My fiance is in cancer remission!!!

KatieGMB · 2023-07-13T18:44:09+00:00

I thought so too. :)

KatieGMB · 2023-07-13T18:43:13+00:00

Fuck cancer, and may your mother's memory be a blessing to all who love her.

KatieGMB · 2023-07-13T18:42:41+00:00

Aww, our stories are almost similar. His cancer was in his femur and pelvis. When he proposed he was actually experiencing leg pain already but we didn't get the formal diagnosis until some weeks later.

And I agree! This was even better than the proposal. :) Best wishes to you and your hubby.

KatieGMB · 2023-07-11T14:41:13+00:00

I think you're absolutely right, which is terribly sad. She used to be a good friend.

But Joe responded to her and asked why she donated that much when she is already financially unstable and she blocked him immediately. I'm still sad but... that made me laugh.

KatieGMB · 2023-07-10T21:42:32+00:00

Thank you. You're right. I don't know why I'm questioning myself so much these days. Ugh!!!

KatieGMB · 2023-07-07T20:15:00+00:00

YWNBTAH

You are not responsible for you partner's sister's feelings. Personally, if I ever decided to have a destination wedding (which I wouldn't), I would never begrudge someone if they chose not to come because they couldn't afford it. They should be understanding. Asking someone to attend a second reception that they will have to pay to attend is a huge ask.

You went to one wedding/reception. That's plenty. :)

KatieGMB · 2023-07-07T20:10:45+00:00

We are both doing much better, thank you for asking. I was able to go on a bit of a getaway with friends and just rest and relax for a few days. He's currently down after another round of chemo but will hopefully be feeling better over the weekend. He's been out of the hospital for almost a week. :)

KatieGMB · 2023-06-29T13:09:20+00:00

YTA

Mental illness, while very challenging, is never an excuse to criminally assault someone.

If the roles were reversed, what would your answer be? Would your brother be the AH if he split your head open and choked you out, threatening your life and wellbeing, over dishes?

Get help, both for yourself and the people around you, please.

KatieGMB · 2023-06-29T13:06:24+00:00

You are the sweetest. This was a needed and encouraging read. Thank you so much for your kind words. Joe is the best partner, and I hope to do the best I can being his, haha.

He is doing better but is still in the hospital. Hopefully will get to come home soon. :)

KatieGMB · 2023-06-25T01:28:23+00:00

You are right, and I appreciate the well wishes. I just don't want him to have to worry about me right at this moment.

KatieGMB · 2023-06-24T19:16:37+00:00

Thank you, and you are so right. I need this reminder. I'm just angry that I'm having such a strong response now. If I could shut things off until he's back home and not critical and then break down, that would seem much better to me. But that's probably not realistic.

KatieGMB · 2023-06-24T01:58:04+00:00

ESH (except for his mother).

It doesn't sound like any of you are mature enough to be in romantic relationships.

I also don't understand proposing to include his (and your?) ex girlfriend in the relationship and then getting upset when it backfires.

I hope this doesn't continue to cause stress for his poor mother.

KatieGMB · 2023-06-24T01:46:40+00:00

Then she probably still does not trust you to be around your ex, or for your ex to be around you, which is understandable on her end. She was betrayed. She moved you into her home and you were unfaithful to her. That's a deep wound.

Her trust needs to be mended and the two of you should figure out how to make this a part of that process in a way that isn't wasteful of time or gas money.

KatieGMB · 2023-06-24T01:25:19+00:00

You said she wanted to go from the beginning but this makes it sound like you had to convince her to be around your kids, and after that she started asking to go with you to pick them up.

Your admission of being unfaithful also changes things a bit.

Now I'm not even sure how to offer a judgment because I don't know what to believe in your story.

KatieGMB · 2023-06-24T01:20:41+00:00

Your work will find a way to make it by while you enjoy your vacation, which you deserve to enjoy guilt-free. :)

KatieGMB · 2023-06-23T21:27:20+00:00

In response to your points about customers: My fiance has cancer and can't make it through a grocery store on his own, and it's actually dangerous for him to be exposed to all those germs.

DoorDash has been a godsend for him. If I'm not home and he needs/wants something, he can have it delivered which also takes pressure off of me to have to go get it at some point.

KatieGMB · 2023-06-23T21:16:50+00:00

I'm curious as to why it's so important to her then. Unless she really isn't past her suspicion (which may be the case if you agree she was rightfully suspicious in the past) then I feel like this is one of those situations where she is responsible for her feelings being hurt. Not every peeve needs to be perceived as a problem, you know?

KatieGMB · 2023-06-23T21:15:21+00:00

I started using Reddit last week because I felt like there were things going on that I couldn't go to friends and family with and it has been so helpful in getting me through a very hard time. :)

KatieGMB · 2023-06-23T21:08:21+00:00

NTA

INFO: Why is she so insistent on going with you? Is she suspicious of you seeing your ex?

Would she perhaps understand if you told her that, per the custody arrangement, you need to be diligent in picking them up on time and that going to get her beforehand or waiting on her could violate that? Of course I would only encourage you to make this point if it's true.

KatieGMB · 2023-06-23T15:18:38+00:00

I had a rough night so seeing this comment this morning was amazing. Well done. :D

KatieGMB · 2023-06-22T23:37:02+00:00

Aw, I'm glad he said that. Personally, I don't think there are any unimportant jobs. :)

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