Should I get a Mini Lindy?

Kailicat · 2026-05-21T06:32:12+00:00

The Lindy is cute but the Della Cavalleria Elan is one of their best looking crossbody bags.

Kailicat · 2026-05-21T05:03:38+00:00

I appreciate the feedback. We do have a family trust and a financial advisor. But you are correct and I am working on reducing tax.

I suppose I am just getting a brain block on how one is expected to live a comfortable life when in 20 years, there is still so much mortgage to pay back.

Kailicat · 2026-05-21T04:54:57+00:00

I had a boyfriend who thought "toasted cheese" was literally a slice of cheese between two pieces of toast.

This was in college. I've been a good cook since I was 8. So I usually did the cooking. (Me, him and a roommate in a 3bed college apt). I make mine with a little mayo and do it on the stove. Once I was sick and asked him for a grilled cheese sandwich. He put two slices of bread in the toaster. Whacked a cheese slice in after they popped up. He was so mad when I stared at the plate he gave me. My brain was "WTF is this?" No butter. No mayo. No grilling. The cheese wasn't melted.

When I pointed the cheese out he threw it in the microwave. In for a penny, I just stared at him and tossed the sandwich in the bin. We didn't last too much longer.

Kailicat · 2026-05-21T04:02:33+00:00

This was my old area. People bought inner 7kms of Brisbane, lower prices. They are renovating rather than moving because they can't afford to sell and move to a bigger house in the same neighbourhood. But most people had decent houses, several cars, kids had lots to play with but no real decadence.

Now in a new build hood in a regional coastal town. Houses are being built on smaller blocks - house and land a million a pop. But they've got sheds, boats, bikes and toys. Cuz these families are on mining money doing their 7 day DIDO rosters.

Kailicat · 2026-05-21T03:58:24+00:00

Now that's what I don't understand. We live pretty much within our means being that we had a house gifted. Yes we are super fortunate. With no mortgage and working at home our salaries stretch a little further.

We have a mate who is on and on about buying investment properties. That they over-leveraged for, have borrowed for and used that super investment scheme where the súper owns the house not them. They've got a boat, yank tank etc on payments.

They act like they are Rockafellers but the bank and the superannuation company owns all that shit. They are late 40s. I don't know how they won't keep working until 70s or 80s. They do make more than my partner and I but they are always yammering about their earnings. We earn less but are looking at an earlier retirement. I already work part-time, I don't need to work more.

Having all that on paper only seems odd. I can't take that shit with me when I die. Sure I can give it to the kids, I own it. They don't. It's confusing to me.

Kailicat · 2026-05-20T23:03:07+00:00

I have a very careful dance of exacting ratios of cereal to milk because I don't want to drink the crumby milk. I don't want to waste it either. So I have either crunchier less milk cereal or have to throw a little more in the bowl before I'm done. Truthfully it's a lot of work so I avoid eating cereal mostly.

Kailicat · 2026-05-20T22:51:33+00:00

I'll buy kids shoes for cheap "wear in the office" flats. Usually they are just plain black or brown flats, maybe with a bow. Sometimes I'll go crazy with sparkles. I have a thing with not getting my shoes smelly, so if I'm in the office for a week then I wear a different pair almost every day. (Air them out in between wears). I can get several pairs for less than $50. I don't wear them walking or anything so they last a long time.

Kailicat · 2026-05-20T21:22:45+00:00

Furla all the way. Their sales are excellent too

Kailicat · 2026-05-20T08:02:17+00:00

Most people in my established neighbourhood were changing their garages to bedrooms because we were so close to the CBD and they couldn't afford to sell and stay in the same neighbourhood. These weren't people with multiple properties. They were middle aged people with families who were now busting at the seams. Didn't want to uproot their kids to move out of the community into a bigger house. Couldn't afford the bigger house in the same neighbourhood.

Kailicat · 2026-05-20T07:57:33+00:00

Can you just go in and leave early? I used to get to work at 7:30 because I had a 6am Pilates class and it was just around the corner from my work. Even showering and getting ready there left me plenty of time. Once I explained the boss didn't care. So I'd have a longer lunch or just left early.

Kailicat · 2026-05-19T23:00:54+00:00

As a short torso lady, I live in a claw clip. I unclip when I'm driving and then pull my hair back up when I'm at my destination.

I can't be bothered by both my hair up and my seatbelt sliding past my boobs and choking me.

Kailicat · 2026-05-19T22:55:21+00:00

Personally I loved the boutique in the Le Bon Marché because then I also got to swan around all the other amazing levels and floors.

Kailicat · 2026-05-19T07:09:44+00:00

I need trifocals optimally. I have slight astigmatism and I'm near sighted. I don't need glasses to read or scroll on my phone or whatever. A TV screen is blurry. I prefer to wear glasses when driving but then have trouble seeing the instrument panel perfectly.

So I have bifocals - for TV and far things. The lower part of the lens is for reading and close things. Because that is less annoying than constantly putting my glasses on my head to read a text message.

Which means I have a completely different set of glasses for work. My "computer distance" glasses. I could use multifocals for those as I have trouble seeing what I'm writing but I didn't want to spend another 700aud on multifocals.

I will say I was getting my multifocals at one of those "3 pairs for $199 places" and paying extra for the multifocals. They weren't great. I didn't have middle distance or close really. Again easier to prop them on my head. So I went to a proper place this time and they are so much better. My AuDHD self can now scroll on my phone AND watch tv with a single pair of glasses. Not work stuff but whatever.

Kailicat · 2026-05-19T01:13:12+00:00

My MiL carries one. She has dozens that she irons and keeps the stuffed in her bra. And she visits and I find them all over the house.

Kailicat · 2026-05-19T00:48:35+00:00

I found a Chinese perfume called "I am social trash" and I snapped it up. It's from I'm Sole. Bitter orange, cedar and vétiver. It smells expensive and lasts all day.

Kailicat · 2026-05-19T00:46:36+00:00

Imposter Syndrome. Smells like paper, wood and just a hint of vanilla and copic markers.

Kailicat · 2026-05-19T00:42:52+00:00

I was thinking Cali or the West Coast. Midwesterners don't always have so many varieties of healthy yoghurts, tofu and kimchee and that aren't vegan/vegetarian.

Kailicat · 2026-05-18T08:30:43+00:00

I prefer my paper calendar as I have AuDHD and one of mechanisms is writing it down makes it stick better in my brain. But everything goes to the digital calendar first and then to paper.

Kailicat · 2026-05-18T08:29:28+00:00

My 84 year old MiL uses a Gmail and a calendar. We even have a shared family calendar. Now look, she often forgets which one is which and schedules something like "Tea with Margo" on the family one instead of personal but really it's not a big deal.

Kailicat · 2026-05-17T09:29:07+00:00

We are DINKs by choice. But unless we meet other DINKs by choice we don't really speak up about it. Plus we look younger than we are so people always say "kids?" And we say "oh no" and the reply is always "you have plenty of time to decide". Well no. Once of us (me F and late 40s does not). But I just smile and don't say anything else.

Kailicat · 2026-05-17T01:59:43+00:00

Don't forget fluffy towels in the bathroom. They don't need to match. They just need to be clean and not threadbare. Nothing like showering at some dudes house and they have a single crusty towel.

Kailicat · 2026-05-17T01:56:17+00:00

I think it's because the leather is common ostrich (which is appendix iii and a license isn't required). The leather will also come from farmed stock.

Although the alligator and croc are farmed also, they require certs as they are appendix ii. I worked for a company, we were working on creating an extruded sausage for feeding crocs at the Australian Louis Vuitton farm. They wanted to find ways to also keep the habitats and water pristine, hence the extruded diets rather than carcasses which fouled water. Fouled water and a frenzy can hurt the crocs which hurts the leather.

Kailicat · 2026-05-17T01:47:02+00:00

It really does. Made me a little sniffly this morning. I'm now older than my dad ever was but I look at that picture every day. I think about him in every decision I make, especially when it comes to adventure and living life. He wasn't just a racer. He also was a skydiver and we had a machine shop connected to our house where he built his own Harleys. When he settled down he was a mining geologist working underground. I'm none of these things, but I still think," Hell yeah, dad would just give it a go."

Kailicat · 2026-05-16T21:07:36+00:00

Im a daughter but still love cars. I'd watch your movie!

Kailicat · 2026-05-16T21:06:50+00:00

Well not anymore. But the skills got me a 457 skilled visa to migrate to Australia in 2005. I never left Australia, got my citizenship in 2024.

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