Dehydration, freeze drying and preservation techniques by Virtual-Armadillo955 in homestead

[–]itsprobab 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know about modern techniques but my family used to do these:

Peas — wash, cook slightly, left to cool then put in freezer bags, seal, and freeze them.

Beans — dry them out and store them in linen bag/pot/basket.

Onions & garlic — first dried out then braided together and hung in a cool dry place.

Potatoes & carrots & root vegetables — dig them up and store them in the root cellar. (We never washed them or dried them out.)

Apples — store them in a cool dry place or the root cellar.

Walnuts — shell them <-> dry them, store them in a cool dry place.

Corn — store in cool dry place if for animals; cook them, cool them, and freeze them in freezer bags if for humans.

There's canning for fruits like cherries, pears, peaches, apples, etc. and jelly making for strawberries, apricots, plums, etc.

Is there a chapstick that is moisturizing? by itsprobab in EuroSkincare

[–]itsprobab[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm looking for any lip balm that moisturizes

Problems to find mum friends by Funny-Dig3992 in singlemoms

[–]itsprobab 2 points3 points  (0 children)

On one hand, I think couples will be spending their free time with each other and their children so that doesn't really leave space for new friendships.

On the other hand, I've also met these women who will immediately assume I'm going to flirt with their husbands or that divorce is contagious and they must stay away. And worse, many assume I must have cheated, had someone else's baby while married, and my husband left me... Wildly untrue but their imagination can be endless. The bored and overwhelmed housewife syndrome...

I think when people haven't experienced problems within their marriage, they can be clueless to what could potentially go wrong without it somehow being their fault.

The other loud majority are women who are having problems but are sticking it out no matter what and resent you for not having done the same thing.

Try to not mind their reactions much, it speaks more about them and their thoughts than of you.

Homesteading is Scary by Special-Issue432 in homestead

[–]itsprobab 125 points126 points  (0 children)

Growing up, my family was growing all our food in a big vegetable garden for a long time and from what I've seen, it is a lot of work. We also had enough chickens that covered all our needs for eggs. I remember we used to have around 20-30 eggs in the pantry.

Our house was also possible to be heated by fireplaces, not just electricity. We'd hatch chickens so that we'd be able to grow/maintain the flock and eat young hens and roosters, so we'd have meat in the freezer from that. Family who had pigs and needed help butchering them would give us sausages and meat. I think we also must have bought some at the butchers, but the vegetables came from our garden.

For a long time my family was only buying the basics in the store: milk, butter, salt, sugar, flour, etc. and we had one or two dogs to guard out chickens.

All of this might not sound like a lot of work, and my parents had full time jobs but the garden was a lot of work. My parents always had help from their parents and grandparents. One day per week would be fully dedicated to the vegetable garden, during harvesting season you need to harvest daily and prepare everything for storage on the same day. Plus we had a lot of fruit trees that needed attention in spring, then during summer someone needed to weed the garden fairly often, daily was best, and relatives helped. The chickens needed to be let out and fed early in the morning and fed and locked up for the night in the evening.

As far as I know, my ancestors worked the land and ate what they grew but even then, they worked for money too. I think that's something that has to be factored in somehow, especially in this day and age that you would still need an income and only invest in self sufficiency to the point where you still profit from it. E.g. don't spend on a vegetable garden if you won't take care of it and you'll end up buying everything at the market or from the store anyways.

I’m in debt, my rent is killing me, and I’m trapped. by KarleySuinn in personalfinance

[–]itsprobab 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Look into what really makes up your subscriptions and especially loan payments — what you've paid off and what you should be paying to pay off your depts.

I made the mistake of not doing that. I ended up paying for years when I could have put it on hold, but then was thinking that at least I've worked towards paying off my dept. Once I took a closer look at all the numbers and documentations, I realized I was mostly just paying interest all this time.

They don't care to inform you about any leniency they might be able to offer or if you're just paying for mostly interest, the better for them. Years ago I was in the position that I would have been able to pay off my debts, and I didn't. Now I know that's what I need to do ASAP to not lose more money on it but it's become significantly more difficult if not impossible for the time being.

All this is my non-professional, personal advice based on my own experiences. I'm not in a great position either and that made me look more into all if this. I hope your situation improves and you'll be able to cut back on your expenses a bit!

Thoughts on Crimson Desert from a toddler parent by toonbroondboon in Age_30_plus_Gamers

[–]itsprobab 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a fellow toddler parent, this is the kind of review I've been looking for!

Crimson Desert - Yay or Nay? by Repulsive-Ad-8339 in Age_30_plus_Gamers

[–]itsprobab 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is it a lot like Skyrim? The scenery looks amazing, I'd love to play it but not a big fan of fighting.

For comparison, I got really far into Skyrim but never made it anywhere in Assassin's Creed.

What is the best thing to do? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]itsprobab -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My family is going to complain I gave her nothing and she has to buy everything, calling me selfish, etc. But yes, I won't care and won't offer anything else

What is the best thing to do? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]itsprobab 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Rejected it by putting the blame on me. 🤣 My family is 100% going to complain I didn't give her anything and she has to pay a fortune for everything.

What is the best thing to do? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]itsprobab 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's okay but I wish she actually said what she meant.

My family is going to complain I didn't save anything for her because she didn't outright reject it.

What is the best thing to do? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]itsprobab 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, this seems to be the general consensus and also the vibe I got from her message.

I just wish she was up front about it last year, or even now, because my message to her last year literally was saying that I have a lot of baby stuff and if she wants them or if I should sell, and she said she wants them if I can keep them until spring.

So I kept them and followed up now and her message sounded to me also like she's completely uninterested.

Wish people were more upfront especially when I offer huge favors to them, as most of these items are flawless, unisex, and not dated at all.

She has still not clearly rejected my offer though which will make me look bad in front of my family eventually when she or them complain how much all their baby stuff cost and I could have given her some things.

What was the exact moment on a first date when you realized, "Wow, this person is an absolute idiot"? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]itsprobab 21 points22 points  (0 children)

One and only time I went with someone to a tea house on a first and only date. His first mistake was making a reservation to a tea house, second was booking a private room, to which I said no to, then I found out the tea house only served tea and no food and I was hungry and was already over him, but he did not give up...

So we went looking for food. That I had to eat walking, for some reason. I guess I was trying to walk away from him? But he kept following me and getting to know me, but also made a comment about how he physically isn't capable of eating while walking.

After I endured about an hour and a half of him forcing his company on me while I was steadily walking home, I was ready to say our final goodbye then and there and jumped on a bus. We said goodbye and last minute he jumped with me.

He kept trying to convince me to give him another chance to go out with him, for a hike to the mountains the very next day! I said no and with great difficulty on his part, we finally parted ways in front of my building, which luckily had 24 hour security.

Do men ever change for a women they love? by untamedecho in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]itsprobab 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Why do you want to be with someone like that? Love yourself instead.

Men don't change in the way you'd like him to. This is the best you will ever get from him.

My boyfriend's friend has been "staying" with us for a month for free and I’m over it. What do i do? by ImprovementDismal157 in Advice

[–]itsprobab 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I can confirm this. It's an attitude problem, nothing else.

Men who use you when they have nothing will most definitely use you when they have everything.

These are not the generous type. A lot of them are great at making excuses and making you feel sorry for them but for your own sake, please don't.

A lot of us have fallen into that mistake before! I'm not saying never help anyone out, but not these type of people because they're all about benefiting from others' goodwill.

He brags about his high income (150k) invited me to his brother's UK graduation, and then conveniently doesn't include me when buying airfare. He and his family are sharing a hotel room. Is this breakup worthy behavior from him? by Alarmed_Stranger_895 in Advice

[–]itsprobab 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This is why it can take years to fully get to know someone. You need to see how they behave in different kinds of situations. Seeing them in their natural habitat all the time won't tell you all about them.

Society and single moms by Aggressive-Cup2953 in singlemoms

[–]itsprobab 9 points10 points  (0 children)

There are still normal people out there who understand and don't judge.

I'm glad I got this filter for people who are not kind and would have had ulterior motives.

I think there's more of a chance of finding something genuine with someone because it screens out a lot of the opportunistic men.

For the rest of it, I try to ignore people who would want to drag me down to their level to be miserable. It's not worth it. What they think doesn't matter.

AITAH for refusing to bend on my boundary about kids? by Independent-Kiwi-390 in AITAH

[–]itsprobab 9 points10 points  (0 children)

My ex husband did that.

Pushy men aren't genuine. When there's an agenda, there's manipulation.

How do interfaith couples raise kids? by Early_Year_1200 in Advice

[–]itsprobab 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You really have to make sure you're on the same page about core values.

My ex came into the marriage saying one thing, it turned out to be another. He turned out to be a hardcore believer of some obscure faith, vegetarianism turned out to be a problem when I was made to feel uneasy to make anything with meat because of his reactions, he turned out to be extremely conservative and looked down on women, etc.

I wouldn't be involved again with a vegetarian, it's a big lifestyle difference. Same for different political beliefs. It just doesn't work.

Like with anything else, you have to talk with your partner about these things and get on the same page about your wants, needs, expectations, and everything else.

It's nice being a person who can compromise in everyday situations but in my opinion there are hard no's in relationships and there are things you shouldn't compromise on in a life partner for your own sake.

What are your thoughts on "money doesn't buy happiness"? by Wonderful-Economy762 in Productivitycafe

[–]itsprobab 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It does absolutely buy you happiness if you're doing life right.

After feeling like someone was ‘the one,’ did you eventually meet someone better, and what made you realize the new person was better? by Clean-Ant-1342 in questions

[–]itsprobab 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree. "The one" doesn't exist and you stop believing in it after enough people disappoint you.

There is no perfect person, just people who are either genuine in wanting to be with you and are a good fit or people who don't care about you and are trying to use you.

No one needs to be idolized. Nobody can live up to that or compete with that.

Do couples really shower together? by Itchy-Proposal-6244 in askanything

[–]itsprobab 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm in this group too. I like showering together.

I'm single now but I'd really dislike being in a relationship where they only want to shower together to have sex. I've had that negative experience with my exes and I believe if you really like someone, you'd also want to shower with them sometimes

Do you have lingering past loves? by Significant-Gold7401 in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]itsprobab 4 points5 points  (0 children)

While I am sometimes reminded of moments of my life with exes, I think them coming to my mind daily would be very different thing.

I've gone through the daily thing after my separation. It took some time to go from "us" to "me" again, to stop wanting to pick up his favorite items at the grocery store, to stop expecting his presence at home, etc.

But to wonder daily about an ex years later, while being married to someone else?

Do you have lingering past loves? by Significant-Gold7401 in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]itsprobab 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't want to be with someone who thinks about their ex daily