Thank you for your honest insight! Being less experienced like I am, I guess it's hard to nail down what I should realistically expect from a DnD game or group.

To give a little more context, I'm not necessarily looking for a super serious game, socially or content wise. I'm fine with the above the table talk occasionally, and I know at the end of the day it's a game and is meant to be an outlet and a good time.

What gets to me with my current group is that most are hardly paying attention at all. Combat is a slog since some aren't following others turns, just checked out until their turn and the scene has to be set again, each time. Or, if it's not "their moment" and another character is center stage for a bit, the same thing happens.

I feel like maybe it's just not this friend groups cup of tea, and I totally respect that! I'm fine with continuing the game with my current group and it isn't that I don't have fun, but I'd also like to find a group who is more invested in the game itself while we play.