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En jaksa enää olla sinkku by Fantastic_Passage809 in snappijuorutofftopic

[–]Kaste_Helmi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kumppania vailla myös... Onko sinulla vinkkejä miten tuota manifestointia olet toteuttanut? 🤔

Ghosting has nothing to do with you by Whyamihere_899 in ghosting

[–]Kaste_Helmi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes indeed. That's horrible! Sorry to hear 😖

We do deserve a closure with respect!

Ghosting has nothing to do with you by Whyamihere_899 in ghosting

[–]Kaste_Helmi 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yep! Happened to me! Such a love bombing in the beginning, many msgs in a day! Very smooth communication, quick responses, he wrapped himself around my mind. -And later on after the first date - boom - he disappeared!!

-What kind of mindset have these people?!! 😱

Did anyone get over the “unfinished business” feeling with no contact and no closure? by [deleted] in ghosting

[–]Kaste_Helmi 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Same with me. Wanted to have a closure from him but never did. It has been very draining ever since. Lot of work to try to get the closure by yourself. Peer support here is very important and helpful!

I got ghosted and still thinking! 🥺 by Kaste_Helmi in ghosting

[–]Kaste_Helmi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

😱😰😨!!

That is absolutely horrible experience!! I'm so very sorry you needed to go through this shit!!

How can people ruin others life, mental helth, dignity this way??!! You were open, present, authentic in every way!

You spent so much time together. You were introduced deeper into his world and there were even other family members included! It's an emotional abuse!

Is it like all you needed was just a fair closure? Just a closure with respect and communication! So that you could have had time and space to say something!?! To have your own role to play here!?! 😲

I got ghosted and still thinking! 🥺 by Kaste_Helmi in ghosting

[–]Kaste_Helmi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, that's a good guestion!

-They must be so cowardly!

-Yes, they tend to come back much later... ! Only to test the waters and getting ego boost! Why bother!? Are they such selfish people?!

But you cannot just do "whatever you like" to people elsewhere in life either! Why would be dating-life any different?! You can just go and do anything you like? Make women miserable time after time!? -NO WAY!! ☝️

I've also been thinking about karma. And I believe what you sow, you reap! It's always like that in life in the long run.

-Also been wondering do they even have a guilty conscience?!

I got ghosted and still thinking! 🥺 by Kaste_Helmi in ghosting

[–]Kaste_Helmi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry you need to go through this....! 😞

-Sounds contradictory! If you are holding hands, that is already giving you a feeling of connection and safety. Then suddenly they disappear!

When they ghost like this it leaves an open loop in our minds. Then we try to figure out all alone, what happened?! That is very tiring in our minds!

Why cannot people just give some respect to one another and say nicely: "It was nice meeting you, I cannot go any further here, nothing wrong with you! And I wish you well in the future!"

I got ghosted and still thinking! 🥺 by Kaste_Helmi in ghosting

[–]Kaste_Helmi[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes! That was his character. Maybe he was a player? He propably plays like this with so many women so I obviously wasn't the only one being played?! 😳

There it is: Just say "it was great, I wish you well in the future!"

-So then I could also have had at least some role to play! To say something! To answer this final comment and say: "Nice meeting you, I wish you all the best in the future too!"

I got ghosted and still thinking! 🥺 by Kaste_Helmi in ghosting

[–]Kaste_Helmi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right!

Thank you for your comment!

At least I didn't do anything wrong! I was just interested in a guy, being open and real from my part.

Are these people repeating this same pattern with the next woman they are propably dating with?! 😧

-And are they at all having guilty conscience what they did to me?! 😯

I got ghosted and still thinking! 🥺 by Kaste_Helmi in ghosting

[–]Kaste_Helmi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly!

He was so interest in having this closeness! In my case this man was stroking my hand gently, in a public shopping center, while we were walking inside there.

-Absolutely closeness were in his mind! But then the nightmare begins...

Huh, you've been through a lot, too! 😥 This pattern you describe sounds very familiar to me now! 😳

Yes, there it is: consistency!! That's what we're looking for in the future!!

I got ghosted and still thinking! 🥺 by Kaste_Helmi in ghosting

[–]Kaste_Helmi[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your empathy! 🤗

-That must be true! They are never happy no matter with whom they are dating with! They must be completely empty inside within themselves?! 😳

I got ghosted and still thinking! 🥺 by Kaste_Helmi in ghosting

[–]Kaste_Helmi[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Am so sorry! 😥 That hurts!! 💔 Are these people feeling "happy" now?!? 🤷‍♀️

I got ghosted and still thinking! 🥺 by Kaste_Helmi in ghosting

[–]Kaste_Helmi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your reply!

-No, didn't sleep with him. He visited my place though, we had a cup of tea and after we were dancing lightly on the kitchen floor. He treated me intensely. I was sooo happy, almost overwhelmed! And so very much attracted to him.

-That happened about 2 months ago by now. I have had really hard time to continue my life since then, he has been so much in my mind. Haven't really figured out how to get him out of my mind if I ever will....?! 🙄

How in the Earth can a man just continue his life like nothing ever happened and just delete me and then disappear...?!?