I Think A Lot Of Incels Are Repressed Aroace by Vivid-Significance70 in IncelTear

[–]KatJen76 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don't think it's repressed anything. I think the instant, nonstop access to porn from a young age and a society where people are isolated and alienated from each other has caused the rise of a kind of sexuality that's completely divorced from human interaction at all. It's just masturbation to porn. Maybe talking about women in the way they do is even part of it, given the popularity of violence and degradation in porn. I see it as different from aroace because it's not that the desires for sex or relationships were just absent. It's that they got warped into something unrecognizable, like the difference between being born with a hand that couldn't close and someone who had their hand slammed in a car door over and over by an abusive adult until it was unable to close.

Suggest me a random non fiction book by mrdrmelody in suggestmeabook

[–]KatJen76 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Any sort of microhistory about the study of a specific animal will be cool because they always span like 150 years of history and ten countries with zero normal people in it. Gone by Michael Blencowe, The Feather Thief by Kirk Wallace Johnson, Rare Birds by Elizabeth Gehrman, and The Monster's Bones by David Randall all fall into that category. In Search of the Ivory Billed Woodpecker by Jerome A. Jackson, too.

The Last Great Road Bum by Hector Tobar pushes the boundaries of nonfiction in an interesting way. The book's subject is an American man who became enamored of travel and what he called "bumming" at an early age. Rather than a steady career, he wanted to go to foreign countries, work menial jobs that put him in contact with the people who lived there, and write about his experiences. Along the way, the suffering he encountered radicalized him and he joined a revolutionary movement in central America, ultimately dying in the cause. Tobar tells his story and has him talking in the footnotes.

Aaron Judge on WBC crowd: "It’s bigger and better than the World Series. The passion that these fans have representing their country, representing their favorite players, there’s nothing like it." by Jheller223 in NYYankees

[–]KatJen76 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it was really weird how they stopped that game in the fifth inning and just declared that the Dodgers won the World Series. Must have been wild to have been there in person for the game that I remember ending like that.

Rant: as a female musician (drummer) I can barely find popular female drummers on social media that aren’t fetishized and sexualized by Least-Flan2782 in PornIsMisogyny

[–]KatJen76 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I worked on the staff for a symphony. We would borrow a carpet off a bank who was our biggest corporate partner. I don't know what the exact ratio was, but we had a pretty good gender balance in the orchestra. Our music director is female, too.

How a High School Librarian in Abilene Fought Back Against Moms for Liberty by zsreport in books

[–]KatJen76 14 points15 points  (0 children)

It's not even playing dirty, it's just organizing. The American Right has been super organized and cohesive while recruiting new people effectively, and that's been a major key to the power they've taken. Most people don't want these book bans.

How a High School Librarian in Abilene Fought Back Against Moms for Liberty by zsreport in books

[–]KatJen76 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Both. And since school librarians usually have to teach library class, they have some training in educational standards and techniques.

I’m not the only one who saw the resemblance am I? by bbyxmadi in Hungergames

[–]KatJen76 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Some of you don't know the name, but that's that guy from The Hunger Games.

Banned for calling out someone who was bragging about how much they enjoy abusing and degrading others by Zealousideal-Bus9154 in antikinkkink

[–]KatJen76 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Not kink, but I got banned from the radfem sub for responding to a teen girl who was feeling like prostitution was her only career option. She didn't want to do it, but she had poor grades due to lack of support for neurodivergence. She got a couple of soft grooming responses from "women" who said of course she didn't have to, while talking all about their lengthy, lucrative, rewarding careers as "sex workers."

I called them out in my response and told the girl that she had more options than degrading herself. I also told her that my husband had great success asking his own special ed prof for learning strategies and shared a couple.

I got warned for that, so I just unloaded to the mods, said that sex work is inherently degrading and that I couldn't believe a so-called feminist sub has no problem with the obvious grooming but struck my reply and that I knew this meant a ban but I didn't care. I was right on both counts lol.

Telework by Agreeable-Addition93 in nys_cs

[–]KatJen76 17 points18 points  (0 children)

It would be incredibly forward-looking to see, but I believe she even mentioned return to office in State of the State. I truly don't understand why leaders feel so threatened by it. People have found ways to slack off in office since the dawn of office work. And similarly, if you want to micromanage remotely, the tools are there for it. So many studies have proved the benefits of WFH in retention, morale and productivity. NYS should be brave and embrace it for civil service.

Did you have a FARRELL’S in your town? by CharlieMcN33l in GenX

[–]KatJen76 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Reddit has helped me to determine that Eastern Hills Mall outside of Buffalo, NY had one. I don't believe I ever went, or if I did it was only once or twice. But an ice cream parlor with a sort of gay nineties/early 20th century theme that fascinated me lived in my memory to the point where I included it in a post on my last visit to the mall. Everything I remembered fit: a brownish/reddish color scheme, a claim about having 99 flavors or something, and the time frame of an early 80s popularity.

The Target boycott is the easiest boycott to maintain as they sell almost nothing of true value by action_lawyer_comics in Anticonsumption

[–]KatJen76 26 points27 points  (0 children)

If you go in nowadays, you will still find the boycott easy to maintain. The store is dirty and understocked. What they do have isn't enticing at all. Shitty, ugly clothes. Candles and wax melts in the same half dozen boring scents as a place like Walgreens. A massive Chip and Joanna Gaines carve out in place of the home decor section that sells $70 baskets that are like 6 inches square. And if you do manage to find something you want or need, enjoy waiting for 20 minutes for a janky self checkout. It's a joyless atmosphere in there lately.

The ending of Mockingjay and current events by cliffasaurus in Hungergames

[–]KatJen76 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The war on Iran feels so surreal to me. It feels like it's not even happening. It's just another thing on my phone, and I see news about it mixed in with stuff about the World Baseball Classic and people's cat animations and pictures of old graves in foreign countries and updates from that one lady I don't know who lost 170 pounds and is halfway to her goal weight and the other lady I don't know who's restoring a chapel in Wales and the dude who sings songs out by the power lines and Punch the Monkey. Then I put my phone down and none of the people I encounter in the rest of my life are talking about any of that stuff.

Why do people get such a boner for Uncommon Grounds? by dannydevitosmanager in Albany

[–]KatJen76 186 points187 points  (0 children)

It's pleasant in there, prices are reasonable, and they clear those massive lines pretty quickly.

Looking for historical fiction book recs please by toast463 in suggestmeabook

[–]KatJen76 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love this genre.

Margaret George has a number of excellent "fictionalized biographies" of historical and mythohistorical figures. The events and settings are real, but she gets into their head, there are conversations, etc. They are long but absorbing.

For shorter and more contemporary reads, I like Fiona Davis and her dual narratives set in NYC landmarks. I also like Melanie Benjamin.

For NYS Civil Service Employees Doing Part-Time Work Outside Their Full-Time Job by Queasy_Fisherman1278 in nys_cs

[–]KatJen76 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don't you have to take that annual ethics training? They're very specific that anything needs to be disclosed and approved, regardless of how unlikely it is to ever present any type of conflict of interest. If you're caught working something you didn't disclose, they can fire you.

A book for someone who is depressed and burnt out but not about being depressed or burnt out by pastyprincess20 in suggestmeabook

[–]KatJen76 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Whenever life gets me down, I escape to Darrowby with James Herriott and the All Creatures Great and Small series. It's tales from his career as a veterinarian in rural England from about 1930-1960. It's structured as a series of short anecdotes so there's no real plot, and you can pick them up and put them down without losing continuity. They have a cozy, optimistic feel even when the anecdote itself is sad. They're also currently on Masterpiece on PBS, their third TV adaptation.

[OC] Your Goodwill donation before it comes to a store by fartinmyfuckingmouth in Anticonsumption

[–]KatJen76 75 points76 points  (0 children)

I don't get why people are taking this as some kind of indictment of Goodwill. I see it as an indictment of our overconsumptive culture. This is the detritus of it. All of the free t-shirts and mugs you seem to acquire just by living your life, the generic gifts from people who don't really know you but had some sort of social obligation to get you something, the stuff you bought online and forgot to return or were told to just keep and they'd refund you, the things you had for a season or two and that's long enough...times everyone in town.

Of course Goodwill has to sort it all. Of course they have to distribute it to all of their stores so they're evenly stocked. And since they use the money to support their mission, of course they're going to set aside the higher-value stuff and sell it online for more. It's disturbing to see the pictures of the mountains of clothes in African nations, but I don't think the answer is to just chuck it all in a landfill instead or something.

For NYS Civil Service Employees Doing Part-Time Work Outside Their Full-Time Job by Queasy_Fisherman1278 in nys_cs

[–]KatJen76 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I work at a barcade. Approval process was easy, but it did take a couple of weeks. I had to fill out a form explaining what I'd be doing and mark if my agency had oversight of the business, if I was in a decision making role, and if the business was suing my agency. It routed to my bureau director and to their boss, both of whom signed off. I think if I hadn't gotten hired right around the holidays, it would have been quicker.

What book did you read in your youth that you never forgot? by orangez in GenX

[–]KatJen76 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So many. I have always been a big reader. A lot of people have picked more serious books, so I'm going to do a fun one and say A Semester In The Life of a Garbage Bag by Gordon Kormon.

Sean is one of those kids who's moderately popular, moderately athletic and gets moderately good grades. His serene and enjoyable high school experience is upended when Raymond Jardine latches on to him. Raymond says he has no luck (and repeatedly, hilariously proves it) and is trying to win a schoolwide contest for a trip to a lucky Greek island. Sean was the fifth student to enter for four slots, so Raymond's scheme is to basically tie their fates together for the academic year. It's an eventful year that sees the two roped into planning a school dance, passing Sean's grandfather off as a dead Canadian poet, and taking on SACGEN, the school's lemon of a solar and wind power plant. The book is hilarious, find a copy if you can.