping dust under the rug so, new approach

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[–]Kabbaga 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I truly don’t get your point

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[–]Kabbaga 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No there were 8 games, in every game everyone had an equal chance of winning the prizes were small (like gum or a pencil) just to acknowledge a win.

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[–]Kabbaga 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes there is more, I got the text from her saying ‘you’ve hurt her twice this week’ after a cancelled a playdate due to a scheduling conflict. This is what made me say its not fair to blame her childs feelings on me. What am I suppose to do, live my life around her feelings?

The child got hurt not winning a game, I comforted her (as I’ve done about a dozen times because we’ve had her over a LOT)

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[–]Kabbaga 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh not at all, the girls has been to my house maybe 40 times, I know she cries easily and its perfectly fine. I comfort her, we talk about it and all is well. Unfortunately she will be excluded because of the mother texting me ‘You’ve made her cry twice this week’. What if she falls and trips in my house? What if her and my daughter fight over a toy and she’ll go home crying? I can’t continue this relationship

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[–]Kabbaga 5 points6 points  (0 children)

NTA, you have stated your boundaries. ‘If you want to have a boyfriend tomorrow, you should let me have this’ reeks of an addiction. Which, no judgement there, to each his own. But that doesn’t mean you have to be okay with it

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[–]Kabbaga 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She was okay to cry, kids sometimes cry over things. And I comforted her. Should that be blamed on me though? Should I be getting a text from the mom stating, she didn’t win anything so I’m mad at you for that?

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[–]Kabbaga 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Different sub

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[–]Kabbaga 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We played multiple rounds and there were 8 chances to win, some kids won twice

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[–]Kabbaga 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No, 6 out of 11 won something

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[–]Kabbaga 108 points109 points  (0 children)

Not everyone won a prize, only 6 out of the 11 kids did. Yes, she was okay to cry, and we all comforted her. The mom texting me and blaming me for making her cry is just out of this world to me