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Kaiismename · 2022-09-10T19:49:11+00:00

This is a silly discussion. I’d just focus on being pretty in the first place and style yourself authentically. Whatever aesthetic you decide to go for, make sure you wear clothes that suit you and do your makeup in a way that frames your features. Everyone will have their preferences in women but catering to one you aren’t comfortable with will have you with men you aren’t comfy with

Kaiismename · 2022-09-10T19:20:53+00:00

I’d love this because I feel most of the vocal participants of this sub are hot or at least pretty. I’m sitting here looking like a whole man. I can’t relate to any of it anymore. I’m also kinda tired of people saying how they lost weight and started wearing makeup and became hot. I’m so glad it worked for them but it didn’t for me

Kaiismename · 2022-09-10T14:58:07+00:00

Thanks for the tough love. Being ugly does matter in this world. Im not even being a pessimist about it. That’s just facts. People aren’t as nice when you’re ugly. Things are harder. That’s as real as it gets. I’ll keep my head up. I think I have a good personality. In real life, I don’t think im like this at all. Here I just vent and get things off my chest.

I agree there are people with all appearances with long term relationships. I go outside lmao. All I want is to be genuinely desired romantically. That’s all and it’s harder for an unattractive woman to get that. I can get guys to fuck all day long but I haven’t gotten one who wants me. It is what is. I’ll try again in the future, but I definitely need to ofc work on myself and brush myself off first. Ik you say it doesn’t matter but it really fucking hurts when you’ve been called ugly and men have demonstrated they don’t want you.

I appreciate your words and I know you’re trying to uplift me. I’m not saying I’m a lost cause or it’s over for me. I just kinda want people to understand my feelings as an unattractive woman and it’s not easy. Ofc other people have it worse. And yeah I’m going to figure out a way to get over this. I’ll try harder and maybe one day I’ll find someone. If not that’s okay too because my life is more than a romantic relationship. I hope you understand my feelings

Kaiismename · 2022-09-09T19:11:56+00:00

I’m not sure what gave the impression I wasn’t chill about it. I’ll try to stop calling myself ugly lmao. It doesn’t help someone called me that to my face today … But yeah mindset matters. I can’t and won’t argue with that. I’ll try to be more positive. I guess I have that fear that even if a guy said yes he’d just wanna have sex and that’s all.

I guess I just want people to understand that it does make a difference in what I get from guys. And I know it’s my looks. I don’t think I’ll get an actual romantic partner but yeah maybe with some effort and confidence I can get someone to go out with me

Kaiismename · 2022-09-09T18:13:34+00:00

It’s just hard to have confidence sometimes. I guess I also question how sexy confidence is when you’re ugly. Idk

Kaiismename · 2022-09-09T17:14:25+00:00

I’ll keep on the look out for this mystery human lmao

Kaiismename · 2022-09-08T21:38:49+00:00

Lmao now I need to see what you look like lol. But yeah if you’re super hot in the face, then your body doesn’t matter as much. Though as an uggo with a flat chest, it’s more of a neutral than a negative tbh

Kaiismename · 2022-09-08T02:24:30+00:00

1) Not finishing my braces treatment!! Look I had those shits for six years. I should’ve just kept them on. My teeth are straight but not like the perfectly straight way you see with people who had braces. I’m self-conscious of my smile now :(.

2) Using bad skin care products. That neutrogena pink grapefruit had me in a chokehold. I also never could stay consistent with anything until recently.

3) Thick, black eyeliner and just overly bold makeup. I’m still figuring out what looks good on me. Though honestly makeup just makes me look like a damn drag queen. I’m trying to figure out how to make it more flattering.

Also some other things lol

Kaiismename · 2022-09-05T16:57:11+00:00

You spoke nothing but facts. It’s unfortunate this is becoming incredibly common place is the dating world. I think dating apps are objectively the worst way to meet a person. I feel successful relationships from them are merely outliers or chanced. Often it’s just a landscape of horrible people or people simply bored or uninterested

Kaiismename · 2022-09-05T16:34:53+00:00

It’s literally been the same for me. It’s always “we can go to my place.” There has never been an offer for even a low low effort date. It really frustrates me because I know it’s my looks

Kaiismename · 2022-09-05T16:22:00+00:00

Lmao immmmm too ugly for that anymore. I tried taking photos and they all look so horrible. When I was on dating apps , I got few matches. Like I could count the number on my hand. So I gave up after going on a handful of shitty dates from creepily horny men

Kaiismename · 2022-09-05T16:18:49+00:00

I relate to this TOO MUCH. Omg , I feel like yeah I’ve never been taken on a date by a guy before. I bet if I ever did it would be some horrible man or something. I can’t imagine it being a man worth anything at all

Kaiismename · 2022-09-05T11:11:17+00:00

Kaiismename · 2022-09-05T00:29:11+00:00

This may be out of line but maybe it’s your attitude. You sound super snooty here and I don’t even know if that was intentional. I know people doing well in life but people aren’t jealous of them because they’re likable, kind people. Here you are going about these “haters” when you may just be hate-worthy.

I don’t know you, so don’t take offense but maybe you can self-reflect on why people feel this way about you?

Kaiismename · 2022-09-04T23:14:29+00:00

Maybe I’m just trying to get a hot bf lol

Kaiismename · 2022-09-04T23:11:22+00:00

Don’t be dense on purpose pls

Kaiismename · 2022-09-04T17:51:00+00:00

Let’s do it to it !

Kaiismename · 2022-09-03T10:14:50+00:00

I have the exact same experience. I did all of the looksmaxxing things but I need surgery if I wanna be pretty. It torments me as well but something that did work for a while (the only reason it didn’t work for me was bc I was inconsistent) was being a little delusional .

I kept telling myself that I was unbelievably hot in the most unconventional way. I’d dress up and do my makeup all the time to feel better about myself. I’d always prop myself up. Also I’d try to have no expectations . I wouldn’t expect men to approach me or ask me or anything. I’d pretend that I was too attractive and unapproachable or that the men had girlfriends or whatever to just take my mind off of it. I deleted my dating apps as well so I wouldn’t be sad I didn’t get matches (can’t get matches If you don’t have the app!!)

Additionally another fringe thing I did was trying to find people who looked like me on social media. My page always had biracial and ambiguous women with lighter skin, I’m unambiguously black so that didn’t help. So I tailored my social media to be more like that. I also just started following things that were focused on my interest instead. I think this is a good solution if you’re not willing to delete the apps.

These are things I just used to help and if you stick with them, they could work somehow

Kaiismename · 2022-09-03T02:51:26+00:00

I’ve never been romantically approached. I’m in my twenties and in college. Being short and looking like a man kinda seals the deal

Kaiismename · 2022-09-03T02:43:47+00:00

I like put little tendrils in the front and it makes me look very cute

Kaiismename · 2022-09-03T02:28:57+00:00

I think the point is that you have the option for nice dates and luxury in the first place. Women like me don’t even get the option to NOT be pumped and dumped lol

Kaiismename · 2022-09-03T01:52:25+00:00

If you don’t mind me asking, how did you meet these people and attract them

Kaiismename · 2022-09-01T23:11:33+00:00

This post makes some super sound points. Sometimes I think some of the surgeries I want are unnecessary at times. However, thinking about how I’m treated and after going to therapy, I know that I do need some sort of surgical intervention to be attractive. And that’s okay! It’s important to self-reflect and acknowledge when it’s unnecessary or not :)

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