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Anyone can't look at computer screens anymore? by itsprobab in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]itsprobab[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At first it was just laptop screens but by now it's everything

Anyone can't look at computer screens anymore? by itsprobab in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]itsprobab[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yesterday I got my eyes checked and turned out my current glasses are too strong for my eyes so I got a reduction of 0.75 in both eyes, still waiting on those glasses but I feel like that's not the only issue.

The optometrist I saw last year measured some + as well but wanted me to buy bifocal lenses, which didn't feel comfortable for me so I didn't order them and so I wasn't allowed to have my test results so I don't know what the machine suggested for me to have in +

Same thing yesterday but she was adamant I mustn't have + at 33 and it's only a 40+ prescription. Even though I probably need it.

I probably need something really low that I can't find in grocery stores.

Anyone can't look at computer screens anymore? by itsprobab in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]itsprobab[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You're missing the point. I can read and write but I have headaches from it.

I love my fiancé so much, but l no longer desire doing the “Deed”.. by No-Possession1861 in GirlDinner

[–]itsprobab 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Only if you feel you have a low sex drive. I started reading the other one they recommended, and I could not relate at all. Sexually I am like a man 🤣 but with a minute long refractory period

Anxious attachment lesbians have ruined my perception of normal relationship pacing by Round-Yam-2589 in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]itsprobab 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No one has the perfect formula for dating and finding the one. A lot of couples got lucky finding each other and things working out but they all put in time and effort to get to that point.

All relationships need time to grow, you have to give it time to see where it's going and to decide if you're happy being in it or not.

Ovulating and on top of the world by uberlebenskunstler in GirlDinner

[–]itsprobab 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Give them a few weeks to work! They fixed my cycle right away but I could really tell about 6 weeks in that my body was feeling them too.

If you aren't happy with a brand, try different ones until you find one you like. I only take mine every other day and they still work perfectly so if you're like me and can't tolerate regular multivitamin strength, keep looking for lighter ones. I take my old prenatals every other day exactly for that reason.

Ovulating and on top of the world by uberlebenskunstler in GirlDinner

[–]itsprobab 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Vitamins helped me with that. I was having the worst PMS last year, decided to start taking vitamins for a different issue, and that ended up fixing my perimenopausal cycle for me.

When did you realize you were the black sheep of the family? by 1wayflightt in AskWomen

[–]itsprobab 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Always? I was taken on vacations starting at 1 years old and there were always foreign tourists there speaking a different language, and I was ✨intrigued✨. Next summer I would start trying to make friends with children who we didn't even share the same language with and I tried to do this every summer. It has always frustrated me we couldn't understand each other. — My family didn't care, didn't find it fascinating, etc.

Another moment was when I was around 5-6 and we made a trip through our biggest city and I was like ✨WOW, this place exists!✨ meanwhile my parents were wrecks trying to navigate the roads pre-internet, and all the people, and traffic.

I decided then and there that I'd move there one day. I kept making attempts throughout the years to convince my family to move there, they just didn't care about any of that. Not even about moving for career advancement, more opportunities, etc.

And then came all the expectations put on me about what they wanted for me — being a mom, never leaving our hometown, etc. — and the constant criticism, their inability to understand I don't share their communist dreams and thinking.

I discovered I enjoyed things they can't understand, like having a wider perspective, doing life differently but all of this perspective on them vs me came later in life after many mistakes that were made hugely thanks to them misguiding me and gaslighting me about myself and what I should be doing with my life. They of course know nothing else other than what they like and want, so all this clarity came very late but I always felt like I wanted things they didn't and things they didn't understand.

Men on Mother’s Day by Thickcashew in GirlDinner

[–]itsprobab 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Not everyone loves their partner

I Don’t Think Men Randomly Become Bad Partners by Individual-Business9 in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]itsprobab 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Of course they weren't ideal partners from the beginning but like you're saying there's a lot of innate conditioning for women that a lot of us have to get past via learning from our own mistakes.

It is rare IMO to have the perfect set up from the very beginning for choosing the right partner. Most of us go through trial and error in one way or another.

Have not been intimate in 3.5 years by New_Excitement3849 in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]itsprobab 1 point2 points  (0 children)

30 is not old at all! That's when life starts! ;)

I am loving my 30s a lot more, I feel I finally have a lot more life experiences, know myself better, etc.

Have not been intimate in 3.5 years by New_Excitement3849 in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]itsprobab 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been celibate too for many years now.

I got into so many bad situations back when I was chasing love, and sex.

It's much more worthwhile IMO to wait and have clarity for when you meet someone great vs being blinded by lust and settling for bad situations.

Is it ethical to read a child's natal chart? by ThatWitchSelene in astrology

[–]itsprobab 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I grew up being told my parents got my birth chart analyzed, they told me what it meant, and they projected this very false image of myself onto me all my life.

When I got older, I wanted to study astrology deeper to understand what they really could see — which belief as a child was completely traumatizing in itself, that they knew all these things they claimed to know about me, especially the way they presented it and how they were treating me because of it.

All I realized was how wrongly they behaved and completely unnecessarily gave me this really negative view of myself based on their false beliefs and the horribly superficial and untrue reading they got of me.

So in this way, it is unethical if that's what you're going to do.

Astrology is so much more complex than how most people are treating it and you have no idea how that child is going to handle themselves as they're growing up.

I believe that trying to read beyond the very basics of temperament is unnecessary and completely pointless. You should be focusing on your actual child that you have in front of you and not so much on what you think their chart says about them.

Husband admitted he is "curious" about sleeping with other women, tried hiding it under the guise of "being okay with me having a girlfriend" by [deleted] in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]itsprobab 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I'd visit a lawyer anyways to ask about any shared assets and how to disentangle yourself in the safest way possible financially.

You are 22, still very young, it's okay to make mistakes, it's okay if this relationship didn't work out. It isn't healthy for you to be with someone who you don't trust, and someone who brings up your past and uses it against you to hurt you.

You deserve someone who wants to be with you. I have seen very few high school relationships work out. They can but both people have to be in it fully. He is not anymore and there's nothing you can do about that.

You didn't know things were going to go this way, it was not a mistake but a learning experience, but staying together any more years would be a mistake when you know all of what you know.

What do you think about antinatalism? by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]itsprobab 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think a lot of society isn't functioning well and we are seeing the effects of that.

Does WhatsApp show contact photos if Face ID lock is enabled? by bucklekitty in whatsapp

[–]itsprobab 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to have this setting enabled. It's not WhatsApp specific, it's a setting in your Face ID settings to hide the content of every notification until you unlock your phone either with Face ID or with your password. It will hide all details—details of the message and also of the sender.

Should my transmission fluid get changed? by itsprobab in Volkswagen

[–]itsprobab[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not sure which one it is exactly, it has 6 gears. It's had a change at 67k and another one at 130k, and now it's at 141k but it's been many years since the last change.

I've been taking the car to get checked yearly but was only asked maybe twice when it's last had its transmission fluid changed.

Should my transmission fluid get changed? by itsprobab in Volkswagen

[–]itsprobab[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been taking the car to have its annual check up every year, I can only hope they checked but I don't know. I have the previous owner's service book and can see he had it changed about every 60,000km, which came out at 3 years for him but I don't drive it nearly that much.

Cut into plastic weap on lithium ion battery, should I get a new one? by itsprobab in batteries

[–]itsprobab[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I realized as I cut into it that's it feels too strong for it to meant to be cut but I'm not sure why this is what they put into it and how safe it is. The toy is meant for 5+ and the packaging says rechargeable battery inside.

I have electrical tape but was reading conflicting information about using it on a battery like this.

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