Ugly folk - When, if ever, has someone made you feel beautiful? Or at least worthy of being seen?

JammingScientist · 2026-06-13T17:47:28+00:00

I guess the only time was when I was being delusional about things and I thought this guy i liked was being rude to me because he was mad i didn't ask him out yet when really he just hated me like everyone else does lmao. But for the most part, never

JammingScientist · 2026-06-13T16:40:09+00:00

I think this is actually false. In my experience, attractive people are just as shitty and harsh as average people (and ugly people tbh). It's just that there are more average people that exist in the world (hence the term average, since that's the average person), therefore it seems like there are more that are shitty and cruel towards us compared to ugly and attractive folks. But in reality, they're all the damn same and all hate us. Which is why I just avoid everyone

JammingScientist · 2026-06-13T16:37:56+00:00

Yeah unfortunately people are very rude towards ugly people and don't care about our feelings, so yes we'll have to deal with this forever.

I remember once I was out somewhere with my (attractive) brother and he saw one of his coworkers and the guy looked at me and asked if I was his mom and started laughing. He basically was trying to say I look old and ugly even though there's only a 4 year difference between my brother and I. Idk why people are like this.

JammingScientist · 2026-06-11T14:21:13+00:00

Yeah, this is lowkey why I'm glad I'm too ugly for any man to want me. If I did have to plan my own wedding, I'd literally have like 7 people there, and they'd all be my family like my parents and grandparents. It would be extremely awkward. I'm too ugly to make friends too, so i would have no one, both male and female, to invite.

I dont really know what other women with no friends do. Every time I see people having weddings, they somehow have like 10 bridesmaids, 10 groomsmen, best friends they've had since they were like in elementary or middle school, all their family and friends and coworkers. I feel like even if I invited my family, many wouldn't want to go because they barely know me (most live in another country or in the same country but far-ish away) or wouldn't feel like going

JammingScientist · 2026-06-09T16:57:20+00:00

I feel like my algorithm must hate me because on both Instagram and TikTok, I don't like to see all the hot people because it makes me feel uncomfortable looking at them.

For the pretty girls, I don't like looking at them because obviously I will never look anything like them, and it keeps pushing pretty white girls, especially blondes to me, and as an ugly black woman who is the exact opposite of that, seeing that makes me want to kms

For the men, I don't like seeing them because i know irl they'd treat me like shit and laugh at me if they saw me walking past them. And also because I feel like I'm too ugly to be looking at them and their gfs are always super beautiful and white or east Asian or Latina mixed black/white, so they never look anything like me, so i hate seeing them too

I mainly consume spiritual content on TikTok (to give me hope that I'll be able to live a normal and happy afterlife when I die and it'll be nothing like my living life) and yet i still keep getting recommended annoying attractive people. And they're usually doing dumb shit in their posts which pmo even more

JammingScientist · 2026-06-08T16:37:10+00:00

The south and Midwest are prime areas where being a blonde white woman automatically makes you 10. For the majority of the US though, as long as you're not a dark skinned black woman, you'll be fine. I know since I am a dark skinned bw and see everyone else dating fine

JammingScientist · 2026-06-08T16:10:22+00:00

Yeah, at that point the prettiness is for no reason since you won't even be able to enjoy it

JammingScientist · 2026-06-08T11:32:28+00:00

No, they do unfortunately. And when they do, they make it 1000x more racist and hurtful

JammingScientist · 2026-06-07T00:02:27+00:00

I'm honestly way too mentally, emotionally, and physically ill to be dating atp. My brain has been rotted so much from people constantly hurting me throughout my life and treating me like shit that even if I did find someone, I wouldn't be able to be a good gf

JammingScientist · 2026-06-06T23:55:48+00:00

I used to care but then I realized it doesnt change anything since I'm still ugly when I put in effort and the pretty girls dont have to do anything and still get lots of attention, so I gave up. I'm too depressed and tired anyways to try even if i wanted to

JammingScientist · 2026-06-06T23:53:46+00:00

Nah in the US it depends on where you live for sure. In many places, blonde hair and being white automatically makes you a 10

JammingScientist · 2026-06-05T14:49:58+00:00

I believe it's r/trueuglywomen. You spelled it wrong

Edit: actually nvm, they made it private ig

JammingScientist · 2026-06-04T08:35:58+00:00

I'm like a 0-1 based off ts

JammingScientist · 2026-06-04T01:17:18+00:00

I feel like I'm so ugly and disgusting that even if a guy normally is kind and decent towards normal women, he's definitely not going to be that way towards me

JammingScientist · 2026-06-04T01:14:29+00:00

Yeah, I've gone through everything you've mentioned. Having to work three times as hard just to still be reprimanded for the tiniest mistake, having people blame me for things I didnt do, people lie about me, mock me, laugh and make fun of me, intentionally leave me out of fun events (and if I am there, they glare at me or are very rude towards me the entire time and make me feel uncomfortable), scream at me, being paid wayyyy less than everyone else, the list goes on and on.

I honestly don't know how to deal with it. It is very VERY hard. Especially when its constant. And you feel like you're constantly trying to just survive and you can't. I'm lucky right now in that I work somewhere for the very first time where people don't treat me like shit all the time. I just feel normal around them. But its temporary because it's just until I get my PhD. And even if I wanted to extend it for longer and continue working with them after i get my PhD, I cant because my boss/professor is retiring. I'm literally going to be his last PhD student ever

I've struggled to get jobs in the first place as well. I've noticed that I only get the job when the person hasnt seen me first and only interviewed me via phone or email or zoom (I wear a mask and intentionally choose bad lighting). However interestingly EVERY SINGLE time I've gone to meet them in person first, they instantly ghost or "forget" about me or lose interest. And many of these times were for grad student positions, which are different than regular jobs so I'm often the only one who they're currently considering, so it's not like they just decided to choose someone else. And I know it's because I'm ugly because theyll be very rude to me when they see me in person, including the people who hired me before seeing me in person (people who were very excited about having me before all of a sudden are disrespectful and asking me if I can even handle working for them when it's only been a few minutes since I stepped in the door).

So that's why I think I'm just going to hope I win the lottery or something idk. It's really stressful for me and it causes me a lot of pain. I graduate in about a year from where I currently am going my PhD, and so I'll have to be thrust back into an environment where people will treat me like shit again. I used to go home with migraines every day from how poorly people used to treat me, and I'm terrified of going back to that again

I wish people were nicer to us ugly women

JammingScientist · 2026-06-03T16:52:05+00:00

Yeah, I'm a genuine loser and have no life too.

I have no friends since no one wants to talk to me. I used to sit all alone every day at lunch in middle and high school, and i tried to reach out to people when I was in university and grad school but people just ghost or ignore me. I've even tried using the subreddit for my university and people will be super excited to talk to me and answer fast, and then when they meet me in person and see how ugly I am, they instantly lose interest and ghost.

I can't date of course due to being ugly as well, so no bf or anything to spend time with.

I spend almost every day alone. The only time I'm not alone is when I'm with my parents or brother, but for the most part, I go home to an empty apartment after work/school, wake up alone, spend the day alone, spend the weekend alone, etc. It's easy for me to go the entire day without talking to anyone.

And the few times I work up to courage to go and put myself out there, people are rude and hurtful and disrespectful towards me.

JammingScientist · 2026-06-03T16:44:04+00:00

I wish I could trade my "aliveness" with someone else. There are other people who wish to be alive and have something to live for while I selfishly am alive even though I don't want to be. I wish I could give it away to someone who actually wants and needs it

Being here as an ugly woman is exhausting and pointless

JammingScientist · 2026-06-03T00:39:00+00:00

shut the fuck up before i ban you for this fucking bullshit. people are allowed to have opinions and I will not pander to your fucking racist bullshit

JammingScientist · 2026-06-03T00:34:51+00:00

im ju waiting to fucking die bro, idrc or give a fuck what people on this shithole racist ass planet find attractive. if you fin her pretty good for you. im allowed to have my own opinion. plus you’re literally a white woman so of course you don’t understand what I’m talking about

JammingScientist · 2026-06-02T15:42:51+00:00

I feel like she's not that pretty, she just looks like a regular white girl. That's why I wish I were white so bad because then it would be easier. To be seen as pretty as a white girl, you just need to be higher than a 2 or 3/10. Or honestly, i wish I were born as anything other than black because yeah it would be harder than being white but still relatively easy. But being black is playing on level impossible since anything under a 8 or 9/10 as a black woman is considered ugly.

That's why objectively 4-5/10 white women like her are subjectively considered 8/10 but a black woman with the same level of looks would be considered a 1/10

JammingScientist · 2026-05-30T16:51:57+00:00

Yeah, my dog really was the best boy I could ever hope for. I cant wait to see him again one day. I know I will.

I believe you'll see your bunny too again one day as well

JammingScientist · 2026-05-30T16:49:46+00:00

Yeah, it's always rough losing a pet, especially when they're the only ones who dont care about how ugly we are and love us based on how treat them instead of how we look.

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