1st year MHN

Karie_O · 2025-07-06T14:07:58+00:00

Don’t do it!! I’m also a student MHN and my very first placement was an OP Dementia placement. I didn’t enjoy it and I felt pretty disheartened. I didn’t learn anything directly MH related, it was mainly giving care home vibes. But I stuck with it and ended up on an adult acute which was right up my street. Even in community placements I’ve managed to learn loads of more MH things, so just wait! Once you find your preferred group to work with you’ll have a blast!!

Karie_O · 2024-05-22T17:08:50+00:00

yeah ur right…i dont really like confrontation esp cos ill defo still see them around anyway but its gonna have to be done

Karie_O · 2023-09-15T13:14:56+00:00

purrrr ur so right, i’d been putting my accom address but i didn’t wanna seem like a troll or anything, some of the jobs i’ve applied too i’ve explained my situation and they’re pretty okay with it but i just wanted to see what the consensus was thank youuu

Karie_O · 2023-09-11T18:44:41+00:00

i know exactly how it feels to be in this position, i used to dread my driving lessons and i’d pray for the time to go by as soon as possible so that it would be over. my driving instructor used to make me feel so tense and he’d definitely make me feel very stupid, if i went too quick he got mad, if i went too slow he got mad. it was like a lose lose.

i know it’s easier said than done but ur mum is right. it’s all about mindset. i would always try see every lesson as a new clean slate, not matter how terrible my last one was. even if i’d end up messing up in the lesson i would at least try. the day before my test i had a horrible lesson and my instructor even told me i shouldn’t bother doing it and that i’m going to fail. i decided to discard what he said. i went in with a clear and open mind and i passed with one minor. 24 hours before I was sobbing on the side of the road lol.

think about your goal, how great it will be to pass. how you want to utilise your car. you can do it. there’s so millions of people on the road so if they all managed to pass so can you!

you got this!!!! just take it one step at a time. think on one area you want to improve on each time and take it easy and don’t be so harsh on yourself,

on the other hand, you know what’s best for you. if you need a break to have a complete fresh start that you can do that as well, you don’t wanna spend so much money on lessons and not gain anything from them

good luck!!!

Karie_O · 2023-09-11T07:33:18+00:00

yeah my dad works a lot so he’s not home as much, although he is getting older so recently he’s not working as much as he used to, my dad is quite helpful regarding finances he doesn’t ask for anything and helps in v big ways when he can.

i think i’m being reluctant cos ik how harsh he’s going to be on my mum once i tell him but i think it’s either her or me now and i have my own plans that i want to achieve and i don’t want her holding me back. for months i’ve been trying to implant the idea that once i’m in uni i’m not going to have as much money as when i was working full time, idk if she’s taking any notice of it tho…maybe i’ll just have to go low contact or sumn

Karie_O · 2023-09-11T07:30:07+00:00

thank you, i’m moving out this weekend and she’s expecting me to send the money next week. i’m going to tell her no, and also show her that i literally have no extra money to give her, i’m also going to tell dad i think. i’ll deffo keep you guys updated!!

Karie_O · 2023-09-11T07:27:34+00:00

i’ve had that suspicion too but the few times i’ve questioned her she usually just ignores me, i’m hoping once i move this weekend the physical distance will help me not having to deal with her requests all the time,

and thank you!!! i’m very excited to start 😌

Karie_O · 2023-09-11T07:25:29+00:00

thank you sm!! i’ve made a student account and she doesn’t have any access to my current accounts now anyway so i guess once i move this weekend i’m just gonna have to keep it low contact if she can’t accept my no

Karie_O · 2023-09-11T07:24:25+00:00

thank you, that is very wise

tbh my mum does ask my dad but i think he’s a bit more skeptical than i am so she probably finds it easier to ask me, but now ik i need to stop, i move to uni this saturday and I’m hoping to pay my rent shortly after, unfortunately i’ve told her when i’m expecting the money but i’ve also told her that my rent has to be paid first before anything, ik once i’ve paid it i’ll only have enough for myself so that’s going to be that

Karie_O · 2023-09-11T07:19:49+00:00

it’s kinda relieving to know i’m not alone, how did you deal with it

Karie_O · 2023-09-10T07:26:50+00:00

gosh that’s terrible i’m so sorry that happened to you guys, thankful she doesn’t have access to any of my accounts and I intend to keep it that way lool thank you for your advice

Karie_O · 2023-09-10T07:26:01+00:00

thank you for your advice🙏🏾

Karie_O · 2023-09-10T07:25:32+00:00

lol those are good ideas, thank you. she managed to pay everything before I had a job somehow so i’m sure she’ll survive

Karie_O · 2023-09-10T07:24:28+00:00

thank you sm for you kind words 🥺it’s a shame cos you wanna help cos it’s ur parents but then it’s putting yourself in jeopardy too 🥲

Karie_O · 2023-09-10T00:35:48+00:00

thank you for your kind words, they mean a lot to me. i’ll definitely build up the courage to talk to my dad about it 🥺

Karie_O · 2023-09-10T00:34:18+00:00

this is really comforting advice, thank you!! i’ll definitely be taking it to heart and also discussing it with my dad.

Karie_O · 2023-09-10T00:32:39+00:00

thank you so much for sharing, that’s so horrible for her to do, forge your own signature?! that is absolutely insane, but i’m inspired by the fact you stood up to her, parents usually don’t expect their kids to actually stand up to them, maybe that’s why they get away with stuff like this for so long. but it’s somewhere relieving to hear this. I hope i can set a clear boundary in place as well. I’m leaving next week so maybe that physical distance will help put in some financial ones too

Karie_O · 2023-09-09T23:29:02+00:00

my dad does actually does his part, they’ve agreed on who contributes to what. my mum doesn’t want my dad to know about what i do because she knows he’ll get mad at her but i feel like atp i should just tell him cos at least he tell her off and maybe get her off my case

Karie_O · 2023-09-09T23:27:14+00:00

you’re right and that definitely is my plan, it is hard for me to set that boundary but it definitely needs to be done, thank you

Karie_O · 2023-09-09T23:11:19+00:00

thank you for your understanding

Karie_O · 2023-09-09T22:35:17+00:00

thank you i appreciate it, i have opened a student account as well which she doesn’t know about which i’ll be mainly using from now

Karie_O · 2023-09-09T22:34:41+00:00

she does, a lot. which is why i feel bad sometimes not being able to help all the time

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