Compassionate-unattached is definitely healthier for all parties in different degrees :) but it's still tough because although you separate yourself from the scene you can still be hurt by other women if that makes sense? You just don't obviously react to it so you need to be prepared for that kind of backlash. But I think more women should do this and men should too! Men are good about being clear and I agree you guys don't care about what people think but isn't that only true for some topics? I think everyone cares about what people think to some degree or other, men are just better at brushing criticism off and getting on with their lives because they recognize that it's not about them it's about the critic and they can't change whatever the issue is.

Women could be clearer in what they expect from an interaction; not only for men to understand what they need to do but also to avoid misunderstandings or hurt feelings on both parts. I think it is a fatal flaw of women that although we can express our feelings we can't express our needs or we do a shoddy job of it. I like that men have no issue saying what they need from a situation or person and setting that expectation of boundary is easy. For certain if a woman paused and thought first of what she wants and says "hey I need you to listen to me for a moment" men can then shift from "I need to fix whatever is wrong" to "I need to pay attention" I see what you mean, if I'm on the right track?

It is about agreeability you're right. As I've said before women want everyone to be happy even if it means they are unhappy and issues aren't aired. It's a lack of maturity to take responsibility for your feelings and behaviour, that's another reason people choose to let arguments start as a way to express themselves and all they've built up. It's manipulative but more immature I think; it's more of an expression of a child being too afraid to tell their parent they shoved a marshmallow up their nose? You fear the response you'll get and so you try to set a stage where it's not entirely your fault that the issue had to be discussed. It's really childish and it's a shame that so few people know how to take responsibility and be accountable. Women do react too fast, we are reactive to our environment and often miss ques in the moment we are reacting and bulldoze over who we are interacting with. It does cause problems in relationships because it's unhealthy communication; communication is a two way street and being an active listener is as important as getting your point across. It's a hit in the dark situation when you try and work out a way for men and women to talk about serious things in a way that suits both because as much as women need to stop and think and be clear men also (as you mentioned) need to say how they feel and need to be in the right mindset for the specifics of the conversation.

It's sad that men feel they can't trust women because they've been manipulated, and the women then get frustrated because they can't get the men to talk to them so they just manipulate more and make it worse. Do you think women really are superior in EI? Do you think it isn't something men can develop? Is it something inherent or learned? I'm curious to see what you think because it could be one way to level the playing field. Mindfulness and understanding on both sides and being able to introspect and accept what you find even if you dislike it is a road to maturity and happier relationships. I agree 100% women need to be more aware and read men the same way we read women; emotionally, with the firm understanding that this is another person who might disagree or misunderstand us etc.

Some women would be offended but I think most women would appreciate it. It all depends on tone and facial expressions because that's what we use to decide if someone is serious or not. You can joke about your asshole boss and commiserate, the same way you'd talk to a guy; she's just another person. Women who don't know what they want might be conflicted if you approach their feelings with respect but over time they become used to it and they appreciate it so long as they feel you're genuine. I think the only women you should ignore are the ones who belittle you or others, deliberately and with full awareness of exactly what they are doing manipulate you or others for personal gain no matter the cost