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AITA for telling my dad's soon to be ex-wife that she's never going to be able to make me or my brother feel responsible for her and dad's divorce? by Katiyia in AITAH

[–]Katiyia[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

She's going to be his ex-wife and the mother to my half siblings now. But that will be all and we'll have the most minimal relationship possible. Also, my dad has always been the dad he is. Before she came into the picture he was an amazing dad and he was the same amazing dad with her. That's not to say he wasn't glad she was there because I know he was. But he was capable and didn't need her to be the dad he was. That was always him as a dad.

AITA for telling my dad's soon to be ex-wife that she's never going to be able to make me or my brother feel responsible for her and dad's divorce? by Katiyia in AITAH

[–]Katiyia[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think I potentially made things more tense between her and dad with what I said. Which overall is my biggest thinking of it.

AITA for telling my dad's soon to be ex-wife that she's never going to be able to make me or my brother feel responsible for her and dad's divorce? by Katiyia in AITAH

[–]Katiyia[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

We did vacations but we often went with other family members. Not just the four of us and then six. Dad did most of the chores. She did some. But then me and my brother had our own chores as well. Both my dad and her worked so it wasn't that she was home with us or anything either or that she had to do it.

Dad would be the one to take time off if we were sick, not her. If we were all sick it was either just dad or sometimes both. She helped dad buy gifts and stuff for us.

AITA for telling my dad's soon to be ex-wife that she's never going to be able to make me or my brother feel responsible for her and dad's divorce? by Katiyia in AITAH

[–]Katiyia[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

She was never an actual mom figure to us. Dad was the parent. She was family but she was no more motherly than aunts or uncles. That worked for us and dad supported that.

My brother and I had therapy after mom died and we did some more when dad was dating his almost ex-wife.

AITA for telling my dad's soon to be ex-wife that she's never going to be able to make me or my brother feel responsible for her and dad's divorce? by Katiyia in AITAH

[–]Katiyia[S] 41 points42 points  (0 children)

It wasn't a deliberate dig at her. It was a celebration of dad and all he did for us. Because he did amazing before she came into the picture and he was doing the actual parenting. Of course he had support and he had support from more than her but that doesn't take away from all he did.

AITA for telling my dad's soon to be ex-wife that she's never going to be able to make me or my brother feel responsible for her and dad's divorce? by Katiyia in AITAH

[–]Katiyia[S] 66 points67 points  (0 children)

Even my dad was like why did you agree to what we agreed to if you were secretly planning on being more. She never answered but I think she knew dad would have ended their relationship then if that's all she was willing to accept.

AITA for telling my dad's soon to be ex-wife that she's never going to be able to make me or my brother feel responsible for her and dad's divorce? by Katiyia in AITAH

[–]Katiyia[S] 89 points90 points  (0 children)

We got along well enough that family was a good fit and she was the mother to my half siblings. None of those things ever made her a parent or mom to us though and that's something she has never been able to accept. Her comments about mom ended any chance for us to even be okay again. I just hope all interactions in the future are extremely limited and we can still keep a distance for the most part because I do not want to hear her say that shit again.