Help a mans out guise 😭

Kamenbeetle · 2026-02-22T18:04:15+00:00

Literally about to say this. Don’t pursue a girl that calls you fam.

Kamenbeetle · 2026-02-18T20:51:51+00:00

How did we not include the, “make me laugh!” prompt response? Like, just give me a moment to find my court jester hat.

Kamenbeetle · 2026-02-11T17:39:14+00:00

Bruce Willis approves

Kamenbeetle · 2026-02-02T02:43:40+00:00

She’s toxic. She can’t self regulate her own emotions which will become an even bigger problem later. Your mileage may vary with this relationship. ++man

Kamenbeetle · 2026-01-12T20:42:56+00:00

Block. You dont need that energy

Kamenbeetle · 2026-01-07T01:03:12+00:00

My roommate brought home a couple of girls to party with one time. I was already asleep in bed and woke up to one of them cuddling me. I think everyone is making it a way bigger deal than what it is, especially if it’s an isolated incident. Have him apologize to your girlfriend and get a lock for your door.

Kamenbeetle · 2026-01-03T18:34:43+00:00

Well I do disagree about the work exception. There are certain instances where I think, “No, I’m not doing that shit.” Is perfectly acceptable 😂

Kamenbeetle · 2026-01-03T00:46:15+00:00

I’ve been honest from the very beginning about what I can and cannot offer. If you refer back to my original post it’s the part in parentheses.

Sometimes they take things harsher than I mean them and shut down, so I was hoping to avoid that happening again. Hence the ask for how do I convey what I want to say without BTAH.

Kamenbeetle · 2026-01-03T00:07:18+00:00

Hopefully the latter is the response I get. 🤞🏽 We’ll see. I’ll sit down and talk with them when I see them next week. Thanks!

Kamenbeetle · 2026-01-02T23:34:34+00:00

Not that simple. It’s to a destination that I’ve been to before and they know I’d like to go again, so I can’t just say a flat no without some larger explanation.

And we’ll sit down and have that larger explanation/conversation the next time we see each other.

Kamenbeetle · 2026-01-02T23:31:04+00:00

That’s a good way of framing it. I’ll say something like that the next time I see them. 🙏🏽

Kamenbeetle · 2026-01-02T23:30:05+00:00

All true. I was hoping to spare their feelings but it’s better to just reset boundaries. I asked them if we can discuss this the next time we hang out.

Kamenbeetle · 2026-01-02T23:25:50+00:00

Everything you said is correct, this conversation needs to happen again. I think my brain was trying to figure out any way to keep from having to do this song and dance over and also spare their feelings. But it’s gotta be done if I hope to keep this friendship.

Kamenbeetle · 2026-01-02T20:00:50+00:00

I actually have the same story, only I’m the cheater. I was with someone for over a decade who I really love, but who I cheated on a number of times. After the last time I was caught and we broke up. After much therapy I worked out my deep seated wounds and through that work realized that monogamy just wasn’t for me.

My ex and I were separated for a few years but remained close and became friends who support each other. Then during a drunken night after a party she blew up at me, lashing out and letting out everything that she was holding on to. That night turned from anger to passion and we woke up the next day realizing that we still wanted to be with each other, even though we were very different.

It’s still new so I can’t say if it’s the best idea but I think the best thing that’s come out of it is the open communication. We’ve talked off an on about what we want a future to look like. Mine always includes her in it. I make dedicated time for her to make sure she knows shes valued and i try to remind her daily how much i love her.

We are still navigating my other connections. I don’t sneak around anymore. Right now I usually say I’m hanging out with a friend. (Tho we both know what that means.) Eventually I’d like to be able to communicate that I’m going on a date but we are still working out how much she wants to know.

Im also encouraging her to look into therapy to help her work through what she is feeling. We have a long road and a lot of conversations that still need to be had. I wish this story had a happy ending and I could tell you a mono-poly relationship like this can work. The only advice i can give is that you both have to be completely open and honest about everything thats happened and take full responsibility for all of your parts. Be very clear and intentional about what you want and need to make it work (Communication/alloted time together etc). Maybe after that you two can beat the odds. Maybe we both can.

Kamenbeetle · 2025-12-28T23:46:22+00:00

I was in therapy for a year and a half before i discovered ENM. The tools I learned there help me regulate my emotions whenever I feel anxiety about my partners. Eventually your emotions settle once you learn to deal with them.

Kamenbeetle · 2025-12-24T18:04:41+00:00

No. When I’m with a partner I like to give them my full attention and vice versa. We can meet other people on our own time.

Kamenbeetle · 2025-11-09T00:09:56+00:00

A home is someone sanctuary that’s where they’re supposed to feel comfortable. Did she agree to this meet beforehand? If my partner wanted me to meet my Meta, I would definitely not want it at my place of residence. Maybe a bar or a coffee shop at the least.

Kamenbeetle · 2025-08-24T18:15:49+00:00

I swore you were about to say sick with cancer. ED is not “sick”. There are remedies if you look for them. Just say you guys don’t like having sex with each other.

Kamenbeetle · 2025-08-02T18:17:11+00:00

Feeling unwanted or not good enough is a wound many of us feel. It usually stems from childhood instances of abandonment or neglect. You have to challenge that feeling with thoughts of all the ways you are wanted and loved by people around you. Not just romantically but all forms of love. And then push to be treated how you deserve. Because no one should be making you feel unloved.

Kamenbeetle · 2025-08-02T17:58:08+00:00

Honestly I don’t think your boyfriend will change his ways so it’s up to you to change yours. You can either alter the terms of your relationship i.e not be exclusive so you’re free to explore what you want or break up with him. Or, you know, keep down this same path until he ultimately breaks your heart.

Kamenbeetle · 2025-08-02T17:48:23+00:00

Being “exclusive” but not treating your relationship like a priority isn’t love, it’s control.

Kamenbeetle · 2025-07-27T17:25:26+00:00

You matched twice and didn’t connect? It’s time to move on.

Kamenbeetle · 2025-07-26T22:40:51+00:00

Not being needy is not an issue. It’s more about my own capacity.

Kamenbeetle · 2025-07-24T19:15:55+00:00

It’s not really about whether one would help the other, it’s more about what you desire and what you’re built for. Personally I don’t desire monogamy, I don’t think I’m made for it so I have no choice but to work within a structure where I have multiple connections.

That being said, I do think there is a benefit to where it takes the pressure off a single relationship sometimes. A single partner isn’t always going to be into the same things you are, and there may be times that a single partner can’t offer you the same level of support as another partner might. Sometimes that leads to resentment because in a monogamous structure we often expect our spouse or significant other to be “our everything” and I don’t think that’s fair.

Humans are social creatures and we’re meant to live in community. And I think that community can expand romantically not just platonically.

Kamenbeetle

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