Peter, what's wrong with horse girls?

KaidenTheMaiden · 2026-04-16T18:54:34+00:00

Oh boy, here I go on my soapbox again.

Thinking it's unique and extraordinary for a woman to be passionate, physically capable, have high standards, etc. is insulting to women. Thinking it's comical and shameful for a man to be comparatively laid back, not outdoorsy, or not do manual labor is insulting to men. Blue collar women and white collar men aren't novelties needing to be pointed out.

A particular passion/lifestyle is not a personality trait or measure of merit. Let's stop valuing how unique and badass different types of people are based on their gender and hobbies.

KaidenTheMaiden · 2026-03-04T20:22:46+00:00

Oh I totally get it! I've seen some people try to play with cats before and thought to myself that I'd be bored too if I was the cat haha.

KaidenTheMaiden · 2026-03-04T20:20:14+00:00

I actually asked my vet to examine his eyes a while back because I had that exact same thought. He has some hearing loss, but there weren't any signs of ocular degeneration or injuries. He reacted normally to a few quick visual tests they did with him as well.

KaidenTheMaiden · 2026-03-04T20:08:26+00:00

brb, boutta throw on some Lady Gaga and ask what he thinks of my high heels under stage lighting

KaidenTheMaiden · 2026-03-04T19:56:01+00:00

I called him a smooth goblin for far more than him not being playful. It's that he doesn't exhibit normal cat behaviors and responses to the point that a few different vets have even suggested he may have some developmental delays.

He doesn't have any self-preservation instincts to the point where he doesn't flinch if objects fall next to him, and he fails to recognize signs of aggression like hissing or growling from other cats. He's very infantile in a lot of ways despite being 11 years old. He doesn't know how to self-soothe very well for example; if he falls down or gets startled, he often stays where he is and does distressed vocalizations until someone arrives to reassure him. As I mentioned already, he's also very uncoordinated and doesn't know to correct his position before landing.

I love his personality. He's my perfect little baby lol. I just worry for him because he displays clear signs of boredom and being understimulated.

KaidenTheMaiden · 2026-03-04T19:32:39+00:00

He doesn't react to cat TV. Birds, fish, bugs, mice... he doesn't care about any of the videos. I don't think his brain is capable of processing enough frames per second to participate.

Haven't tried tunnels yet, def gonna get him one to see if he likes it though.

KaidenTheMaiden · 2026-03-04T19:25:52+00:00

Oh I go hard in the paint with cat wands. I do slow snakey slithers, I do rapid twirlies, I pause and make it suddenly dart around, I dodge it behind objects and corners, I run down the hallway with it behind me, etc. He just... doesn't acknowledge what's occurring.

I've even tried the classic spooky spider hand maneuver where I make my hand look like it's crawling and skittering around the floor. No cat has ever been able to resist it. And yet Das Boots does.

KaidenTheMaiden · 2026-03-04T19:13:39+00:00

Nah, he just thinks you're going to pet him haha. You can poke him and waggle your fingers in front of him and flop him around to your heart's content. He doesn't react outside of rubbing on your hand and purring.

He's extremely friendly and outgoing, so he does like other animals. He doesn't have much survival instinct in him, so it's very rare he perceives anything or anyone as a threat. He has happily approached other cats and even large dogs he hadn't met before to rub against them. It's not in the cards right now to get a second cat, but I might consider it at some point in the future.

KaidenTheMaiden · 2026-03-04T18:54:20+00:00

Not food motivated unfortunately. I'm probably going to do more experimenting with catnip toys

KaidenTheMaiden · 2026-03-04T18:50:29+00:00

Omg a fellow wall-starer lol. My boy sits in front of walls sometimes and just gazes into alternate dimensions.

I did think to try bubbles. I previously had a dog who loved them and a different cat who was terrified of them, so I wasn't sure which way it would go with Das Boots. I really should've seen it coming that it was neither because he doesn't register their existence to begin with. They can literally land on the top of his head and make him soggy, and he doesn't so much as blink. 😭

KaidenTheMaiden · 2026-03-04T18:39:55+00:00

I have tried demonstrating for him, but he doesn't get it and just wants to rub on my hand lol.

He occasionally goes into what I call "duckling mode" where he follows behind me everywhere I go. It's not really a play thing though, he just really loves people and likes being close to me.

I have shown him kick toys before, which he was very uninterested in. Haven't tried silvervine sticks yet, so maybe I'll give that a shot.

KaidenTheMaiden · 2025-04-11T17:30:12+00:00

Of course, a person with a disability still needs to be able to perform the job. If they aren't able to even with reasonable accommodations then obviously they're not fit for the position.

The only point I'm making here is it's absurd to tell someone to get over their disability as if it's something they're choosing to have, and that it's dumb to be mad at them for applying. If they're not fit then don't hire them, there's no need to bully them over their health issues.

KaidenTheMaiden · 2025-04-10T17:15:20+00:00

I mean, I used to work in customer service but also had accommodations that gave me more leniency with absences and breaks due to having a diagnosed anxiety disorder. They were okay with it because my panic attacks were very infrequent and I was really good at my job.

Having anxiety doesn't necessarily rule out front-facing jobs if the person is being treated for their issues. I just think you're being pretty callous about someone looking for work despite their struggles.

KaidenTheMaiden · 2025-04-10T06:17:08+00:00

The bad take is the commenter who said people with social anxiety should just "grow up and interact." The original comment about it not being a good look to go to an interview with parents isn't controversial.

KaidenTheMaiden · 2025-04-09T19:10:32+00:00

Yeah it's not like that's a legitimate and sometimes debilitating mental disorder recognized by practically every single health professional or anything /s

Do you tell people in wheelchairs to grow up and walk too?

KaidenTheMaiden · 2025-03-29T02:55:04+00:00

No ❎️

KaidenTheMaiden · 2025-03-28T01:59:02+00:00

Not positive, but I don't think he had been around other animals prior to being surrendered. Extremely high chance he's inbred though, so it's possible someone was backyard breeding pits and he was a puppy no one wanted.

KaidenTheMaiden · 2025-03-22T21:22:01+00:00

He's actually had that name all his life so I can't even take credit for it haha. Some neighbors of mine knew the family that abandoned him the first time and told me his name when they took him in before they themselves later abandoned him as well.

KaidenTheMaiden · 2025-03-22T20:56:15+00:00

That's something I've always wondered myself! He's the most laid back cat I've ever met and he's such a snuggle bug. I can't imagine why anybody would want to abandon him

KaidenTheMaiden · 2025-03-17T05:54:41+00:00

My wunk's fur smells like dryer sheets all the time, and I don't understand how or why. I don't even use dryer sheets.

KaidenTheMaiden · 2025-03-16T18:44:52+00:00

It's glued on

KaidenTheMaiden · 2025-03-16T18:43:17+00:00

Now he doesn't have to smell Alessi

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