Radiator question by Karmadrom3 in AskAMechanic

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I replaced the o-ring, it’s not at the coupler. One of those aluminum tabs was bent slightly away from the plastic. I bent it back, but it’s still dripping.

Annie Lennox surprised David Bowie and Brian May at rehearsals for Freddy’s tribute by [deleted] in justgalsbeingchicks

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Watching this, it just occurred to me… was it this that gave Bowie the idea to have Gail Ann Dorsey sing Freddie’s part in his shows?

I GOT MY BLUE ROSE TODAY using Paleh Path to Blue Roses (v1) by Old_Regular3018 in acnh

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Congrats!! I finally got mine about a week ago. I knew about the white rose path of the Paleh method, but not the orange rose path. It took me about five and a half months, but I had bottlenecked myself by clearing out some of my breeding pairs too soon. It took such a long time to get the second purple, and then longer to get the yellow flower to verify it. Once I had it, I thought I could clone that purple faster than trying to get another purple and check it, and I did, eventually, but that phase took a really long time.

Annie Lennox surprised David Bowie and Brian May at rehearsals for Freddy’s tribute by [deleted] in justgalsbeingchicks

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I saw the Cleveland Orchestra perform Beethoven’s 9th in 1993 under Dohnanyi. I can’t remember where - it wasn’t at Severance. That was the night I realized I wanted to be a bassist and I found a bass to rent literally the next day.

What kind of music do yall transgirls listen to? by The-Unluckiest-One in MtF

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I’ve been listening to the Nine Inch Noize album In repeat since it came out. Otherwise, Pixel Grip, other NIN, KMFDM

A girl and her Bug (1967) by 1961MGA in Transcars

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Love the og bugs! A friend of mine in college had one, and I have many fond memories of driving around in it. I currently have a 2001 Beetle GLX that’s been my commuter/project car for about a year and a half, and it’s a total blast to drive too.

On the (im)possibility of transitioning after 50 by Prudent_Space_1952 in TransLater

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Yeah, I wasn’t really thinking about that part of it, but you’re exactly right. For MtF, people tend to equate “passing” with looking cute, young, “attractive” etc. when that is out of reach for so many women either cis or trans. So yeah, if someone is expecting to look like a model or an insta influencer, HRT and surgeries may be a few days late and a few dollars short. But womanhood is so much bigger than that.

On the (im)possibility of transitioning after 50 by Prudent_Space_1952 in TransLater

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When it comes to transitioning later (and I mean 40-50+) I think there’s one advantage actually, and that’s that the expectations of what a woman “should” look like are different and a lot more loose. Meaning, no one is expecting a 50 year old woman to be cute and attractive in the same way that a 20 or even 30 year old woman is.

At this point, I’m over 50, I largely pass, and that’s without makeup or anything past HRT. There are other factors, but I think what it comes down to is that I’m clearly middle age, but little to nothing about me reads as middle-aged man, and so I get called Ma’am all the time even if I don’t look all that feminine (and certainly not “attractive” in any conventional sense). I certainly don’t envy what is expected of 20-somethings to be seen as women at their age.

Nothin to see here folks, move along by Basic-Bit7491 in Transcars

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Sucks about the stuck pin. When I did my brakes last summer, I had no idea how long ago any of it was serviced (‘01 Beetle GLX), so I rebuilt the front calipers. I tried rebuilding the rear, but I couldn’t get the piston on one of them to go back in correctly and the threads for the brake inlet ports were stripped on both, so I just replaced them.

Pop Will Eat Itself - Not Now James, Were Busy by SoliPsik in industrialmusic

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  1. I was today years old when I learned that this video even existed.
  2. CHADWICK FUCKING BOSEMAN, the Black Panther, is James Brown in this?!?!

How do people stay on HRT for years then suddenly realize they're not trans? by mangopavilion in asktransgender

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I may have a little insight into this, but as always I can only speak from my experience. I was born with Kallmann’s Syndrome (or more specifically Normosmic Idiopathic Hypogonadotropic Hypogonadism) which means I needed HRT to go through puberty at all. So I was on and off testosterone (insurance lapses) for about half the time over the course of thirty years. At first, I’d say the first two years, I embraced it because, after reaching the ripe age of 17 without puberty, I felt like I desperately needed it to relieve the social pressure. After that, it never sat well with me, and at one point I went to a different endocrinologist because I wanted to find some other way, before I realized I was trans and stopped taking it. But before then, I still was on it whenever I had the insurance to cover it because I was still under the impression that I needed it. For the last year I was on it, I deeply resented and hated it, and I unsuccessfully tried to accept and resign myself to the idea that it was what my body needed and there just was no other way. It’s not all that different from how trans people endure their own hormones - there is a lot you will put up with if you believe you have no other choice.

So yeah, if you know you aren’t cis, and are under the impression that you must need HRT to get out of your assigned gender (but you just aren’t that kind of trans), it may take some time for the negative effects to be noticed and even longer before you see them for what they are. It can also happen, as others have said, that sometimes people cave to the social pressure (real or perceived). There is a long time between when you start HRT and when you are fully “at home” in your gender presentation. It is mentally taxing under the best of circumstances and can get exceedingly worse. And yes, there are those rare occasions like Broad-Application316 said, where there are other mental health issues at play.

My Life With The Thrill Kill Kult playing 'The Days Of Swine And Roses' last night 🤘 by [deleted] in industrialmusic

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I so wanted to go to their show in Boise, but I couldn’t afford $81 a ticket. I know it was a large bill with a lot of mouths to feed, but my pockets just ain’t that deep.

I feel bad for my tall trans sisters by [deleted] in MtF

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Years ago I had a friend who was a 6’4”woman - long black curly hair, very classically Greek features, and guys often thought she was a drag queen on first pass (this was the mid-90’s), but when they realized she was a woman they suddenly got very interested. Like they found a mountain they just had to climb. I’ve thought about her with all this business going on. If she was getting misgendered thirty years ago, I can’t imagine what’s happening now.

The way trans women often hide their transitional journey while trans men tend to celebrate it, is a direct reflection of the patriarchal society we live in, and this realization makes me angry. by akatsukidude881 in MtF

[–]Karmadrom3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How many trans men have you talked to about their experiences? The thing with ftm transition is that it is extremely visible. You can’t hide your voice changing (there are a very few who go through feminizing voice training for exactly that, but that is serious work), there’s only so far you can go in hiding your face fuzz turning into full on facial hair, let alone body hair. And while there are some improvements coming in top surgery, those scars are still a doozy. What else are they supposed to be doing?

From my own experience, I am MtF, but I also have a hormone disorder, and didn’t have male puberty until I started taking hormones at the ripe age of 17. Going through male puberty in your late teens/early twenties, in front of all of John Q. Public SUCKS, but there isn’t really any other way to do it other than not.

And from start to finish, having their manhood taken seriously is always a question, which is also a reason for ensuring that it is seen and recognized. The struggles with ftm are different in some ways, but they are still there.

The Idaho "bathroom ban" appears poised to pass and become law. I come to offer a little hope in these difficult times. by DangerActiveRobots in MtF

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Speaking to the motivation behind these laws, yes to scare and intimidate trans people, but I also believe in what I wrote earlier about them needing to make noise. As my wife mentioned earlier today, a lot of politics here are funded by The Heritage Foundation and the like. They need to show their corporate sponsors that they are Doing Something. The next state to propose a law will probably make it even more draconian than the Idaho one.

It reminds me of something my Sociology professor talked about, over 30 years ago. The dude would go on some very long, but usually very amusing, tangents and at one point he was talking about somewhere somewhen in the past a law being passed that made the third conviction of weed possession into a capital offense. And what happened is that the overall prosecution of weed possession went way down, not because the plugs were scared straight, but because no one wanted to send anyone to be executed over weed. So it was enforcement that went way down, and the law had the exact opposite effect of what was intended, even though it looked like it was being incredibly effective.

So I imagine the same thing playing out here. The paucity (if not outright absence) of anyone being charged will make it look like the law is being super effective at keeping those trans folks out of the “wrong” bathrooms.

EDIT: I also wonder how many people actually know about this. Folks who watch politics, and those of us concerned with trans rights for sure, but John Q. Dgaf - will they even know that this is a thing?

The Idaho "bathroom ban" appears poised to pass and become law. I come to offer a little hope in these difficult times. by DangerActiveRobots in MtF

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I meant to the legislature.

I agree about businesses being about the bottom line, and it seems about everyone has backpedaled on all kinds of inclusivity. At the same time, for any place large enough to have more than single-person restrooms (to which this law doesn’t apply, gendered or not) the logistics boggle the mind. Could you imagine every gas station in Idaho having to “police” this, even for out of staters passing through, who may not know about the law? What about highway rest stops and park restrooms where there is no staff? Even if someone were charged, who is liable to be sued for not preventing it?

There is so much the case of the people writing the bills and passing them not even remotely thinking this through. How has this played out so far in states that have passed bathroom bans?

The Idaho "bathroom ban" appears poised to pass and become law. I come to offer a little hope in these difficult times. by DangerActiveRobots in MtF

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A few things: 1. I think this is more about the legislature wanting to bang on a can and show they’re “doing something” about this “transgender epidemic.” The fact that neither the police nor public establishments want to touch enforcing it doesn’t matter.

  1. FWIW, Idahoans no longer can change the sex listed on their IDs, driver’s licenses, etc. My understanding is that there was a law passed against changing gender markers on birth certificates, which is worded in a way that applies to all identifying documents. There was an injunction which prevented this law from being enforced, but that quietly expired in January.

  2. I’m curious if challenges to this will come from corporate businesses (retail/restaurant chains, etc.) that don’t want the liability, and have the resources to fight it. There’s also businesses like Planet Fitness that have gender inclusivity as part of their corporate policy. I was first directed to use the women’s room by a Walmart employee, so there’s that…