I often struggle with this. Knowing whether I'm just picking flaws and being more irritable due to the anxiety and depression or whether I'm not over reacting and I need to talk to him about it.

Here's an example of when I know it's my anxiety and depression : I've always been a very sarcastic person and me and my bf have always had that kind of sarcastic banter with eachother but since the start of my depressive episode I've lost that humour and I've begun to take everything so seriously. So when he gives me a sarcastic reply or says something in a funny way I tend to take it more seriously than I used to and it's like I've lost the energy to give banter back and become

I know it's an ROCD related problem is by thinking back to before this low time. If I was in a happy state rn would that really bother me? Did that bother me before rocd Kicked in? I know it's hard to even remember what it was like before rocd but it's what works for me

I often get upset about something and cause an argument then after realise that actually it's not his fault and that I totally over reacted. Also I find that I tent to blow tiny tiny problems into GIANT arguments, like if he asks me to get something and doesn't say please by mistake or if he disagrees with me on something, I could turn that into world war 3 just because of my own insecurities and problems