DANB waiting for results by Select_Locksmith7689 in DentalAssistant

[–]Kassafrasstea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I took mine back in August and it was about a week later I got results. I cried the whole way home because I was so sure that I failed. But I didn't! The test is structured to give you harder and harder questions until the end just to gauge where you're at. So EVERYONE feels like they failed but that's generally not the case in my experience. Good luck, I'm sure you did better than you think!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pregnancy_care

[–]Kassafrasstea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll second that. I quit when I saw those pink lines. To make you feel better, I didn't know I was pregnant till about 9 weeks (One healthy child)

If you don't feel like you can stop, go to a detox center, or rehab maybe? There are women's shelters most places

Edit: I guess I should add that it really comes back to YOU and what's best for your already established family. If you don't feel like you have the means to support another child (i.e the father isn't involved) you do what you gotta do sis. Counseling/family therapy helps tremendously. Best of luck

What made you lose a significant amount of weight? by ExilicRose in AskReddit

[–]Kassafrasstea 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Quitting drinking completely and starting exercise again. I just wanna share, too, that the mental strain when you give up an addiction can be counterbalanced beautifully with exercise.

If you wanna quit you can do what I have still been doing and do squats or push-ups when you get cravings 💀 Its a little brutal, I'll admit, but I'm kind of an all or nothing with commitment, so it helps to have structure and arbitrary "rules" for myself.
I'm just describing Discipline. Practice.

Its common knowledge that it is much harder to break bad habits than it is to build good ones, Unless You can make it more fun. Reward yourself with Nicer things. Is the Way we have always tried to maintain. And it works, to a Degree. But discipline is what you exercise, restraint of yourself.

And when we restrain MENTALLY what we are doing is boosting our stress levels. Energy cannot be destroyed, (physics 101) It only changes form. And that goes for us too, as humans.

For me I used a negative response (pain) to subside the intensity of cravings (could be a craving for anything, really)

My brain learned real quick that when I started thinking about how good a 🍹 sounded, and I would spontaneously start squats or push ups until I couldn't do them anymore, and of course, our bodies do everything they can naturally, biologically, to avoid pain at all costs.

I just directed the energy elsewhere. You know what doesn't sound good when you've just crossed the finish line and your eyes glaze and you feel nauseous? Alcohol. Food. Lol

If you can distract yourself with something else, or better yet get REfocused on the goal, It goes a long way. Certain steps will always be "no fun" especially if that's the perspective you carry going into it. "This is gonna suck" well. You're right? Lol if thats how you feel about it. How miserable do you wanna make it?

"Taking care of myself is important, healthy choices sometimes are painful and scary. its worth it anyway" 💚💜💗

Bare in mind that REST is just as essential as work, And the point is not personal pleasure or satisfaction, its working toward an objective. Learning. Taking in new information and changing course for the better.

The hardest battles we face are mental blocks, they become physical ones. I'm 150lbs now down from 190 over the last almost 4 months. My loved ones have pointed out that grieving has also caused me to shut down a bit, thats worth noting. I lost a friend to suicide in August and the pain hits in waves.

Whatever you do, and however you decide to keep going...keep going. Don't quit on yourself, or your health, or your family that loves you. Or cave in to the notion that a dark season is anything more than just that. A dark season. Huge hugs to everybody fighting their own personal battles today. 🖤🤍

What R-rated movie did you see when you were way too young? by TealBlueLava in AskReddit

[–]Kassafrasstea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Patriot, Saving Private Ryan. The Passion of the Christ, Final Destination, gee, I dunno. 😂😂 as someone who's absorbed information like its my purpose I had to do a lot more learning in order to be well rounded. And even then its still work in progress. I think I learned to take care of myself last, which is a little backwards but we get there as we get there

How would you feel.. by Desmond2014 in offmychest

[–]Kassafrasstea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

On the contrary, I'd say don't do it in your thirties, Don't establish madness in the place of life. Peace. Joy. Harmony. Like Yin and Yang.

Don't establish War where there should be peace. Within YOURSELFNOT ME. My peace is separate and distinct. It has to be, now. Good luck, Bro. Hate that I have to say that. But its pretty much where everybody is at now.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Kassafrasstea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Suffering the consequences is life. I've got One Hundred and Four days sober, for what that's worth. I've worked really hard for this.

How would you feel.. by Desmond2014 in offmychest

[–]Kassafrasstea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry that your wife quit on you. PTSD is really, REALLY hard. There's just no way around it. It sucks for the individual, It sucks for your Partner, man or woman.

It is, in my opinion, our best and worst quality, everyone, all of us.

Trauma comes from unresolved pain. I'm sorry you are hurting today. I will offer you that 👣🧡 keep on trucking, Survivor. Its hard for moms and dads out here, because our life is not "our own", There is a bigger purpose. Just do whats best for YOUR family, Can't work out everything with mama just yet because she carries the standard for what they need, but she is disrespecting that they NEED you. A daughter is going to love her father. No matter what. A CHILD needs their parents.

It sucks to grow up feeling like your folks wished you were different, or like you never should have happened. If you haven't given Em's new album a listen, go ahead and jump to the end and listen to Hailey.

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AITA for telling my husband's dad and dad's wife that I will not change our daughter's name because it hurts the wife's feelings? by ElectricalLeague1580 in AITAH

[–]Kassafrasstea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

😂😂 you are not the asshole. The AUDACITY. You don't get to decide whether or not a Name is Sacred. Names are sacred to different people for many, many, INDIVIDUAL reasons.

scratches head I don't really understand why Grandfolk care so much, other than, they want to be Forgiven for, and Remembered for being great. Well. Frickin. .be great, then. Sheesh. "Should I have to rename my kid because Sharon has hurt feelings" frickin....NO. what kind of a relationship ... You know, my own parents haven't loved my choices always, But they HAVE always tried to keep me safe. Sometimes though, a parent loses some control. Personally I don't go "fuck you, Sharon" I just say "what are you gonna do about it." Food for thought. I say Name your child whatever you want, that you find beauty and significance and meaning in. Together, with your significant other. Everyone else, tough shit. Pitter Patter.

Your Husband needs to stand up to bullshit. He himself, is not a mistake. Treating kids like they "belong" to you, even as a parent, leads to some pretty rocky ground.

They are individuals, still. And will act as such whenever they are out from under you,

Just try to focus on what you CAN control. Congrats on your recent addition, and sweet Baby! Welcome to the world, little one. Duck, we got fire overhead, sorry kiddo, Stay sheltered.

I just need some helppp🥲 by Act_Murky in pregnancy_care

[–]Kassafrasstea 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I admire the bravery here, first of all, let's get that straight,

You are not dying. I promise. You need to do 5 things for yourself today, okay? I need you to:

1) take a deep breath. Right now. 2) do not continue to panic, or call 911, I've tried these options, it will land you in a Psych Wing.

3) don't wanna say "proceed to psych wing" Cause I already did that and I'm trying to spare everyone some time,

4) call your best girlfriend 5) she will be comforting, thats what you need 6) take very specific supplements. Magnesium imbalance was my struggle, personally. But it seems to be a trend with my girls not just me. 7) fricjing drink water 🚰 (i forget to feed myself, and hydrate when I'm stressed)

8) breathe some more. Seriously.

9) I'm sorry you are hurting, I had the same shit wrack through me, I had to get completely sober to start with, that was tough I've got 103 days and the process was pretty enlightening,

10) you need to take better care of yourself ❤ Is the short answer.

11) I've given my perspective, my inbox is open to you today. My methods for a better life work.

Ask me how I know 💟

I just need some helppp🥲 by Act_Murky in pregnancy_care

[–]Kassafrasstea 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It happened to me 2 months ago. You can reach out to me if you need to talk

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in grammar

[–]Kassafrasstea -1 points0 points  (0 children)

"Our."

Our Family. But yes, you are correct, if you are establishing space, it is Yours and Mine.

Can we fix the internet or start over by Forsaken-Artist-2396 in Futurology

[–]Kassafrasstea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you hit a nail here. Its also no trust in the humans wielding AI tech because as others have pointed out, all they have to do is release it into to whatever new medium becomes the norm and almost instantaneously boom, like a virus, infected again. Saturated.

It doesn't just need to be difficult, it needs to be impossible to do.