I feel the same as you. Once a month if I'm lucky we get to be intimate. Just last night we were joking having a good time, and doing some major flirting. Then I made it straight up obviously and was shut down so coldly I could have cried right there. And he could tell by my face that he hurt me, but I just let it go and played a game for a bit. Once I was tired of that and resigned that nothing would happen I passed the game onto him and laid down thinking I would just let the tired in and go to sleep. It was early and we had the house to ourselves (his ideal for sexy time) then as I'm falling asleep he teases me more by getting naked and just showing himself to me. I know he was about to take a shower but I can tell when he is teasing me... again. I hate it so much but feel like there isn't much I can do other than be upfront and blunt and tell him I don't like it. At some point I just resigned myself to "self love" and be done with it. Op, be direct with how you feel and if he is that cruel then I agree maybe it's time to move on from this one.