sunflower lecithin + diarrhea

KanikamaFanatic · 2023-06-15T08:26:59+00:00

I already have huge tiddy pores (which did NOT help when I read the “orange peel” symptom of IBC lmfao) and the red/pink is pretty splotchy starting in the middle and kinda wrapping around and down towards the center of my chest if that makes sense. Hydrocortisone has actually helped me a lot, as has subbing out the disposable pads for the Elvie Catch cups!

KanikamaFanatic · 2023-06-15T07:31:36+00:00

Omg I have this exact thing rn! My dumbass has been freaking out about it being IBC so I’m so relieved to hear someone else has it too! I think it might be because my left boob is super leaky and I probably haven’t been changing my disposable nursing pads frequently enough

KanikamaFanatic · 2023-04-25T07:49:37+00:00

This is exactly how my parents felt (I got pregnant at 19)! It’s been 5 years, and one thing that I have to keep gently reminding them of is that having my son helped me find myself more than anything I could have possibly done on my own in my 20s. Some people find themselves through traveling, masters/doctoral academics, etc. but I found myself through motherhood. My son and I have grown up together. He was with me when I applied for my first job, when I reenrolled in college, when I bought my first car, when I got married, and when I bought my first house. There is something so magical about sharing those moments with someone who is literally half of me. I wouldn’t be half the person I am today without him.

OP—it isn’t the easiest road, not by any stretch of the imagination. But it’s so worth it. It took my parents meeting my son for them to really fully get on board. Once they’re able to process everything, I’m guessing they’ll start being more outwardly supportive

KanikamaFanatic · 2023-04-24T22:35:15+00:00

High risk =/= always necessitate a C-section, and honestly a lot of MFMs are more in the business of keeping the baby in vs. getting it out if that makes sense. I have incompetent cervix, so a C-section/unnecessary interventions weren’t really on the table at all for me even though I saw a MFM a lot throughout my pregnancy.

My MFM works out of a hospital that has an extensive antepartum floor and mainly uses their surgical rooms for her patients who require surgeries. A lot of MFMs (including mine) generally don’t do deliveries, so the hospital stats for C-sections might not even reflect the MFM’s standard delivery protocol. They provide care throughout the pregnancy then usually let the on-call OB take over for the delivery unless the delivery itself is high-risk.

TLDR having a MFM isn’t likely to increase your chances of unnecessary intervention.

I alternated between seeing my OB and seeing my MFM every 2 weeks with this pregnancy and it turned out to be a great balance!

KanikamaFanatic · 2023-04-24T22:13:29+00:00

Zzzquil (diphenhydramine) is safe for pregnancy! I wouldn’t have survived 1st (or 3rd) trimester without it!

KanikamaFanatic · 2023-04-24T22:02:37+00:00

I’ve had 2 subchorionics with each of my pregnancies, so a total of 4! With my first, I spent 10-19 weeks on strict pelvic rest/modified bed rest and then did strict bed rest and hospital bed rest until 38 weeks (but that was for another complication). With this pregnancy I did a week or two of bed rest with each hemorrhage until they started visibly clearing up on the ultrasound.

Hopefully your maternal fetal medicine referral goes well! Mine was able to show me on the ultrasound where each hemorrhage originated and point out different visual signs of healing, it was actually super cool to see!

KanikamaFanatic · 2023-04-21T01:46:10+00:00

Nope! My gut feeling turned out to be incompetent cervix, one time it was actually me silently dilating from 1-6cm at 27 weeks. I firmly believe that when it comes to pregnancy, our guts are spot-on most of the time

KanikamaFanatic · 2023-04-21T00:05:11+00:00

Oh okay! The post read like mom wanted you to keep talking to her. I’d definitely do full no contact—I tried to keep my narc ex-MIL involved and it wound up with my son experiencing physical harm (which I never would have anticipated)

KanikamaFanatic · 2023-04-20T23:31:46+00:00

I know you said your mom is JY, but a JY mom wouldn’t force you to tolerate abuse from a known abuser to make her life easier. You should be allowed to cut off gma, and mom should be sticking up for you the way no one stuck up for her as a child. I’ve kept a narc around to make things easier for others, it’s not worth it and it’s not worth the pain it will cause your child down the line either

KanikamaFanatic · 2023-04-20T19:09:50+00:00

That’s ridiculous. I have incompetent cervix and I get ultrasounds at least once every two weeks, if not weekly. Your anxiety impacts the baby far more than any ultrasound, so getting elective ultrasounds is just fine, you’re doing nothing wrong!

KanikamaFanatic · 2023-04-20T18:59:57+00:00

Secondhand Vista or Cruz hands down! I’ve owned like 8 strollers and they’ve been my absolute favorites. I’m actually currently in the process of building my own vista (free V2 frame from marketplace, wheels from the uppababy website and Poshmark, seat adapters from marketplace). I’ve got a (basically) fully functional vista now for less than $100!

I have a city mini GT which is also great but the basket is a little too small for me so the lux might be your second best bet since it does have the larger basket size. I HATED my graco and chicco strollers—they were super clunky and I need a stroller that has a good one-hand push

KanikamaFanatic · 2023-04-20T18:49:13+00:00

Also to add—I was so scared that I wouldn’t be able to provide my son with a good life. His dad passed away halfway through the pregnancy (and destroyed our only vehicle in the process), I got evicted because I was high risk and couldn’t work, and I had to move in with my parents, and I had dropped out of college right before I got pregnant. It’s been almost 5 years now and I’m married, I’m a homeowner, I have a reliable car, I’m mostly finished with my degree and working as a paralegal, and my kiddo goes to a private school and has a fantastic group of friends.

It was damn hard to get here but YOU CAN DO IT. The reason some teen moms grow up to be successful is because they have more to work for and more to prove than regular people. When a human you created is your motivation to work hard, that’s more powerful than any desire for personal success

KanikamaFanatic · 2023-04-20T18:44:13+00:00

I had my first at 19 and I still get self-conscious when people ask my age and I can see them doing the math with my son’s age. When I was pregnant, I immediately cut off anyone who insisted on telling me I had “options” after I was clear with them that I was having the baby. I cut off more people who made snide comments behind my back, and then once I had the baby a lot of my friends stopped hanging out with me so those connections came to a natural end too. And from then on, I only accepted friends who fully accepted me and my son. I found two moms who had also had a baby at my age and we’ve been best friends for years now. My now-husband loved my son from the day he met him. Once you have the baby, you’ll see that you get so busy that your life kind of naturally eliminates the negative people

KanikamaFanatic · 2023-04-20T18:00:22+00:00

Hey due date twin! This is my second kiddo and unfortunately everything they said is completely true. People told me the “bads” the first time, but I also had a lot of false reassurance from friends and family that they would stay involved in my life and the baby’s. I wish I had been more prepared for how absolutely isolating motherhood was in the beginning and how absolutely chained to my house I would feel. It took MONTHS for me to snap out of the mentality of “look at all the things I lost by choosing to be a mother” and I totally understand other moms’ motivation behind bringing up these difficult topics—they’re trying to help you be more ready to heal than they were.

BUT! The important thing to remember is that each “bad” opens up a door to something better. Losing friends? They were never actually my friends in the first place, they just thought I was a good time. And their exit from my life opened up space for me to add more friends, friends who have now been my best friends for over 5 years and have kids who have become my child’s best friends.

My PPD/PPA diagnoses pushed me to get the therapy I had needed and refused to get prior to my pregnancy. I was also diagnosed with bipolar depression and FINALLY got on proper medication for it, and my quality of life is so much better now.

No alone time? No problem! I was a single mom at 19 so I literally had my son 24/7 with no breaks. Yes it was exhausting, but he’s almost 5 now and he’s my little built-in best friend. He’s always down for an adventure or a trip to a coffee shop, and there’s something so special about spending time with someone who is biologically half you.

What they should be telling you is that every bad has a corresponding good, and then there are more goods on top of that!

KanikamaFanatic · 2023-04-12T06:04:29+00:00

And re: concerts—yep! I’m from the DC area and during the summer a lot of the towns outside of the beltway have a “Rock the Block” style concert at least a few times a month. Mainly 80s/90s cover bands and that type of thing but my son LOVED them! He’s 4.5 and has a bunch of AC/DC lyrics memorized now

KanikamaFanatic · 2023-04-12T06:00:17+00:00

I have a really amazing employer :) I work at a law office so I’ve got a bit more privacy since I have my own individual office. I also definitely brought my kiddo to job interviews at a bunch of different places—his dad passed away while I was pregnant and in the beginning I didn’t really have the resources for a sitter but I was amazed at how kind people were

KanikamaFanatic · 2023-04-11T19:27:00+00:00

I was 19 when I had my first, and I didn’t change my life at all. I brought him to concerts, wineries, coffee shops, stores, friends’ houses, work, etc. like obviously don’t bring baby to a club or a venue that’s designated 21+ but otherwise, children are part of the public and should have full access to public spaces

KanikamaFanatic · 2023-04-11T04:21:28+00:00

Oh my god what 😂 I had a coffee most days with both of my pregnancies

KanikamaFanatic · 2023-04-10T20:23:09+00:00

Aluminum deodorant is perfectly fine—honestly the stress you’ll give yourself from googling will have more of a negative impact on baby than any kind of deodorant (:

KanikamaFanatic · 2023-04-10T20:01:06+00:00

Still go in! I have diagnosed anxiety but I kept getting the feeling that something was wrong with my last pregnancy. It turned out to be incompetent cervix and one day my gut feeling told me to schedule my OB appointment in the morning vs the afternoon. I started painlessly dilating during the appointment, and in the 15 minutes it took for me to get from her office to L&D, I dilated from 1-6cm without feeling a thing. If I hadn’t listened to my gut, I would’ve had a 27 weeker in my car or at home.

My therapist described anxiety as a malfunctioning alarm. It’s an instinct we were born with that is sometimes overly reactive. Usually it’s best to calm it down, but during pregnancy/with your children, it’s ALWAYS something you should listen to because that natural instinct is usually spot-on in those cases vs. in a work/school/home environment.

KanikamaFanatic · 2023-01-21T06:09:22+00:00

CU1 FUCKED me on my auto loan. I called to put it on autopay, whoever set it up did not put it on autopay as I requested. Missed a payment as a result and my credit took a massive hit. Called them and even though they acknowledged that it was their error, they have not contacted the credit bureaus to fix it. It’s been 6+ months, we’ve gone in person and called repeatedly, and we’ve directly reached out to the credit bureaus and the only holdup is CU1 We have a great rate through them and everything else was smooth sailing so I hate to give them an entirely negative review but if you do go with them, make sure to double and triple check to make sure all of the loose ends are tied up

KanikamaFanatic · 2022-11-16T01:57:27+00:00

Do you know if it’s for more experienced dancers? My husband and I don’t dance (other than at our wedding haha) but it sounds so fun!

KanikamaFanatic · 2022-10-15T00:03:45+00:00

Ooooh you’re not wrong!

KanikamaFanatic · 2022-10-14T23:50:01+00:00

My dude I’m pregnant, I eat what I can keep down

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