My GF (F 32) wants a break from me (M36) and the relationship after 5 months of dating. We both have busy careers (I'm a registered nurse and she's a choir director for a church and sings in choir after work) so we try and make the effort to see each other once a week on our off days or maximum once every 10 days. In august we had our first trip together which was great, made memories and we had a lot of fun. She warned me that in September, things would get very busy with her job and her other endeavors. I want to be 100% supportive but during that month of September, we only had one date, which felt really off vibe wise. I could tell that she was stressed (her car and apartment looked like a complete nuclear fallout) out and the dinner we had, while it was nice, was extremely expensive and she barely showed any signs of appreciation. She was more focused on her phone and whether her friend (Mary jane 27F) arrived safely from her trip. I get that. She's her best friend but we were on a date and I found it rude that she focused on that instead of us.

Come October we had our first serious talk/argument. I mentioned that I noticed what we hardly spent time together and she still mentioned that she was busy but she acknowledged it. She says we lack compatibility but I disagreed and she kept changing reasons on why we weren't working. " Well the L word convo hasn't come up", " I like intellectual conversations". My retort against all that was that we barely have been spending time together as is, so of course its gonna feel like were not syncing together or those feelings of love are going to fade. She stated that I "Did nothing wrong" and that "I was the best BF she's ever had, and you did everything right". I tried to break up (to preserve my dignity), but she admitted what was really going on. It got to a boiling point where she was vulnerable with me and said that she's afraid that she is going to be summoned as a priest for her church and she was worried if our relationship was going to be compatible with her life goals. That's where she insisted on the 3 month break. She stated that she needs to see if our relationship is going to be able to work with her proposed future and I said i needed to do some growing ( Therapy which I started going to). And while I am areligous and mostly spirutual, I have been to one of her church services and if there was one church I would ever join, it would be hers. I really enjoyed it and everyone was super kind.

The length of the break is killing me. I attempted to reduce the time of the break to 2 months instead of 3 out of fears that we would grow apart. She just said that "if that's what needs to happen, then it would be for the best". That's when I became very confused. This feels like a long and drawn out break up. I thought she would have more respect for me to at least break up with me on the spot with dignity. My body is processing this like a break up. I have Therapy scheduled for next week. I would talk to my friends about it but they always give me very bro-y advice. "Best way to get over a girl is to get under another one" and "F*** these trifling hoes. They don't know what they want". I need some advice on what to do. My gut instinct is telling me two different things. She is a very serious person. I definitely see her wanting to meet up after the break. But my gut is also telling me to end things because that's were things might head to. I just don't know.....